March 2013 babies - we all have our beautiful babies :)

[sethsmummy]

yep Ethan is the same. if he can see one of us he is all good but if he cant see us because we are in another room or out of his line of sight then he starts to cry.

hope everyone had a good day. I had DS1 upto hospital earlier, he has bad gastroenteritis. on the sofa with him just now as hes soaked his bed with sick poor mite. I have never felt so scared and helpless as i did today listening to him scream in pain and flop to the floor with each stomach cramp. Im really hoping he is better in the morning xx

 

[rose.]

Hi everyone! Alfie has literally just started to be aware when I am not there - on Saturday my parents came round and I handed Alfie to my dad, his face crumpled and after about 30 secs he started to cry! He has never done it before. As soon as I took him back he was happy. I then tried giving him to mum (who sees him almost every weekday) and he did the same!! Very odd. He was very clingy all day though, fought sleep so hardly napped, and wanted me to cuddle him constantly. Later in the day he did have a cuddle with his grandma but kept looking to check I was there!! So sweet. Yesterday he had a cuddle with his aunty without a problem so I'm guessing it was just an odd day.

We had our family photos done yesterday and we get to see them on Thursday! I can't wait I have 5 included in a package I got for my birthday but will probably end up buying them all!! We spent the afternoon with Alfie's cousins and SIL and BIL, had a great time and Alfie was perfect all day - makes up for Saturday!! He had a huge meltdown Saturday night, for no apparent reason - nearly gave him calpol but once he had his bath w was ok and fed quietly. I hate hearing him scream and seeing him with real tears

 

[rose.]

Seths mummy hope Seth recovers quickly that sounds nasty! Lots of cuddles are needed by the sounds of it!

 

[sportysgirl]

Seths mummy I hope seth is feeling better soon.

Rose, Alfies pictures is so cute isn't he growing up!

Poppy did not want to sleep last night or be put down. Finally went to sleep at about 4. Woke again at 7. It would be when hubby is away. Tired.com.

 

[AmyB1978]

Sethsmummy, I hope Seth is feeling better straight away and that nobody else catches it. Big to you!

Poppy, I hope you manage to get some sleep. (Lol, or rather sporty... But I guess poppy has to sleep for sporty to sleep!)

Rose, it kind of makes you feel good when they need/want you, doesn't it?

 

[rose.]

Sportysgirl, hope you get some sleep today/tonight you must be exhausted! We had a night like that wen we first bought Alfie home and it was horrendous! Hope it's just a one off.

Yeah Amy it does! As long as I haven't got anything else that urgently needs doing!! It's a good excuse to get hubby to wash up

 

[sethsmummy]

sporty i hope you manage to get some sleep in today or a real good night tonight.

Thanks ladies.. seth was up most of the night vomitting but finally stopped at 5am. hes very sleepy so far today but only had 1 bad stomach cramp since 5am, were just tackling the fever now. Poor boy is so miserable and shaking like a leaf. I have my fingers crossed that hes well enough to try eating later and that Ethan doesnt catch it too. that would be a nightmare xx

 

[rose.]

Oh bless him! Yes I hope Ethan doesn't get it too, or you!

 

[skeet9924]

Seth- hope Seth feels better soon
Sporty- hope you got some sleep

I'm glad all of you have experienced it with your lo..,my mil told me it was too early and am imagining it.

Carson has been sleeping so good.. For the past 3 nights he has slept from 9:45-9 an with one very quick feed at 5.. He had one night before this new stretch that he slept from 10-7 without waking.. It's so strange to wake up before my baby and have to wait for him to get up.. He doesn't really wake up crying anymore either.. Usually just lays there making noises

 

[rose.]

Wow skeet sounds fantastic! Alfie is going down at 9.30 at the moment and still waking at 3, 6 and then 9. I wish he would sleep through again!

I feel stupid saying this but I am wondering whether Alfie might be teething. He has been quite clingy the last few days and is constantly chewing his arm/hand. The only thing that would console him on Saturday night was chewing on my husbands finger! Today he feels quite warm and he has had red cheeks for the last few days. It seems ridiculous at his age but SIL told me that her sons teeth came through at 3 months. So it's got me wondering whether that's what it is. He is also not smiling as much as he was. Does anyone know of any babies teething this young?!

 

[Kte]

Rose - Chloe had a tooth at 3 months, no one would believe me for ages either, it takes them a while to come through but you should be able to see a white spot under his gum where it is trying to come through eventually before it does.

Seth'sMummy: hope Seth feel better soon, glad he is on the mend

 

[Amy_T]

It's possible rose, my eldest was less than 4 months when her first teeth came through... And often the teething process (dribbling, biting etc) starts long before you actually see any teeth!

 

[AmyB1978]

Rose, I have no idea but have wondered the same thing... Time will tell, I guess!

 

[rose.]

Thanks kte and Amy, I will look out for a white spot!

AmyB, yes hopefully we will know soon!

Alfie fell asleep at 9.15 so I've put him up in his cot and come downstairs with the baby monitor for the first time. He stirred and woke up and cried about 20 mins ago so I went up and fed him a bit more and he's asleep again. It was nice to be able to come down and finish the washing up, but I miss him! It's horrid being in a different room the baby monitor is good and I can hear every little movement but I still feel nervous with him being upstairs on his own!!

 

[baby_maybe]

rose. Ruben has been upstairs at bedtime now for about 2 weeks, I bring the monitor down and turn it up so I can hear every breath lol! DH mentioned the other day about maybe moving him to his nursery, but I don't think I'm ready just yet.

 

[rose.]

Ahh! I can't even think of that yet. One step at a time... Lol! Would be scary being in a different room. Although I guess baby monitors pick up just as much as we would in our sleep.

I've got a bit of a dilemma girls .. My mum comes round most days for a couple of hours in the afternoon. I like her coming because she helps me catch up on housework and gives me a bit of company. However DH has been complaining that he doesn't like it when she's there when he gets home as all he wants to do is see me and Alfie. But all he does in the evenings is sit on YouTube or eBay! So I've said to him that I like my mums company and its not like he misses out as she is here - she doesn't stay long once he's home (most days she is gone by then) but I can't help it if he ends up coming home early, plus if he really wants to spend time with us why does he sit on the iPad all night! He said tonight that Alfie doesn't even know him but mum sees him all the time, this broke my heart a bit as of course Alfie knows him, he loves him to bits and is always happy when he gets home! What should I do?! I don't want to upset my mum but I don't want DH to feel that way. He sees my mum as interfering but I really appreciate her help. Also she buys Alfie lots of clothes as she loves buying things, DH also thinks this is interfering but I've said to him that if he wants to buy something for Alfie then he should buy it! Also he never wants Togo to mothercare etc so I don't see what the problem is!

Such a hard situation. What would you do?

 

[skeet9924]

rose-I would let your dh know how much you like the help, but you do also have to respect his privacy too..maybe you can work out with dh one or 2 days that your mom comes.

rose and baby- Carson sleeps up in our room in the bassinet a lot on his own. He has atleast 2 2hr naps a day in there an he usually goes to bed around 10 and I dont go until 11. I'm thinking in the next week I'm going to start putting him in his crib in his own room for naps..but I'm not ready to have him there over night yet

 

[sethsmummy]

Rose if it weremy dh id tell him to suck it up and get over himself. Amd id probably tell jim that its his own fault for sitting on the internet all the time instead of spending time with his son. But thats just me. Sounds like you really enjoy your mum being there and like you say most days she is gone before he gets home. Sounds like a bit of jelousy on his part but instead of sitting onthe internet he could have bonding time before bed. He could do alfies bedtime routine at least as special daddy time. I know a lot of dads who work who actually do that and thats their part of he day to help them bond.


Thanks all for the well wishes. I had to call an ambulance for seth today. He was hallucinating due to his fever. Is was so terrified and so was he , I panicked. He didnt know who I was and was terrified. I have literallly never been so scared in my life. Je was very lathargic afterwardsand cold and clammy. He was just limp on me all the way to hospital and didnt really move for a good hour and a half after getting to hospital. I was so annoyed though, stuck I a and e for 3 hours and not once did someone offer to bring him some water or get him something to eat. Thankfully at 7 we got upto the peads ward and he got juice but then he had 5 people wanting to poke and prod him and all he wanted to do was sleep. We finally got home at 11pmish and he's been asleep since apart from getting up for a bottle. So far so good and its stayed down. Seehow he is today, hopefully that was the worst of it!

 

[AmyB1978]

Sethsmum, how terrifying! I hope he starts to recover soon!

Rose, I agree about maybe having your Mom only come a few days a week or making sure se is gone, or leaves, once DH ges home... Other than maybe once a week.

Skeet, baby. Rose... Emily sleeps (when she does nap) during the day either in our bedroom in her bassinet or upstairs in her crib. At night I put her den in her bassinet alone until I go to bed but our bedroom is really close by. We are flying to visit my family in a month and I figure I will try to transition her to her crib at night once we get back home, but her bedroom is upstairs and our's down so its going to be a huge change, definitely not ready yet!

Speaking of travel, MrsC, how did your trip go?

 

[Kte]

Ahh! I can't even think of that yet. One step at a time... Lol! Would be scary being in a different room. Although I guess baby monitors pick up just as much as we would in our sleep.

I've got a bit of a dilemma girls .. My mum comes round most days for a couple of hours in the afternoon. I like her coming because she helps me catch up on housework and gives me a bit of company. However DH has been complaining that he doesn't like it when she's there when he gets home as all he wants to do is see me and Alfie. But all he does in the evenings is sit on YouTube or eBay! So I've said to him that I like my mums company and its not like he misses out as she is here - she doesn't stay long once he's home (most days she is gone by then) but I can't help it if he ends up coming home early, plus if he really wants to spend time with us why does he sit on the iPad all night! He said tonight that Alfie doesn't even know him but mum sees him all the time, this broke my heart a bit as of course Alfie knows him, he loves him to bits and is always happy when he gets home! What should I do?! I don't want to upset my mum but I don't want DH to feel that way. He sees my mum as interfering but I really appreciate her help. Also she buys Alfie lots of clothes as she loves buying things, DH also thinks this is interfering but I've said to him that if he wants to buy something for Alfie then he should buy it! Also he never wants Togo to mothercare etc so I don't see what the problem is!

Such a hard situation. What would you do?

That's his main problem, he feels replaced. Oh Men and their feelings, don't get me wrong they are entitled to them but they just get so annoying, they can't see the bigger picture. Sorry, I get mad when they want to stop you from doing something as it 'upsets them' - so it's now okay for you to be upset because you won't be able to hang out with your Mum and he will just use his computer and ignore you.

Honestly I would talk again with OH and say that you will sort something out with your Mum but he has to stop going on his computer etc all the time (I'm not saying stop completely) so you can all spend time together. Say that if he doesn't then your Mum will start staying and coming around like she does now. Also, he needs to let you know he is coming home early, how awkward for your Mum to just have to get up and leave, it would be a horrible atmosphere.

Your OH needs to compromise with you.

I would tell your Mum your OH is feeling 'delicate' right now, many not that word but just be honest and explain with her that he is feeling that he wants a bit more family time just the 3 of you and maybe ask or sort a plan out with her for her to just be less around for a week or so. Not completely gone, just less so - basically until your OH gets over the phase he is going through and feels better.

Plus I agree with Sethsmummy, he needs some set Daddy time.

I think we need antenatal classes on how to cope with OH's emotions afterwards, they never tell you how funny men can get.