March/April BFP's who's going for it!! NEW LADIES COME JOIN IN!!

[Starry Night]

Pink - that sleeper is darling! My dh is a big comic book fan so he's love something like that for a baby. I'm glad your mom got it for you when you wanted it so much.

Kat - sorry that you've had a setback. Is it only for the one cycle that you have to be on the pill?

never - aw, that's so funny that you're feeling broody already. I think that happens to a lot of mamas. I got that away around 3 months after my son's birth too. Then I quickly changed my mind when I got a pregnancy 'scare'. Having babies 12 months apart was very intimidating to me. LOL I'd also love twins. I love the idea of one boy and one girl. Those sets of twins seem so adorable to me. I think losing my son's twin made me want them all the more though the amount of work needed to have twins and another child scares me.

afm - another darn pregnancy announcement on FB today complete with photo of the positive pregnancy test. Lucky girl that she thinks a positive test means a living baby will come out of it. She has 2 kids already. Not feeling super sad but definitely letting out lots of little sighs. Just feeling resigned that I can't be a part of that blissfully ignorant world of care-free pregnancies.

 

[Kat S]

Starry, oh that's hard. I hate seeing those announcements and feeling left behind AGAIN. *hug*

Yeah, just the one cycle so my cysts dissipate. I can try again in August.

 

[ESwemba84]

Stupid FB announcements. Had one yesterday. It just rips my heart right out and stomps on it a little. I announced at 8 weeks last time, and when it happens again I'm literally waiting until after the gender scan.

 

[nevergivingup]

Sorry Kat S: ab the cyst and having to wait. But it's good to know that you can fix a problem that could be a bigger problem later on. We're still be here waiting on ya, I'm def not going anywhere.

Pinkcasi: Tyler is doing so much better, he is rotten but he's my rotten baby My family says i got him too spoiled But who else suppose to love him like i do. so yes if loving him is called spoiled then im spoiling him rotten. You def have nothing to worry ab your LO is going to make your world alright even with all the colic and sleepless nights, just looking at them knowing you're their protector makes everything ok with the world. Just focus on this one for now but I'm sure in 3-4 months after your LO is born I'm going to hear that Pinkcasi is Broody again and I will be here broody right with you, I love that outfit. Totally cute!!

Mamatex: Most of the time he woke up on his own but if not I didn't wake him I just got up and pumped my milk out and refrigerated it. Bc he didn't eat that much I had freezer full and refrigerater full of milk bc my supply was very much flowing. 38 Weeks!!! You def can go any day now!! And why does popcorn night sound like "a way to help with inducing(DTD)"! If not then that's just my broody mind as always!!!

Starry: That's exactly why I'm twin crazy bc I lost one, and already planned my life out with both if them That I want s/he back but now along with another baby! I'm researching on how I can get my twins...... (This lady is def a Crazy) I guess I'll learn my lesson one day!!

Garfie: Sorry ab the BFN. I'm always hoping for you!! I know those boys are keeping u busy now.

Eyemom: sorry ab the setback but its one step closer to your BFP if you think about it. Don't lose hope.

Hi BAMAGURL!!!!

Eswemba: I'm not on FB bc it's really annoying, all my friends have 2+ babies and I just have 1, I still feel left behind but theirs were "Oopsies, I really don't want to be pregnant" but I know how u feel, after 3 losses, I let everyone figure out on their own, some didn't know until I was 16 wks. Some people ask me in first tri, and I so wanted to tell them to mind their business but I just had to tell them yea and that bothered me bc I what if it happened again then here we go again people looking at me and staring at me like I'm some broken toy or something. You're not the only one who will wait.

AFM: My AF came on twice this month, went off on July 3 and came bk on July 30th. Like as if i really missed her that much.

O well, I'm exhausted, Goodnite ladies from me and my Uterus!! Lol. Crazy lady.....as if I can handle another Tyler!!!

 

[Starry Night]

A lot of my peers are going onto their third child already. Yeah, it's hard to not feel left behind even though I feel so grateful to have the one I do. I know I'm blessed. It's just hard to imagine my son being an only child.

Kat - I hope this cycle of the pill does the trick and the cysts don't bother you anymore. I'm sure even losing one cycle is frustrating though.

I couldn't even do it to wait for my OB appointment. Not sure what I'll say if I do get my bfp this weekend. I think I'll feel a little embarrassed for wasting everyone's time. But I don't think I'm pregnant so it doesn't really matter.

 

[nevergivingup]

O Starry, don't think like that. I know you know you're body but it may be surprising you. I'm ready to hear ab your BFP this weekend(I speaking it into existence). And don't you ever think you're wasting anyone time here that's why we're here to listen and support each other. After you get your BFP and you still want to poas, I'll be here waiting to see how it looks. We're in this together no matter what or how long it takes.

And I too dread my baby being the only child, that's one reason y I want to try now.

Ok ok I'm now going to sleep.

 

[eyemom]

What's with all these facebook people getting pregnant. At least in my friend's case, I know she tried for a pretty good while. Probably pushing a year, but I don't know. She had already been trying when I had my m/c and that was 13 mos ago, and she announced just as she entered the 2nd tri. *shrug*

I got an appointment with a new PCP on Friday morning! Just two days away. So I am happy about that. I'll be eager to hear what he says. This rash is already fading, I think. I've had it a couple of weeks or so, just finally thought to look it up. Hopefully I'm way off base and he'll tell me it's fine to get on with the baby makin'. Just not something I want to take chances with. It's not one of my first choices for primary care doctor, so part of me wonders if I should have held out for my first choice and just gone to urgent care for this. But he has some things going for him that I couldn't say for the other doctors I considered. So I'm feeling pretty comfortable with my decision right now. Crazy how a month seems like an eternity when you're ltttc! Kat, before this, when you were talking about sitting a cycle out, I thought, "that totally stinks!" But now, I think I get it! IT TOTALLY STINKS!!!

 

[Left wonderin]

Morning everyone , I agree Never ya can't spoil babies lol........ Starry if ya get a BFP this weekend tis not your fault its mother natures plan Kat and Eye mom kit totally get why a month feels like an eternity when ttc .... Hopefully it will fly by !! Eye hopefully your appointment will go well and ya won't have to ! Kat your nearly through yours right ? Do you have to go back to et checked re the cyst first ?

AFM : MS seems to be getting worse instead of better as I approach 12 weeks , not that I'm complaining but tis hard to be happy when ya feel like throwing up constantly from lunchtime to bed time but I'm givin it a bash as I'm still feeling so so blessed and grateful xxxxxxxxx

 

[Pinkcasi]

Hey hey everyone,

Sorry Kat and Eye having to sit it out but like left said it'll fly by just take the time to chill out and relax.

Never, arr bless Tyler you spoil away, i think my little princess will be spoilt too, it's hard not to i guess when theyre so cute and so wanted, maybe they get all the extra spoils that our angel babies should have got, i dont know about Broody though, i dont know that my OH could cope with me pregnant again, i've been such a hormonal mess ha ha

I know the whole FB thing is annoying but people just want to share there good new with there friends, i am trying hard to not put to much on FB about my pregnancy as you just dont know who youre going to upset expecially as my best friend recently had a loss, but it's hard when the most important thing ever in your life is happening what else are you supposed to talk about ?!?!?!?!

Left, sorry the MS is bad but it's so worth it, i loved it (when i wasn't complaining) as it makes it feel all the more real, i'll take the sickness and the back pain and everything, (though i will not take Piles thanks!) and it means that my lil miracle baby is ok.

So whens your 12 week scan? Oh i cant wait to see pics, it's so exciting!!!

 

[eyemom]

I'm not really upset about the facebook posts. I'm sure I'll have a lot for fb if/when it happens for us again. It is just hard to see some days. And strange that it sounds like a spurt of new babies amongst our friends!

Pink I forgot to comment on the sleeper before but it is super adorable.

 

[Kat S]

Oh no! I made a long post thanking you guys for your support while I sit here doing nothing and feeling worthless and backwards. I don't know why it disappeared!!

I'm a week and a half through my BC pills, so I have another week and a half to go. Then I call the FS when I get my period again and they'll check the cyst situation on Day 3. I'm sure it'll be fine. Then we get to try again.

This weekend is about when I would have been ovulating. So weird to be taking pills that prevent that!! Stupid cyst...

 

[MamaTex]

Kat S Hopefully The BC takes out the cyst and you can get back on track. Go away cyst!!

eyemom: FX that you made a good doctor choice and this guy has way more pros than cons! I am always nervous about going to a new doctor because it is such a pain to find a really good one you gel with.
Never: You can never love a child too much!!

Left: Sorry you are feeling sick. Hopefully things ease up some for you in the next trimester.

Starry: Again good luck

On the subject of Facebook announcements, I didn't post much about my pregnancy in the very beginning and when I did, it was to a limited group of people who knew what I had gone through. I shared a little more in the third trimester. It's hard to contain the excitement, but I put most of my feelings down in a journal. It was hard for me to see pregnancy announcements on Facebook when I was TTC so I just hid folks from my feed. People have a right to express their excitement and whatever they are feeling, but I definitely didn't want to subject myself to triggers that for me personally would send me on a depression spiral. It's my wish that all the ladies here get to share good news with whoever they want in the near future!!

AFM: I didn't get around to eating the Cheddar popcorn last night but it is sitll in the cabinet waiting to be eaten. We made a home made pizza but that was still digesting by the time we popped in a movie to watch. We watched Snitch. It was pretty good. Dwayne the Rock Johnson is usually a good actor and he did a good job in this movie about a father who tries to get his son out of a 10+ year prison term for getting caught up in drug trafficking.

 

[diamondlove33]

Hi ladies, I know i've been absent for a while, I have had a whole lot of CRAP going on I need some HELP!

I have been having the WORST PROBLEMS with my job lately.. They won't grant me any time off for any thing extra and now i'm having really bad back pains that have me and my doctor worried and my dr wants to take me out of work for a week to see if that helps, but i'm so scared to tell them because I feel like they are going to try to get me fired. Not sure what my rights are or what to do..

I am glad to see that everyone else is doing well Makes me so happy!

 

[Pinkcasi]

Oh Diamond thanks goodness your there and ok, i was starting to worry, and i see your signature says Girl that's news Argh!!!!! yey good work, mine is pink too!

Sorry to hear work is being shitty, i dont know what the rules are in the states but here in the uk you are legally entitled to time off for antenatal stuff, and if your unwell due to pregnancy they cant discipline, although my manager told me that work acn make you take maternity leave early if you have too much sick, and they make out like it's for your benefit thankfully now the ms has subsided im not too bad.

I would certainly look into what your rights are, surely they can fire you.

 

[Left wonderin]

I'm pretty sure you can't be fired if you are out on certified sick leave ! I'd call the citizen advise offices in your area or google them they are wonderful for giving all that sort of information . However I'm pretty certain they cannot fire you for being sick !

 

[MamaTex]

Hi ladies, I know i've been absent for a while, I have had a whole lot of CRAP going on I need some HELP!

I have been having the WORST PROBLEMS with my job lately.. They won't grant me any time off for any thing extra and now i'm having really bad back pains that have me and my doctor worried and my dr wants to take me out of work for a week to see if that helps, but i'm so scared to tell them because I feel like they are going to try to get me fired. Not sure what my rights are or what to do..

I am glad to see that everyone else is doing well Makes me so happy!

Do you have an HR person at your job you can trust in? I wouldn't go to a manager or higher up until you have spoken with HR about what types of leave you qualify for, including STD. Some of that time may be unpaid, but at least you will have it off. You might also want to inquire at the Department of Labor in California to see what your rights and options are.

 

[eyemom]

Aw Kat I hate it when that happens! I hope these next couple of weeks fly by for you!

Thanks MamaTex. He's actually the husband of one of my elementary school music teachers. And she is lovely, so from what I know of her, he should be a pretty good guy too. I'm not concerned about his character. From talking to his wife, I know they have had some fertility issues too (I mean, I just know they were trying, and there's still no baby, but I don't know details). One time I ran into them at a restaurant, and I actually met him then. He was really nice. I thought I left my phone in the restaurant, and he went back in to help me find it. It was in the car. So he's a good guy, just hoping he's a great doctor too!

Also, mama, your post makes me hungry. Mmmm, pizza. AFM, I'm eating Chick fil A for the 2nd day in a row.

Hi Diamond, I think I must be new since you've posted in here regularly. Good luck to you. That is awful to be going through that. I have no idea what to tell you, but I hope it works out great.

Just wanted to say I am so thankful for you ladies. I am kicking myself for not joining these boards sooner! You all take some of the sting out of the tough times, and the tough times seem to pass by quicker. Thank you!

 

[Starry Night]

diamond - sorry your work is giving you such trouble. If your doctor is concerned then I would go with his opinion. Right now the health of you and your baby comes first. If something were to happen then you'd forever resent your work and boss and that wouldn't be good either. I don't know what all the rules are in the States but if you have a written leave by your doctor then what can your work do about it? Maybe go on your state's government website and see if they have anything about work leave due to health reasons and maybe even rules on wrongful firing.

RE facebook announcements: In a way, I don't mind that people make announcements. I would never say that people shouldn't do that just because someone may or may not be having trouble TTC or just had a loss. I know that this is my issue and my problem but I can always hide them from my feeds. If I ever do get a sticky bean again you better believe I will be posting the news once I felt secure. Everyone knows about my losses so I think they'd be happy for me.

 

[mackjess]

All right ladies, please don't slap me if I sound selfish. My new little man will be 2 weeks old tomorrow, and man oh man have the postpartum blues hit me BIG time this week. I'm beyond overjoyed and filled with love, but at the same time feel so overwhelmed. I've done some reading and spoken to DH and I don't think I'm feeling anything abnormal. Probably due a lot to being so tired.

Week 2 was a lot harder than week 1. Had an OB appt this afternoon and was looking forward to discussing it with her and getting reassurance from a professional, but they literally called the minute we were putting baby in the carseat to leave to reschedule for tomorrow since she was out delivering a baby. I hope I don't sound ungrateful, I don't and I'm not, but OMG I feel like I am just barely hanging in there sometimes and wonder HOW you keep doing this with no sleep.

 

[Left wonderin]

All right ladies, please don't slap me if I sound selfish. My new little man will be 2 weeks old tomorrow, and man oh man have the postpartum blues hit me BIG time this week. I'm beyond overjoyed and filled with love, but at the same time feel so overwhelmed. I've done some reading and spoken to DH and I don't think I'm feeling anything abnormal. Probably due a lot to being so tired.

Week 2 was a lot harder than week 1. Had an OB appt this afternoon and was looking forward to discussing it with her and getting reassurance from a professional, but they literally called the minute we were putting baby in the carseat to leave to reschedule for tomorrow since she was out delivering a baby. I hope I don't sound ungrateful, I don't and I'm not, but OMG I feel like I am just barely hanging in there sometimes and wonder HOW you keep doing this with no sleep.

mack , I'm not yet a mum but have seen my 4 sisters with 13 children between them feel EXACTLY the way you are . It's called " baby blues " I think and due to a mixture of hormones and exhaustion !!! Is there anyone who could give ya a break for a few hours together so you can get a good decent sleep ? I've taken all,of my nieces / nephews for one night when all reached breaking point lol..... Things looked so much better to them after a good night sleep xx I hope ya feel better soon Hun