Oh garfie that's too much for one person. Good to see you about. Hope your family is loving and understanding.
ES sorry about your bfn. Why does stuff like that happen (that "feels like the universe is mocking me" stuff)? I run into that kind of thing occasionally too, just feels so cruel. Thanks for the well wishes about the HSG. Getting nervous!
Sorry you're having a tough time of it pink. I think taking leave early would be awfully tempting.
Oh Garfie i know bits of your story but seeing it all written down like that well it did make me cry, you are so strong and brave, i know you probably dont feel it but to go through everything you have and still carry on, i think your super and dont you forget it girl!
Dont worry about needing to be under your rock now and again, it really takes it's toll we're all here for you xx
Moon, sorry about your BFN.
Tricia, glad youre still about and 17 weeks wow tha'ts flown by your approaching your gender scan, will you be finding out? hope it all goes well.
Everyone else ive forgotten hugs and kisses.
AFM still nothing to report im not doing much of anything just now so my life is pretty boring, the SPD is getting worse it's so painful, and now I find it hard to breathe, is that normal? my mum says it is because i have no space left i just cant seem to get a proper breath.
Im now trying to figure out whether i should go off sick again, I have 5 weeks left of work before my maternity leave but is it worth the stress and pain, really? apparently if im off sick again, my work can make me take Mat leave early but im trying to figure out how early to see if it's worth it.
Anyway id better go do some work......
We actually have our scan scheduled for October 15th. We are actually going to do a mini gender reveal. We will have the tech write it down and put it in an envelope, and we I'll open it at dinner that night with family. I am so excited to find out!
Last night we put our crib together, sure does make it more real.. Though I still am nervous something will go wrong, always afraid of jinxing us. I will feel better after my next scan. I did however finally felt the first little flutters last week which was super exciting.
Pink sorry to hear you are in so much pain! How much leave do you get for maternity?
Oohh tricia how exciting i cant wait to find out, im guessing it'll be a little boy.
I know what you mean about the stuff making it real and the movement i feel her wiggling about and kicking all the time now and although when im trying to sleep it's annoying it is nice to know she's there.
You will love the gender scan it's so amazing you can see everything, the spine, the chambers of the heart like everything, i couldn't believe it it's like magic.
And left, whens your scan, your further along than Tricia arent you?
Im having 9 months, at my work i get 6 months on full pay then 3 months on half pay then i could have 3 months unpaid, i cant afford to have the full year so im just taking the 9 months, obviously i want to have the most of it once she's here but if its this painful and stressful i do wonder if it's worth it to stay here, i think i need to phone HR so i know exactly but theyre always so unhelpful i cant face it today.
thanks for the introduction ladies.
I'll do one when I'm not on my phone.
so my lo is two months old. I do want to try again right away because I'm scared I may have trouble getting #2 here, but we can't for 6 months because I had acsection. anyway I'm breastfeeding, and we've only dtdtwice but haven't been careful. I got super scared that I was prego and took a test last night and this morning. thank goodness it was negative since my body has barely healed.
Oohh tricia how exciting i cant wait to find out, im guessing it'll be a little boy.
I know what you mean about the stuff making it real and the movement i feel her wiggling about and kicking all the time now and although when im trying to sleep it's annoying it is nice to know she's there.
You will love the gender scan it's so amazing you can see everything, the spine, the chambers of the heart like everything, i couldn't believe it it's like magic.
And left, whens your scan, your further along than Tricia arent you?
Im having 9 months, at my work i get 6 months on full pay then 3 months on half pay then i could have 3 months unpaid, i cant afford to have the full year so im just taking the 9 months, obviously i want to have the most of it once she's here but if its this painful and stressful i do wonder if it's worth it to stay here, i think i need to phone HR so i know exactly but theyre always so unhelpful i cant face it today.
moon - I'm so sorry about your bfn. I hope the next round of IUI goes smoothly and you get your rainbow.
ES - I'm sorry about your bfn as well. I hope you do end up with at least proper 14 day luteal phase and that your body keeps up with this pattern. And who knows, maybe a bfp is still waiting to surprise you.
garfie - I can't even imagine what it has been like going through your journey. I admire you for continuing to pick yourself back up again and to keep trying.
Tricia - aw, that's so exciting that you're starting to set up the nursery. And good luck with your upcoming scan. Any guesses as to what you're having? I've been assuming girl but for no particular reason.
mack - I had a pregnancy scare when my son was 3 months. I think that was the only time in my life I was truly happy to see a bfn. I wanted kids close in age but not 12 months apart! And yeah, it's important to factor in the healing from a c-section. I can't believe your LO is 2 months old already. Sometimes it would be nice if we could stop the clock for a moment and just hold onto each precious stage.
afm - not much going on. I forgot how boring bed rest can be. It's only modified bed rest so I'm still making meals and some of the smaller chores. Not feeling very pregnant. I get the occasional wave of nausea but most of the time I feel fine. But my pregnant symptoms don't usually hit full swing until about 6 weeks. I'm also usually spotting by then.
My brain again has turned to moosh. Not sure why. I think it is stress. Tried to find a park with no luck...I hate living in the boonies sometimes. Xan just had an appointment. 17.8 lbs, 28.4 inches. Tall and thin. Wish I knew how to post my chart on here from FF but for some reason I can't. I am going to try and scan back and see what's up. Someone needs to send me an email giving me quick notes on what is going on LOL This catching up is hard!
AF showed.......right when I got home with more $$ store tests, lol. Oh well, at least the cramps will ease off shortly. And I can take a large dose of Advil and chocolate. I'm probably going to be taking another break now for back surgery.
Tricia - How exciting.Finding out the gender in front of family sounds great.You have any gender preference in your mind?I am so happy for you.FX'ed.
ES-Sorry to know about your AF.Do you take medicine in every cycle?When is your back surgery scheduled.Hope the cramps go away soon.
jsm - Best of luck and FX'd for you.
Sweetz - Thanks for your support.Lots of love to your lil boy.
Starry - Take rest dear.FX'd for your pregnancy, when is your scan scheduled?
mack - How are you doing?Waiting for your intro.How is your little one doing?
Pink - Your maternity leave eligibility sounds great.Here we get only 120 days (incl weekends) of full pay and if you take more it is total non pay.Which country you are from and what is your profession?
Garfie - How are you doing?
Eyemom - How did your HSG go?Did you take any pain medication before going for it?
Hippie - All the best for your test.Did you do an IUI this cycle?
AFM - nothing much from me.My new clinic is caring, they called me yesterday and asked me to test again tomorrow and then stop progesterone.I am not hopeful though.Looking forward for AF and next IUI!
Moon, I am on a break from taking fertility meds. I've been through a few rounds of Femara/Ovidrel/Progesterone, but they didn't work. I'm supposed to do a hysteroscopy next and then move on to Follistem. I have to have an MRI on Thursday, and then we will decide whether or not to do the surgery.
Pink - Your maternity leave eligibility sounds great.Here we get only 120 days (incl weekends) of full pay and if you take more it is total non pay.Which country you are from and what is your profession?
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I know it is pretty good, Im in the UK, England and i work for the government, tha'ts why it's so good, we might complain about it but we have it pretty good really, and i've decided im going to go off sick again until my mat leave starts, I called HR this morning to check that i could do that without screwing anything up like my maternity leave and was told that it's all protected, they can make you leave 4 weeks early but as im due to go 4 weeks before my due date anyway it's fine, so im going to call the Dr tomorrow and get a sick note, it shouldn't be a problem i can hardly move, i woke up and just cired this morning cos it hurt so bad i couldn't get out of bed and i know it's just going to get worse as bub gets bigger, i love her and all, but she's a little pain it must be my karma for all the years of teenage hell i put my parents through ha ha
Tricia I am impressed, you are on the ball! I'm also impressed with the people who can do cool gender reveal things. I would never be able to hold out for it. Anyway, I keep thinking of your baby as a girl, too. Though no real reason here either. I am almost always wrong about these things though! I think the only time I got it right was with my own.
I'm jealous of EVERYONE'S leave. I'm self-employed, so when I had dd, I took off 6 weeks but that's all I could do. Because being self-employed, there are no benefits other than what I provide myself with, so my "leave" is basically just however long I can survive without making any money. Hopefully I can go 8 weeks next time around now that DH is back in the work force. We'll still have some money coming in. Really it wouldn't be so bad if not for that massive student debt.
jsm- GL!
Aw ES, that stinks! At least you're stocked up for next time ya just gotta know! Hope you're enjoying your Advil and chocolate. I know I do every month. GL with your upcoming MRI.
Hippie- FX!!
Starry, hope you're doing well!
Hi mack! Can't believe it's been 2 mos already! Watch out, I BFed full time and on demand, and my cycles still started back up 4 mos pp. I felt so unlucky, haha.
Hi moon! Nice to have a caring clinic though.
My HSG went fine. No one told me to, but from what I had read, I took a couple of ibuprofen (400 mg total) beforehand.
One of my good friends from my high school and early college years was the radiology tech who worked with me, so it was nice to have someone I know. A little embarrassing in some ways too, but the pros way outweighed the cons of having her there.
There was some issue getting to my cervix I guess. It still wasn't too horrible. Like he put the speculum in and he kept adjusting it, adjusting it. He asked a couple of times how I was doing. I said okay, I mean I wasn't expecting it to be a walk in the park. The second time he asked, he told me what was going on and he had me prop my hips up with my fists to get a better angle. After that, whatever he needed to do, he got to it right away. Then after the cannula(?) was in, he was able to take the speculum out and it wasn't really uncomfortable at all.
My left side spilled out right away, so that one was really good. The right one took longer, and I kind of leaned to my right side to get the image, but it spilled out too. So it was a good result.
After going back over the images with the doctor, he asked me how I was feeling, and I said fine. And really I was feeling fine. He said however I felt right then was as bad as I was going to feel. A few minutes later, I was feeling just a little crampier, like menstrual cramps, but another couple of minutes and I felt like normal again. Right now I feel completely fine.
TMI warning, the worst part of it (not related to the actual test)....
The way I react physically to anxiety is that I really really have to poop. It's rarely an issue now that I'm no longer in school and I don't have exams or anything, haha. Knowing I'm like this, I got up early enough that there would be time to go, but by the time my body wanted to go, there was no longer any time. So holding off the poop was honestly the worst part of the whole thing.
Dr wanted us to try another couple of months or so, and I'm also hoping this kind of "cleared out the cobwebs" so to speak. But I asked him what's next if nothing happens. He said then we'll start talking meds or IUIs. I don't know if I would want to do an IUI, but there I'm getting ahead of myself. So one month at a time for now....
I took MOST of my work day off. Even rescheduled one I was supposed to have at 11:00. I suppose it's a good thing to plan just in case for the unforeseen. But I kinda wish I had left my work day alone. I'm not going to be in the mood to work anymore by the time 3:00 rolls around.
Dr didn't mention it, but my friend told me to not DTD within 24 hours because the risk of infection is much higher. She said some of the other Drs tell their patients that. So she thought I might appreciate knowing just to be safe. I think I'll start my OPKs on Thurs/Fri. If history is any indication, I'll likely ovulate around Sunday-Wednesday of next week.
Eye on- when I had my HSG earlier this year the paperwork they fave me prior mentioned it can make it easier to get pregnant a couple cycles after. Maybe because it cleans things out? I got pulled put my next cycle because I needed further testing but the second cycle took for me.... Though the meds probably helped..
I can't hold out to long for the gender reveal, that is why it will be the same day as the ultrasound lol
Eye on- when I had my HSG earlier this year the paperwork they fave me prior mentioned it can make it easier to get pregnant a couple cycles after. Maybe because it cleans things out? I got pulled put my next cycle because I needed further testing but the second cycle took for me.... Though the meds probably helped..
I can't hold out to long for the gender reveal, that is why it will be the same day as the ultrasound lol
Yeah, I'm trying not to be TOO hopeful about that, I keep trying to tell myself, "It's a diagnostic test! It's a diagnostic test!" But who am I kidding, I am really hoping. My obgyn is hopeful too. Fingers crossed.
OH and ES, when I got to the waiting room just before my HSG, the Today Show came on and they said something about continuing their baby theme. I was like...are you serious? Haha. Thankfully, I was only in there for a minute and I never really saw much.
Another random afterthought, I realized almost everyone else shared their ages but I forgot to mention. I'm 31 and DH is 33.
So 1st pg was at age 28, turned 29 two weeks after dd was born. Got pg again/miscarried at age 30, and now I'm 31.
hippielove - good luck with your test on the 7th. Does that mean you're in the TWW? I'm so bad at the 'math' of calendars and keeping track of the dates!
eyemom - sounds like you had quite the day.
I'm glad you could hold it all in!
I hope the test and cleaning out does give you the chance to conceive naturally in the next month or two. I mean, you got your other pregnancies fairly quickly (in the grand scheme of things) so maybe your body just needing a good clean? Crossing my fingers for you!
And I think it's really annoying how baby stuff always seems to come on TV when you've just gone through a loss or going through fertility treatment. The announcement of Princess Kate Middleton's pregnancy was made about a week after my m/c last fall. And of course it was all over the news even though I'm on the other side of the ocean.
ES - sorry that AF caught you. I hope you can get the issues with your back corrected.
I hope the test and cleaning out does give you the chance to conceive naturally in the next month or two. I mean, you got your other pregnancies fairly quickly (in the grand scheme of things) so maybe your body just needing a good clean? Crossing my fingers for you!
Hahaha I checked this when I was stuck at a red light on my way home tonight. And if anyone looked in my car at that moment, I probably looked really funny, just sitting there LOLing all by myself, haha. But it's okay, I can laugh at myself. But on a more serious note, OMGoodness ME TOO. Hahahaha....
And thank you, I am really hoping that's all there is to it. Because really, so far there is no other obvious explanation.
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i know bits of your story but seeing it all written down like that well it did make me cry, you are so strong and brave, i know you probably dont feel it but to go through everything you have and still carry on, i think your super and dont you forget it girl!
