March/April BFP's who's going for it!! NEW LADIES COME JOIN IN!!

[Storked]

And Sweetz, that is all you can ask for. We shouldn't always have to come up with something to throw out there. We can reply to people and just get a hi back because we didn't say anything about what was going on with us

Sweetz gave me a yummy recipe!

 

[Sweetz33]

I did? Which one? Lol

 

[Storked]

Peanut butter cookies

 

[Sweetz33]

Oh yeah!! Haha!! I have so many I lost track...

 

[BayBeeEm]

Ok, so I missed a lot! This issue of not being recognized by others is a recurrent one. I've felt many, many times but either leave but eventually come back or never leave and keep on putting in my two cents. One thing I must stay, I HATE that Nevergivingup always has to be the one to round us up and put us back on course. She takes it as her personal responsibility to keep things together and it makes me feel guilty that she has this burden on her. I would like to challenege all of us to be responsible for what we do and what we fail to do in support of one another.

I try my best to comment on what I remember but at times, I totally miss the boat. I mean, imagine last night I was seeing bimples all over the place and I was like "Um, yeah a bimple ... Google!" Of course I didn't find out what it was until today! I know, I smart, I very, very smart.

Stork, funny that you mentioned Shiyah's absence. I noticed when she announced her BFP a few of us acknowledged her good news ... and I knew it would only be a matter of time before she disappeared. I think this is the case for our other ladies MIA. If someone says AF showed, don't blow it over. If someone says they're taking a break don't just say "oh no" then move on to the next subject "YOU". TTC after a loss is so difficult and everything, no matter how insignificat it appears to you at the time, is big freaking deal.

As for people like Janelleybean, who are so chipper and warm (even when you forget to send her a few warm words of encouragement) understand the meaning of this thread. We all can learn a bit from her, myself included.

Now I am done with lecture!

Sweetz - I don't want to sound like a pedafile but IF YOUR BABY DOESN'T OPEN THEIR LEGS SO WE CAN SEE WHAT IS IN BETWEEN I will ... I will

Storked - I'm glad you decided to open up and stay with us. I'm also intrigued by these veterinary skills I'm just learning about. A pill, eh? A cat, eh? Impressive lol

Nevergivingup - Not much to say other than there is a warm spot in my heart for you.

Bamagurl - Your spot is right next to hers.

Everyone else, our emotionally charged friendships will continue to blossom. Just a little patience and thoughtfulness. Big, fat huuuuuuuuugs!

AFM - Thanks for the cheers re: my scan. I am 5 weeks and 1 day today. My baby is measuring perfectly. I can't remember if I mentioned it, I will rescan next week for a heartbeat. Stressful period on my side of the world with work and house guests. FIL is around and is super demanding ... he actually threw a bowl of oatmeal across the table toward me because he said he didn't want to eat it and started shouting at me as if I was an imbicile. My husband had to jump in, in my defense. I was sooooooo upset and was at a loss for words. All he had to say was, please, can I have something else. He is very ungreatful and kind of feels like he has all of these rights in our home but he's never sewn into my life and from what his wife kids say, he wasn't the best father or husband to them. Aside from all of that, I'm doing ok. Just tired!

 

[BayBeeEm]

Janelle - it's so funny that your symptoms came back that quickly after you complained about them going. Do you have any morning sickness yet?

Army -when do you get your results on your hcg levels?

Krissy - I hope your able to get some bd'ing in this cycle. Will DH do it before your fertile? Sucks that you weren't able to sneak some bd'ing in before the witch showed up. Bone spurs sounds so painful. You poor thing. Is that something you just have to live with?

Lpjkp - You are such a sweetheart. I love reading your updates. As for Sherlock, I love the robert downey jr and jude law movies. They were both really good. I can't wait for the next one.

Never - thanks for the encouragement. Some days are better than others but if He got me through the worst last time, He'll get me through the worst this time. I love greens but we recently gave up pork and greens just aren't the same w/o hamhocks. Smoked turkey will have to do. Now I'm hungry... Did you move far?

Storked - I live in Houston! And you're right, Texas is great!

Mnj - I totally sneak on my phone at work. If I don't there will be so much to catch up on later. LOL. Do you view the mobile site? I ask because when I view the mobile site it's easier to read the text but it never goes to the first unread post...it just goes to the top of the page and i have to scroll through the whole page to find out where I was. Does yours do the same thing?

Sweetz - you are hilarious. Butt acne and farts... Love it. You definitely make me feel comfortable posting those things that might orginally consider tmi. LOL

Leather - I love Austin. I told hubby he needed to find a good job there so we could move there. Thats a lot easier said than done though. LOL. How long have you been there?

I've been afraid to ask ... or maybe more unwilling to accept that there is a problem with your gift. I just want to believe that you wont have to deal with the worse again. How are you feeling? Still more spotting? Sighs.

 

[Storked]

I hate that Never has that burden too BayBeeEm.
I think more would have acknowledged Shyiah's BFP is they knew her, ya know? And that is the tough part about people leaving and popping up to announce BFPs: we get new girls in who don't know them and ignore it and the rest of us who know them are hurt that they only dropped by to share their news when they haven't been sharing the journey with us personally anymore. We should all be in it together and the truth is, people are selfish. And you nobody wants to feel like nobody cares. You want people to care about your shitty days and happy days and just general ponderings and thoughts on TTC. And you feel the same way when pregnant. But if we stay and comment to each other, are considerate enough to even just say hi, then we can all feel good. Well, provided that you don't just say hi after a person has poured their heart out in the thread

And I feel responsible for some of the girls who are gone and active elsewhere. Why did I not stalk them? Why did I let them drift?*

I'm no vet
Glad you are able to get those early scans!
Wish you had thrown something back at FIL but just standing there aghast that a grown ass man would act that way is a logical reaction. What the heck! Sorry you have to put up with that honey

 

[Sweetz33]

Hahahahahahah BayBee....I just died laughing at what you wrote. A bimple is a butt pimple lol not sure if it an actual word...I agree that it is not Never's job ...we are all adults time to step up and show responsibility. I'm so sorry about your FIL. My MIL is a piece of work. My DH is a momma's boy. He can do no wrong. First thing she asked DH when we got pregnant last.....are you sure it's yours. I was so offended. First time she saw me.."oh now I know why you like her, she has a big ass". Then when he told her about being pregnant again..."is this one gunna stick or is she still broken" oye vey...I know DH wants a girl...but if it is a girl...I will tweak bc it will be her 1st granddaughter and it will be born around her birthday....Lord help me....

 

[HisGrace]

Hi HisGrace! You live in Houston? Awesome! We will live right outside of Houston in either Sugarland or Pearland- haven't made up our minds yet. How do you like it? Where are the best places to eat and see?

I used to live in Pearland. It's such a small world. I bought a house out there before I met DH. When we decided to start trying, we moved into his place (in missouri city) because his house had more room. I want to move to Sugarland in the next five years or so. I like Houston well enough though. I think you'll like it here.

 

[kanicky73]

Oh my goodness, I try to lay low during my TWW and all hell breaks loose! LOL

Ok let me give my 2 cents worth. I agree that this is a TTC Forum, however wouldnt the end result of TTC be getting pregnant?? Which is what each and every one of us is after. Does it make me a little sad when I see others post their bfp's?? Of course but as I have said to others, Im a big girl and I can congratulate them and truly be happy for them and a tad jealous all at the same time. I guess I am sort of nuetral because I dont mind hearing about the pregnant ladies on here. I actually like hearing all the different symptoms etc. And as someone pointed out to me in the beginning, I think it was actually Never but someone correct me if I am wrong, that this was not only a forum for those ttc but for those who are pregnant, were pregnant etc to share their experience etc. I have never felt offended by any of you, I just wanted to say that.

As far as posting and including everyone in a response. I certainly try my best to get those who have commented about a post of mine or responded to something I have said but lets be honest here, there are a lot of us and to hit on every single one of us ladies on here every time we post is a bit much. Like I said I do my best to acknowledge those and hope I have never offended someone by lack of acknowledgement. If I have, please tell me so I can apologize.
ttc is very draining. emotionally, physically and psychologically. Feelings get hurt, jealousy kicks in and sometimes anger. You ask, why not me? This should have been my month! But thats what we ALL are here to help eachother with. Just because last month wasnt my month doesnt make me angry it gives me hope to see all of you get yours and I know my month will come too. And if it doesnt I have to be ok with that. There is nothing I can do about it. Just know that you all welcomed me with open arms and I am grateful for that and dont want to see any of you hurt or feeling upset!!!

I personally have decided to not come on quite as often only during my tww because it causes me to obsess. I was a poas maniac last month only to be let down. I truly believe that stress and all that goes into being so worked up and obsessed can play a significant role in ttc. So I made a promise to myself to back off a little so I dont start peeing on every stick that crosses my path. Im not mad, hurt or any of the above. I just wanted to make that clear to everyone. No one has driven me away. It is my choice and is helping me stay sane!

Now for some acknowledgments:

Never- yes ma'am I am in the tww. I am either 1 or 2dpo. According to my fertility tracker on my bb it says I should have O'd on Sunday but it felt more like Monday. So either way, Im officially a tww'er! LOL thank you for asking!

Janelly- you are very welcome for the advice regarding naughty poopies!! I love that you felt comfortable enough to ask me!! anytime!!! and that goes for all you ladies!

Leather- Welcome!!!

Army- I think you are ok, if no spotting or bleeding or anything I think youre all good. Just try and take it easy, keep us posted for shizzle!

Ok, now I gotta try and get some work done, ttfn!!

 

[Storked]

First off Kanicky, I adore you and you know that right? But this isn't just about women who are TTC. I think I would be a less sensitive individual except that I am a woman trying to conceive after a loss.
And what always made this thread such a positive place was that we always included each other. Following Never's awesome example because she always made sure to ask about each of us in her posts and reply back.
We should acknowledge each other. Because we are all here and we all have struggles, whether we struggle with a pregnancy that is difficult physically and emotionally, or whether we struggle with a recent loss, or whether we struggle to conceive again after a loss.*
This shouldn't be a place for selfish ladies. We need to care because we used to care. Even Never has acknowledged that it is a problem, this self-centeredness that we have all been guilty of at times.

I am in the TWW too. Are we cycle buddies ATM?

 

[Storked]

Hi HisGrace! You live in Houston? Awesome! We will live right outside of Houston in either Sugarland or Pearland- haven't made up our minds yet. How do you like it? Where are the best places to eat and see?

I used to live in Pearland. It's such a small world. I bought a house out there before I met DH. When we decided to start trying, we moved into his place (in missouri city) because his house had more room. I want to move to Sugarland in the next five years or so. I like Houston well enough though. I think you'll like it here.

It is a small world! So do you prefer Sugarland to Pearland? I wish I could talk him into the Woodlands but he won't have it

 

[HisGrace]

I've been afraid to ask ... or maybe more unwilling to accept that there is a problem with your gift. I just want to believe that you wont have to deal with the worse again. How are you feeling? Still more spotting? Sighs. [/QUOTE]

Sorry if I've been vauge. I'm scared to post too much because i'm scared people will think i'm being self-centered. I have been spotting for over a week now and my levels aren't doubling anymore. I will get confirmation on Monday when I go in for my u/s, but I feel like the writings on the wall. I've been here I know how my body acted before.

 

[HisGrace]

Hi HisGrace! You live in Houston? Awesome! We will live right outside of Houston in either Sugarland or Pearland- haven't made up our minds yet. How do you like it? Where are the best places to eat and see?

I used to live in Pearland. It's such a small world. I bought a house out there before I met DH. When we decided to start trying, we moved into his place (in missouri city) because his house had more room. I want to move to Sugarland in the next five years or so. I like Houston well enough though. I think you'll like it here.

It is a small world! So do you prefer Sugarland to Pearland? I wish I could talk him into the Woodlands but he won't have it

Definitely Sugarland but Pearland is nice.

 

[kanicky73]

Storked! Of course!! I adore you as well!!!! thank you for correcting me, yes this is a ttc after a loss. I forgot to say that! LOL.
I agree that a few at times may have gotten a tad carried away with self posts. Maybe it just didnt bother me as much but I fully understand how you feel and respect everyones feelings on here, good or bad.
And yes it appears we are cycle buddies!!! I am either 1 or 2dpo. If I go off the pain I had yesterday than its 1day. What day are you?

 

[Storked]

HisGrace, will they run any tests? I am so sorry that you are going this. An if you need to talk, please let it out. That is what this section of the site is all about- support.

 

[kanicky73]

I've been afraid to ask ... or maybe more unwilling to accept that there is a problem with your gift. I just want to believe that you wont have to deal with the worse again. How are you feeling? Still more spotting? Sighs.

Sorry if I've been vauge. I'm scared to post too much because i'm scared people will think i'm being self-centered. I have been spotting for over a week now and my levels aren't doubling anymore. I will get confirmation on Monday when I go in for my u/s, but I feel like the writings on the wall. I've been here I know how my body acted before.[/QUOTE]

Pleeeeeease dont be afraid! As storked just reminded me off this forum is about ttc after a loss and if you are suffering a loss, well my dear you qualify!! At least I think so! I have also been worried about you!

 

[Storked]

Then I may have to go with Sugarland, HisGrace! Thanks for your two cents!

Kanicky, we are possibly both the same DPO- I haven't been a good girl and checking because well...meh about this cycle. Did you do anything special? I remember you saying that this may be your last cycle to try
And we are all guilty of selfish moments, myself included.

 

[HisGrace]

Hahahahahahah BayBee....I just died laughing at what you wrote. A bimple is a butt pimple lol not sure if it an actual word...I agree that it is not Never's job ...we are all adults time to step up and show responsibility. I'm so sorry about your FIL. My MIL is a piece of work. My DH is a momma's boy. He can do no wrong. First thing she asked DH when we got pregnant last.....are you sure it's yours. I was so offended. First time she saw me.."oh now I know why you like her, she has a big ass". Then when he told her about being pregnant again..."is this one gunna stick or is she still broken" oye vey...I know DH wants a girl...but if it is a girl...I will tweak bc it will be her 1st granddaughter and it will be born around her birthday....Lord help me....

I can't believe your MIL said those things. You must have a special grace to deal with a woman like that. I might have taken it back to my younger years if someone said sone of those things to me. whew. to you.

 

[kanicky73]

yay! I like having cycle buddies. speaking of that, where is my Shefalia? Hope she is ok, that surgery sounded awful!!
Not really anything that special. I did go ahead and try the preseed. Made things very slippery. Almost too slippery but dh enjoyed it. Other than that nothing else.
Im kind of meh about this cycle too and the only reason I know what day I am is because of the pain yesterday and the thingy on my blackberry. Maybe this will be it for us!