March/April Spring Rainbows

[klabro]

Hi everyone. Wanted to start a thread for those of us expecting our rainbow baby in March or April. Let's introduce ourselves, share our story and give each other support/encouragement as we go through all of the stages of pregnancy.

A little about me. I have a healthy 4 year old DD who was born at 37 weeks with no issues. Fast forward to my second pregnancy last year, found out I was expecting twins, I was nervous but excited. Everything seemed to be going great until it wasn't. At 20 weeks I found out my cervix was completely effaced. They don't do a cervical stitch in the event of twins. I ended up being dilated to a 3 and going in to labor at 21 weeks. My beautiful babies were born. They were perfect, but it was just too soon. They aren't really sure if I have a true incompetent cervix or if it was just a "twin thing". I will be high risk this pregnancy and will have a cerclage placed at 12 weeks.

 

[Sophie2015]

I'm so sorry for the loss of your twins. I've had 4 losses and as early as they were it was awful. I can't imagine losing them later. Although I'm a NICU nurse and have witnessed this nightmare many times.
This is pregnancy #5. Still waiting for my rainbow baby. I'm 43 so this is likely my last chance. I'm 6 weeks today. Due March 24. First ultrasound is next Wednesday. Praying they find a HB.
Baby dust sent your way!

 

[klabro]

Welcome. I've been a little reluctant to post on here because I'm nervous about everything and having another loss, but we are pregnant right now so why not talk about it and share the experience. I am so sorry for your losses and I'm hoping your scan goes well. How are you feeling?

I have my first scan on Tuesday so for now I'm focusing on that.

 

[Sophie2015]

I know. I've been afraid to join a group because I was worried I'd jinx it!
I'm feeling nervous. My only real symptoms have been breast tenderness and constipation. My constipation lessened a few days ago and my breast tenderness started letting up yesterday. I'm cramping some now but I haven't really cramped until now. Just praying they find a HB Wednesday. Idk if I can handle a 5th loss.
How are you feeling?

 

[mrs unicorn]

Hi ladies. So so sorry to hear of your losses I had a MMC in Feb/March this year. It would have been our first baby but unfortunately we just found an empty sac at 10 weeks. 4/5 cycles later I'm now 4+2 and EDD is 6th April (although I od 3/4 days late so thinking it'll be later) I was petrified of never getting pregnant again so despite the MMC I'm feeling ok. Not exactly bouncing of the walls with excitement like last time but I'm not freaking out yet. We've booked an early scan at 7+2 as we just want to know there's something there this time - fx. Only 3 weeks to go.

 

[Sophie2015]

Hi Mrs Unicorn. Congrats on your pregnancy!! So very sorry about your mmc. My first 2 pregnancies were mmc's and now I can't stop worrying. My first scan is in 4 days. It feels forever away. FX'd we all get rainbow babies.

 

[mrs unicorn]

Thank you and good luck with your scan. Try to keep yourself super busy over the next few days, hopefully they'll fly by, then you can breathe a sigh of relief. How many weeks will you be, almost 7? Am I right in thinking it's not always possible to see a heartbeat that early? I'd love to at ours but I'll honestly be happy seeing a blob on the screen!! Plus as I mentioned before, because I od late I'm thinking even though I'll be 7+2, in reality it could be more like 6+4/5.

 

[Sophie2015]

I'll be 6+5. My RE does all scans between week 6-7 and there should be a HB if dates are correct. Heart starts beating between week 5 and 6. My 3rd pregnancy I had a great HB at 6+3. So you should see a HB at your scan. GL!

 

[mrs unicorn]

Oh my days, really?!?! I didn't know that, I thought it was more like 8 weeks. That's exciting, but I'll try not to think about it! Can't wait to hear about yours! Xx

 

[raine87]

Hey all I would like to join! I've have 1 pregnancy that they consider a chemical pregnancy even though I had missed my period which happened on Feb 13th, 2015. I had a second miscarriage this year on Feb 11th. We were almost 8 weeks along. My EDD is 3/29/17. My doctor wants me to do an early scan but I'm pretty scared and I'm going to try to let it grow as much as possible before I schedule anything. My doctor has been checking my HCG levels this last week and the last one she did was 104 on Wednesday. I'm very cautiously optimistic about this pregnancy. My DH acts like it's not really happening yet. Anyone else having that issue?

 

[Sophie2015]

Hey all I would like to join! I've have 1 pregnancy that they consider a chemical pregnancy even though I had missed my period which happened on Feb 13th, 2015. I had a second miscarriage this year on Feb 11th. We were almost 8 weeks along. My EDD is 3/29/17. My doctor wants me to do an early scan but I'm pretty scared and I'm going to try to let it grow as much as possible before I schedule anything. My doctor has been checking my HCG levels this last week and the last one she did was 104 on Wednesday. I'm very cautiously optimistic about this pregnancy. My DH acts like it's not really happening yet. Anyone else having that issue?

I'm so sorry for your losses. I've lost 4 myself. It's a sadness that never truly leaves you.

How far along are you? I'm sorry your DH isn't more supportive. I honestly don't have that problem but I think men sometimes distance themselves as a coping mechanism. Also so many men have trouble attaching to a pregnancy until they can see it on ultrasound. They don't feel the symptoms so it's hard for them to get as excited at first.

Welcome. Praying we all get our rainbow babies.

 

[raine87]

I'm in my fifth week. He's supportive, just not very enthusiastic. He doesn't want to tell his mom yet. I don't understand why. She would be there for us if we did have another loss.

 

[Sophie2015]

After 4 losses we haven't told any family yet. Although I've told a handful of friends. I'm not sure why though. We might as well announce because every baby we've lost we shared the news of the loss with everyone. For some reason I can't hide the fact there was another baby. It seems wrong to me. I'm not sure when we'll finally tell everyone this time. I guess we'll see how far we get first.

 

[mrs unicorn]

I think DH and I are both surprised at how we're coping so far. I thought I'd be a nervous wreck but I'm so calm! It's not like last time, which is sad because we were so excited, but he has rubbed my belly a couple of times and asked how bubs is.

Telling people is tricky but it's totally a personal decision. We don't want to tell anyone before 12 weeks. We didn't tell anyone with the last one until the mc. For me, I don't want people going out celebrating and buying stuff (trust me my mum would go wild!) and then having that heartbreak if it goes wrong again. It would upset me. But we are going to have to tell people before this time. I'm going to a spa with my sil who had a mc in May. I'll be 7 weeks, so she'll twig straight away when I'm not drinking / hot tub / sauna etc. Plus my mum is stopping for my birthday in September, I'll be 9 weeks then. She knows we're TTC so I can't hide the not drinking on my birthday. Thing is I know she'll go tell everyone even if I ask her not to. So we might have to tell my dad and DHs parents then too. Don't want to though.

 

[mrs unicorn]

I'm seriously considering trying to cancel her coming over. Bit harsh though when she's booked time off. I'm cool with my bro and SIL knowing. They're going through a loss so they will respect our wishes. They actually told everyone at 8 weeks and mc at 10 so they will understand. But my mum.... urgh. Guess we'll see how far we actually get.

 

[klabro]

Hi ladies, welcome everyone new. Sorry for all of the losses.

I'll jump in on the telling people. I'm going to tell my mom and mother in law probably around 10ish weeks just because I have to get a cerclage put in at 12 weeks and I will need some help for a week or so with DD while I recover and hubby is at work. Other than tell immediate family and people I see on a regular basis, I'm going to tell people when I have a healthy baby in my arms. I don't really live by any family and I just don't plan on announcing. I think part of this was because I waited until 20 weeks to announce with my twins and then they were born at 21 weeks and I just don't think I'll ever really feel ready to put it out there.

 

[mrs unicorn]

Klabro - that's totally understandable not wanting a big announcement. We won't be doing the whole Facebook thing. Since my MMC I haven't been on social media, if found it so hard seeing all my 'friends' baby pics and preggo announcements. Obviously it's different with my close friends as we are properly in touch not just in a Facebook way!

Raine how are you doing hun? Have you managed to chat to your DH?

I'm feeling ok at the moment. Not letting myself think about actually having a baby. I'm a planner and I love it but I'm not letting myself do or think about any kind of planning. I think it's the only way ill be able to get through the next few weeks without losing it with worry. I had a sharp twinge in Sunday and it scared me. It was only for a second and nothing since but I just keep thinking it might have already gone. I've stopped worrying now but.... Idk, it wouldn't surprise me if it's another blighted ovum now. Sorry, I know it's a really negative way to be but I guess it's some sort of protection?

How is everyone else doing?

 

[Sophie2015]

I've had a really scary weekend. Had a really bad cold with fever and lost all my symptoms. My RE moved my ultrasound up to tomorrow. I'm calm now but I keep thinking it's gonna be another mmc. 😕
I guess once you've lived through the hell of mc it's really hard to find the joy in pregnancy. At least during the first trimester.

 

[mrs unicorn]

Sophie so sorry you've been ill it's great that your scan has been moved, fx all will be well. I'm trying not to read too much into symptoms because I had all the normal symptoms with my blighted ovum (until 9 weeks when they started to ease) so they meant nothing. I know it's hard though, it's like they are the only indicators we have, although not reliable.

Yes, it is sad that after a loss pregnancy is no longer the same. I knew this early stage would be horrible, but so far it's not as bad as I thought. Hopefully soon we'll all start to feel more confident and tentatively start to enjoy it. I'm thinking that's a few weeks off yet.

 

[raine87]

Sorry to hear you're having a rough time Sophie. Keep us updated on what's going on.

Mrs. U-- I haven't really talked to him about it. I know he'll come around when he's ready. He's not a big talked when it comes to feel gs and stuff. His actions show me he's excited. If I say I'm thirsty he jumps up and gets me something to drink, etc. I think he's just taking some time to come around.