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[TTCBean]

I think that's what I'll do now, keep my mouth shut and not say much about what I am doing, etc. She always does this to me when I mention anything!

 

[Sass827]

Yeah, I find it's really easy to just say everything is great with me, nothing going on, just tired and expanding. Then I let her go on and on about what's going on with her. It allows me to keep my distance and her to feel like she's still in my inner circle, which she really isn't. It's sad, but at least it's drama free.

 

[TTCBean]

Yeah I find if I just let her talk about herself and her life, things go well. It's sad I feel like I can't include her in my life without drama.

 

[Courtney917]

Oh TTC, I feel your pain!!! My mom just argued with me about my boys being "on time" and not "early" bc babies are born "when they are ready." Mine were born at 38 and 37 weeks. I tried to explain that yes anything over 36 weeks is term....BUT its still earlier then the typical 40 week textbook pregnancy. Ugh...she went on to say that it's bullcrap that babies born around 35 weeks run the risk of lung problems because "term babies can also have problems." OMG seriously??? Why the hell did I even continue the convo???!!!

 

[TTCBean]

Omg that is so frustrating Courtney!!! I really hope I don't end up like my Mom to my children... that would be so bad! I really don't want to annoy my children with nonsense and drama!

 

[Sass827]

You would seriously think our moms were never pregnant by the disregard they show us in these crazy conversations.
I think all this illustrates how important it is to have positive, strong, supportive women in your life other than your mom, so they can fill in when your mom is being a pooper. It's part of why bnb is so great.

 

[Sass827]

You would seriously think our moms were never pregnant by the disregard they show us in these crazy conversations.
I think all this illustrates how important it is to have positive, strong, supportive women in your life other than your mom, so they can fill in when your mom is being a pooper. It's part of why bnb is so great.

 

[Courtney917]

Oh I make sure I never act like mine. Thank god my Nana was the most influential woman in my life. Although she passed 2 years ago, I always strive to treat my kids as she treated me. Sometimes I don't even get why I talk to my mom especially after how condescending she is at times!

 

[CupcakeBaby]

Morning ladies.

3rd Tri for me today. Whoop!!!

I hope Babee is ok.

 

[julesjules100]

Congrats cupcake!

Yeah, babee hasn't been on for 10 days or so. Could be that she's just jamming making things as she had said she'd been really busy with that x

 

[Lady H]

Ttc big hugs xxx

Cupcake wohoooo!

I'm so grumpy today. DH gave me his cold so I feel awful, I worry that Boo is not moving much, then when she does I moan she is always kicking down on my bladder. Think I'm going to get in the bath see if that decongests me any. One plus point is its Chinese new year tomorrow so we are having Chinese takeaway for dinner, yum!

 

[poppy13]

Hi ladies it's been a while, sorry. I catch up everyday even if I dont post.

Sorry to hear your Mum's are being a pain, I'm lucky that my mum is quite laid back & my dad is happy as long as I'm well and munchkin is healthy. The in laws are lovely too but I'm feeling a bit smothered by how involved they want to be. They're helping out with electrical work as FIL is an electrician but they want to help paint too. I know I should be grateful but I really want me & DH to do the decorating. It's our baby's room & want it to be something just us have done. Am I being ungrateful? Haven't told DH how I feel as I dont want him to feel awkward.

Had a 28 week growth scan on Tues & all is good. Next one in 4 weeks.

Had 1st NCT antenatal class on Wed. Are any other UK ladies going to NCT? It was about baby equipment for the first 6 weeks...we now have a shopping list!

Had midwife on Thurs, had my Anti-D injection and DH heard munchkins hb for the first, he was thrilled! Also saw gp as I'm still anaemic even on 840mg of iron a day so I'm having a blood test on Thurs to see how I absorb iron incase tablets dont get absorbed properly & I might need injections instead.

Other than that all going well here. We just bought paint testers from b&q and think we've decided on a colour, cream at the top & pale green at the bottom with an owl border round the middle. So excited to get started!!

How are you ladies doing? Third tri is exciting but tiring...you need the rest but so much fun stuff to do!

 

[TTCBean]

I don't share many details of my pregnancy with my Mom, either. A couple weeks ago I was explaining natural birth and home birth to her, and I said I was really looking forward to giving birth, etc (I'm having a natural home birth). I feel positive about it, I'm joyous - birth means I get to meet my son!!! Well when I said that she actually LAUGHED at me!!! WTH. And not in a nice way. She said I'll regret my decision to have a drug-free birth when I'm going though labour pain. REALLY? She also commented on how I am being ignorant on child birth (it's really really painful and I should be scared and not think I can actually achieve a drug free, natural birth). Come on. I told her to stop talking and that I'll never bring it up again.

I was feeling kinda like an ass... she had knee surgery a week later and I said "You'll totally regret your surgery you know, it's going to hurt like H E L L!"

 

[Sass827]

I've been wondering about babee too. I hope she is just busy with projects. Ive been knitting a cap for DH for valentines, but it took me 2 weeks to get the pattern right and now I'm so behind. Not sure it will be done on time. What are you ladies doing for valentines? I love that next year I'll have two valentines.
Being sick sucks lady h. I hope you feel better soon. Can you get a humidifier for when you sleep? I got one and rationalized that the baby will need it soon anyway.
Don't let this get you down ttc. Moms are just jerks sometimes. DH and I watched OBEM last night (us version) and the 2 grand moms were so terrible to the girl in labor. Trying to scare her of the pain meds, saying she would be paralyzed, only caring for their own comfort, eating in front of her. We were appalled. After the baby was born, they got in a fist fight in the hall, all before mom ever even got a chance to hold the baby. Goes to show how wonderful moms can be!

 

[Sass827]

Oh and poppy, I don't think you are being ungrateful. I think you just need to establish your boundaries, ie, what you are comfortable with. For me, I might say DH and and I pick the paint, they do the painting itself, we pick the furniture, they help move it in. And if mil or FIL tries to arrange it, just rearrange it after they leave. Boundaries are healthy and you should not feel bad at all.
Congrats on seeing your LO! My classes don't start til next week. What did they say you need for the first 6 weeks? I'm so curious and nervous! =)

 

[TTCBean]

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[poppy13]

I've attached a 28w5d piccy of me. Just in case you're interested It's not long until single figures countdown ladies

I've just got back from mothercare getting 2 bras. I've never bought bras so often!

Sass We get a follow up email before the next class so when they send that through I'll post what they've suggested. Thanks for your reply though about the inlaws...think I'm a little sensitive at the moment! xx

I hope you're all having a good weekend. xx

 

[TTCBean]

28 weeks today!!! Yay!!! 1 week closer to meeting my sweet baby!

 

[kezziek]

Lovely bump Poppy you look great. I know what you mean about buying lots of bras! It's exspensive. It doesn't stop there, takes a while to find the right size and comfort when you start breastfeeding too.

Feels good to say we are finally in the third trimester but 12 weeks still seems like such a long time to me....I'm feeling very impatient! X

 

[poppy13]

Lovely bump Poppy you look great. I know what you mean about buying lots of bras! It's exspensive. It doesn't stop there, takes a while to find the right size and comfort when you start breastfeeding too.

Feels good to say we are finally in the third trimester but 12 weeks still seems like such a long time to me....I'm feeling very impatient! X

Thanks for the bump comment!

The lady in mothercare reccommended getting fitted for a breastfeeding bra around 36 to 38 weeks. I got a great voucher too, £5 off when you spend £30 or more on bras when you sign up in store to their Baby&Me club.

kezzie I'm sure 12 weeks will fly by, the first tri went really quickly and now it's all the exciting stuff! Just think how close you are to holding your beautiful baby.

We've chosen paint colours for the nursery this weekend so it feels even more real now We're going for ivory and pale green with a cute owl border.

Feeling really excited about it all at the moment and Munchkin must be too, he's wriggled non stop today His Dady is going to read him another story tonight too - he feels really close to him when he does that. Its very sweet and always brings a tear to my eye.

Is anyone else suffering with itchy skin? My scalp, back of my neck, armpits, bump and back are driving me mad! I'm lotioning up which helps a little but never having dry skin before this is just horrible