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[pinktiara]

So I've come back from my doctor appointment feeling really sad...my doctor, to be honest, was a complete douchebag and seemed to go out of his way to make me feel less reassured and like the pregnancy will fail...he said:

-He didn't confirm my pregnancy/ask how I'd tested/when I'd tested

-He told me 25% of all pregnancies end in miscarriage, so It's still a likely possibility even though I've not had cramping/bleeding etc

-He doesn't really care that I had the mc before ("Every pregnancy is different"-err, tell that to the many women with recurrent mcs) so won't be doing anything to reassure me

-Not to bother going for the early private scan because "The rays damage the cells and make you miscarry the baby" and it's not worth it anyway because all I'll see is a "dot"

-That my pregnancy is not likely to go well because, even though I've got all "secondary symptoms" (I.e. sore boobs, fatigue) only morning sickness and vomiting tells you the pregnancy will be ok

-I won't get to see the midwife to book in until at least 10 weeks

-I shouldn't be offered any early scans etc "because you're only 22"

I've been left feeling a little upset, like this pregnancy will be doomed and I'm only just starting I could cry and wish I'd never gone, because at least I was happily pregnant before it...now I just feel like a ticking timebomb...

Wow this dr sounds like a jerk off I'm sorry but I had no sickness or vomiting nothing with my first so that's crap. That's like telling every woman who was pregnant to assume we will all have a mc like what kind of crack pot says that to someone. I'm sorry you had to go through that I hope you find a better dr than that.

 

[Babee_Bugs]

pinktiara whats your due date hunnie???, dont think its on the board yet? x

 

[kezziek]

Lpjkp- so sorry you had a bad experience i did too with my first. My Gp left me sobbing absolutely convinced I was going to lose the baby. I had no idea what to expect and i had told her about the painful cramps and she just shrugged and said well you might lose it or you might not and all the stuff you heard about lots of pregnancies ending in miscarriage and there was nothing she could do (which we know is true but what happened to good old fashioned tea and sympathy ey!) she said come back and see me in 3 weeks time if you are 'still pregnant'. I think they just see so many women and get all clinical and forget what it means to you and how important it is to you even in those very early days.
I think thats crap about the morning sickness too, unfortunately even women with morning sickness lose their babies its not always a sign of a healthy pregnancy and can cause lots of problems when its really severe. I know the majority of my very lucky friends had no sickness and went on to have healthy babies.

Really hard day for me today starting to struggle already at work and im only five weeks. Just so tired and nauseous as the day wears on. Starting to get worried as ended up off work sick for 2 months when i got to 6 weeks with my first due to the sickness and its slowly getting worse i just think everyone in the team would feel so let down if that happened this time

 

[Ankha]

So I've come back from my doctor appointment feeling really sad...my doctor, to be honest, was a complete douchebag and seemed to go out of his way to make me feel less reassured and like the pregnancy will fail...he said:

-He didn't confirm my pregnancy/ask how I'd tested/when I'd tested

-He told me 25% of all pregnancies end in miscarriage, so It's still a likely possibility even though I've not had cramping/bleeding etc

-He doesn't really care that I had the mc before ("Every pregnancy is different"-err, tell that to the many women with recurrent mcs) so won't be doing anything to reassure me

-Not to bother going for the early private scan because "The rays damage the cells and make you miscarry the baby" and it's not worth it anyway because all I'll see is a "dot"

-That my pregnancy is not likely to go well because, even though I've got all "secondary symptoms" (I.e. sore boobs, fatigue) only morning sickness and vomiting tells you the pregnancy will be ok

-I won't get to see the midwife to book in until at least 10 weeks

-I shouldn't be offered any early scans etc "because you're only 22"

I've been left feeling a little upset, like this pregnancy will be doomed and I'm only just starting I could cry and wish I'd never gone, because at least I was happily pregnant before it...now I just feel like a ticking timebomb...

Completely agree with everyone else on this - get yourself a new doctor pronto! He sounds like a right arse and like someone else said, I'd be very tempted to report him! Xx

 

[Babee_Bugs]

awww kezzie

is there nothing you can take to help with the nausea??? x

 

[BeccaMichelle]

Thanks for all the kind words girls. You're really sweet. The bleeding has been quite heavy all day. I'd hate to think what kind of environment the baby was trying to survive in if things were actually okay... Now I'm just trying to prepare myself mentally for the appointment tomorrow morning.

Ugh had one spot of pink last night when I wiped. Nothing since then. I'm so nervous. The same thing happened 2 days ago. It's only once and never comes back. I hope this isn't the beginning of the end.

Oh Courtney, I hope not! Mine started spotting pretty consistently. Like everyone says light spotting can really be okay!

lpjkp - That sounds like the worst doctor ever!! I was nauseous with this pregnancy and it wasn't a good sign. I've known at least 5 women to have almost zero nausea and have super healthy babies. One friend has had 3 babies and no nausea!

kezzie - I found lots of ice water with lemon seemed to help a little. Sparking water was even better.

 

[Courtney917]

I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you! I also have an appt tmrw for a scan. I'm going to call in the morning to find out the results of my HCG test and progesterone. Ill feel ok if those numbers are high. Last count for HCG was in the 5000's on Wednesday. So I'm hoping they stayed high. I feel so pessimistic right now. Perhaps its just me mentally preparing myself for the worst :-/.

I hope it all works out for you tmrw!!

 

[BabyMay]

Good luck to all of you who have ultrasounds tomorrow. I hope you all see a heartbeat Let us know how it goes. Prayers!

 

[HopinAndPrayn]

Ahh I have my first ultrasound at exactly 6 weeks on Friday! I'm so excited but also trying not to get my expectations too high of what we're going to see. I hear sometimes you can see the flickering heart and sometimes you can't see much that early ! Waiting til Friday feels like a lifetime even though I know plenty of women don't get their scans this early!

 

[Cassandra1995]

I'm due May 5th.

 

[stuckinoki]

Ah ladies, I'm not sure how much longer I'll get to hang out with you!

My FRER was a BFP just a minute ago...whatever gave me those few light positive tests is obviously draining out of my system.

I expect AF will be right around the corner any time now.

I'll let you know what happens, but I'm not feeling very optimistic right now.

 

[pinktiara]

pinktiara whats your due date hunnie???, dont think its on the board yet? x

I thought it was 13th of May but its the 11

 

[Hann12]

I hope everyone who has scans and appointments goes well!

Stuckinoki - if you are worried yet a blood test to check hcg. Hope it's okay though

Can you see a heartbeat at 6 weeks? I have a scan booked at 6+1 and I think the clinic think they are going to see one but when I googled it there seem to be mixed responses on it! I really hope I do because I know I'll be worried if there isn't one now!

Got my 'pregnant' on my digi this morning so now just got to try and relax and hope my body does what it's meant to! Easier said than done!

 

[Babee_Bugs]

Thanks for all the kind words girls. You're really sweet. The bleeding has been quite heavy all day. I'd hate to think what kind of environment the baby was trying to survive in if things were actually okay... Now I'm just trying to prepare myself mentally for the appointment tomorrow morning.

Hunnie in my last pregnancy, i bled LOADS!! i passed huge blood clots also.. i was convinced i had miscarried!

But hcg tests and a scan showed i actually hadnt!... There is something called a subchrionic hematoma that can generate in early pregnancy and is quite common... its basically like a ball of blood that fills up and empty's sometimes its absorbed but 9 times out of 10 it will come out. There can be clots also as the blood congeles together.

Fingers crossed hunnie x

 

[Babee_Bugs]

Ah ladies, I'm not sure how much longer I'll get to hang out with you!

My FRER was a BFP just a minute ago...whatever gave me those few light positive tests is obviously draining out of my system.

I expect AF will be right around the corner any time now.

I'll let you know what happens, but I'm not feeling very optimistic right now.

Stucki the fact your still getting a BFP is deffo something to hold on to!!! PMA PMA hunnie

 

[Babee_Bugs]

Usually around 6 weeks+ a heartbeat should be detectable (looks like a little flicker on the screen) sometimes it can be heard!

If you have a retroverted uterus then you may find it hard to pick up the baby untill later on.

It all depends if you have your dates correct also, if you think your 6 weeks, but are actually 5, then the most you may see is a Gestational sac, yolk sac and maybes fetal pole.

 

[Babee_Bugs]

Morning Ladies and goodluck to those of you, who are having scans x

 

[Babies123]

Courtney917 - ive had the same "spotting" as you...it was a little only when i wiped. It happened on wed. and then again on monday. Just once on those days and then nothing - not even a speckle after that. Some people habe said it can be implantation bleeding, but arent we passed that stage? Im 4 weeks but got my bfp a week ago! My Doctor gets back from vacation today, so I will call her later for an appt. I was freaking out at first but since it wasnt alot or consistent, I dont think we have anything to worry about. All the cramping I had mostly went away. i only have a cramp in the mornings that literally last a few seconds and then at night the same thing. nothing too painful or crazy.
Please let me know how today goes for you at your appt!! good luck

 

[sarahuk]

Im sure its fine Even though we get our bfps before af is due, its then highly normal to get some spotting around the time our af would have come. I had some pink and brown the day of af and day after and nothing since

 

[Hann12]

Thank babee bugs, my dates are def right so FX I see it!

I think the spotting can still be implantation as the egg gets deeper and deeper, i only had one tiny bit with my DD but this time it's been a couple of days of tiny bits of light brown cm. Its very hard not to worry, I'm constantly hoping its going up be okay and feeling every twinge! I thought I'd be more chilled this time but I'm really not!