Brandi- Well sorry to be the bad guy here, and i'm sure i'll get flack for this, but how could you let this happen or be happy? I mean are you really in any sort of situation to have another kid? You already have 3, one of which is special needs which is very hard financially. Clearly your husband doesn't want another kid if he's already had a vasectomy, and you have said he didn't want you to be a surrogate(which i dont blame him) because you'd get emotionally attached. I know vasectomies can have screw ups but to your husband thats not going to be his first thought, i'm sure you know what i mean there. I don't know, I hope all the best for you but this just seems like you were being careless and a huge a mistake that could really screw things up for various aspects of your life.