Mayhem Babies! May 2011 mummies and babies

[Wiggler]

Damn this site, it showed a nice chunky advert for World of Warcraft so I decided to have a peek at my old account, and I got offered a free trial, I am now a geeky WoW player again, my kids have no hope

 

[new_to_ttc]

I was born on Mothers Day and Ive had my birthday on Mothers Day and Easter before now. Joshua is May 3rd so often gets his birthday on May day weekend which is awesome! George is May 12th - which for me was 'had enough day' ha ha makes it super special

 

[MilosMommy7]

wud- i found you on wiggler's friend list

 

[new_to_ttc]

Im getting excited now, the lady/company that had made Joshua's cake for Sunday has offered to deliver it for me, (saves me the 60 mile round trip!). I so cant wait to see it

 

[MilosMommy7]

i hate the weekends when i see people posting on FB about going out for the night. and half of them have kids. i feel like i start regretting ever having kids. i miss the freedom of doing whatever i wanted and being happy. i know i can go out any weekend i choose. but i cant because i have responsibility of children. i mean, dont these girls with kids who go out every weekend ever feel bad for going out so much? personally i feel like i'm always judged as a bad mom because i'm not home with my kids. my SIL and her cousin are going out (her cousin has a daughter 1.5 months yuonger than Milo). at first my SIL said she didnt wanna go out cause she didnt wanna get ready. so her cousin was just gonna come over to get ready at her house to just chill with us and see Ava. so my SIL comes down and said she'd go out around 11:30 after thomas got off work so she wasnt leaving me. but then thomas walks in the door at 9:50 and my SIL was like "alright i'm gonna get ready and go out now" jst minutes after thomas got there. and then tomorrow night thomas's friends from work want him to go to a party. and if i say no again (they ask every single weekend) i know it makes me look like a controlling bitch, so i have to let thomas go out tomorrow. i'm just feeling very blahhh right now. sorry for venting. lol

 

[lisaf]

lol, well keep in mind that being a good mommy means doing things that make you happy and help you relax and unwind and are a well-rounded person. I say this as a total hypocrite who doesn't like to go out either, lol!
I just know that my parents both worked and they felt too guilty to stick us with a babysitter and go out as a couple. It would have been a lot better for us kids if they had nurtured their relationship since they ended up divorcing.

 

[MilosMommy7]

my parents were never home and worked opposite shifts. and they always fought. i hated it. i wish they wouldve gotten divorced because that wouldve been better for us all. but they stayed together for us

 

[lisaf]

oh yeah, don't get me wrong, once my parent's relationship fell apart, it was MUCH better that they divorced. I had to keep telling my dad that over the years because he felt so guilty
I'm just saying that one of the reasons their relationship fell apart is that they didn't prioritize their relationship enough.

 

[heyyady]

24- Charlotte latches like that all the time- they keep assuring me she'll improve- until then, it's ouchie!

My girl's have been sleeping and eating all day long- 4-6 ounces a feeding every 2 hours and nursing in between! Hubby just asked if they were going to wake up 3 feet long and 22 pounds in the morning

And for the record I think you lot are NUTS for talking about having more already!

(Heidi Amavisca if you want to add me on FB)

 

[heyyady]

Milo- Lisa is absolutely right- you need to go out and spend some YOU time so you can be a good Mommy for your little ones. By all means, don't ditch your kids at the sitter's every night so you can go bar hopping, but get out a bit, hon- it's amazing how much more of yourself you feel like you have to give to your kids

 

[MilosMommy7]

heyy- growth spurt time for them! lol


when i went to the gay club with my SIL 2 weeks ago, i came back and felt nice. it felt good to be out drinking. aside from a vacation me and her took last july to New Jersey, the other weekend was the first time i went out and got to actually enjoy it without feeling guilty. my MIL wont watch the kids if i wanna go out to the bar. she thinks tht OH should be at home watching them. but i know he doesnt like it because it feel unfair to him becase i'm going out. and then my MIL looks down on me because i'm a mom that likes to go out (even though i dont actually go out as much as i'd like). today she was laughing at me and was like "now look at you, housewife stuck at home with the kids and no life" thanks for letting me know as if i didnt already!

 

[BizyBee]

I don't think badly of parents who go out unless it's a daily thing. It's really important for parents to have time to themselves. It makes the relationship stronger and makes them more patient when there's an occasional break. Z and I have been out once a week (sometimes bars, dinner, trivia night and only for a few hours) since Luke was about 3 weeks old and I truly believe that's why we transitioned to parenthood so well. Prior to children, we had a very active social life so this is a big change for us. Going out allows us to stay close to our friends but also each other. We also miss Luke so much when we're away that we appreciate him more when we are home. It does not hurt our baby to have time each week with a grandparent. It is better for all of us. Luke has only had breastmilk since birth and he is able to take an occasional bottle so it doesn't affect him much. If you have access to baby sitters, I really think you should try to get out once in a while. Your kids will thank you when they're older for raising them in a happy household. Geez, some if my best childhood memories were of sleeping over at Grandma's!

 

[BrandiCanucks]

Morning ladies!!

Finally have a day off placement and Anberlin decides to wake up early...but the morning I had to wake up early for placement, she decided to sleep in. Figures...

Mike took the kids (minus Anberlin) to Marineland this morning so I'm just waiting for her to be tired enough to go back to sleep so I can follow suit.

Well, I may not be the first pregnant one of the bunch, but I bet I'm the first one to see AF. The ugly witch reared her witchy face my way yesterday afternoon. I hate the postpartum stuff. I'm exclusively BF, my stash is enormous and I get AF back before my kids hit the 3-month age. At least Anberlin was the longest it waited to come back for, lol.

Hope you're all well. Will return later today, after my nap

 

[wild2011]

will go back pages and add ladies on fb in a mo, im not searchable but not sure if any of you can get off others friends lists... phillippa wild nonetheless,

Brandi ive already had my first period, only bled for 10 days ish, spotted for another day or so, first period started when luca was 4 weeks + 2 days, 4 days in now im guessing over by sunday didnt get one for months and months when i was bf back to routine quickly this time tho.

 

[wild2011]

wud-ive added u

Hey- searched u and got no results

 

[mummy3]

I dont want af Its threatening but so far nada, earliest for me was 8 weeks, longest was just over 2 years.

Milos's, you shouldn't feel guilty about going out but try not to feel so down if you cant get out either Hubby and I get a night out maybe once or twice a year, we have a date planned for 17th dec our anniversary. We do make a big effort to watch grown up tv and talk and chill when kids in bed though.

Hope the growth spurt passes quick for you heyy.

 

[hopefulmama]

milo- don't feel bad at all, go and enjoy yourself. once a week i go out with a friend, some weeks it might even be 2 nights, we just go for dinner or to a wine bar and max 3 hours because Sebastien has only had breastmilk and a bottle here and there so nothing major(we decided to call him only by his middle name to stop the confusion between him and dh). DH & I have like a 'date night' once a week and sometimes we bring the baby to dinner because he sleeps the entire time anyway and sometimes we go alone. It's nice to have my hair and makeup done and get dressed nicely, prior to pregnancy i wen tout almost every night and we were a very social couple and probably went out for dinner 6 out of 7 nights a week, so yes this is all very different and new to me, though pregnancy was somewhat of a crash course cuz i got so lazy and didn't give a shit about it all anymore. Imagine me and dh have never lived this long together in the same city, since we've been together i've always split my time with 3 weeks in miami and 2 weeks in nyc, and went back and forth for 4 years like that and it worked out well for both of us and suited us well. It's nice to have breaks from your husband, so my 3 hours, 1-2 nights a week is golden.

I am going on a 'mommycation' at the beginning of october to nyc for a week which will be amazing to be in my own space, alone and to be in my old apartment thats all things me and reminds me of when i was single. I can't wait, it's what motivates me to get fit and back to my normal size and in normal jeans, so i have about 2 1/2 months to get there, which means i have to work my ass off big time and be very diligent.

 

[BizyBee]

Well I added some of you on FB. Don't think I have milos, new, 24, others? I tried to look back for names.

Hopeful, I agree. It really helps to go out and do things, even if it's for a short period of time.

 

[hopefulmama]

bizy- whats ur info and i'll add you. I have my privacy settings extreme so it doesnt allow me to be searched or added, i can only request people.

 

[24/7]

Bizy will go and find you, my name is Jen too. xx