Awwww, I'm sorry your OH is being such an ass, milos. My husband was the same way before the separation. It took that time apart to realize what we did have, so separation isn't always a bad thing. Things aren't perfect here, but they're MUCH better.
New, no I'm not sure. As I've mentioned before, I feel like I'm only doing it because my husband wants me to. It's a matter of do it, or get out. The OB is doing the most minimally invasive procedure, the clips, so if I ever decide I want it reversed, I have a 98% chance of success.
Truth is, I know Anberlin is my last, but I wouldn't mind having more kids.
As for the surrogacy, the mom might be adopting, and if not, she wants to carry a child so I'd be donating an egg instead