"Me" time

[SpringCrane]

How much time to yourself do you get each day/week? How do you spend it? What about your partner?

 

[gingmg]

Very little. I went to a yoga workshop last week and it felt so good to do something like that for myself. I felt like a new person. I realized I need to make it a priority to do nice things for myself every week, even if it's just a bubble bath after my son goes to bed or 20 minutes of yoga in my living room.

 

[beccabonny]

I have Mondays and Fridays off most weeks, and my SO works, so I'm alone, but I spend most of the time cleaning, doing other chores, grocery shopping, etc. When I do get alone time I like to read, hike, work out, or indulge in a tv show I know he's not interested in. He gets barely any alone time, but it seems like he really doesn't like to be alone. When I do find him having taken a day off or left work earlier than me, I rarely find him doing anything besides playing that guitar

 

[CRWx]

Not much generally although my mum would and does have her if I need a bit of a breather. I had an evening off a couple of weeks ago but apart from that I spend most my time with my LO, unless you discount when I'm getting her stuff ready for bed when she's having cuddles with her nanny! But it's just me and her, I'd get more time to myself if FOB was around. Feel guilty asking my mum to have her!

 

[LoraLoo]

None really. Id love a little break, just a few hours every now and again. Hubby is same really. I Have 1 child home educated, then the little ones at home with me all day and 4 year old does half days. Nights are spend bathing, making dinner etc, by the time the eldest are in bed, all I want to do is sleep, and weekends are mainly doing jobs around the house ir fsniky stuff. X

 

[jessmke]

I don't get a lot of "me" time when my OH is working days since he is gone from 6:15 am until 8 pm. By the time my LO is in bed on those days I'm pretty exhausted so I don't tend to do much in the evenings unless my LO had an especially good nights sleep the night before, in which case I will usually use our home gym or run on the treadmill. Me and OH usually have a glass of wine in the hot tub after LO has gone to sleep at night, after which I go to bed. When my OH works nights or when he is on his days off then I can have "me" time every day if I want it (which I usually do!). I usually do something active, trail running, biking, swimming, yoga, etc. Basically anything that I can't do when LO is with me. I am a better mom if I get a bit of a break and don't have to be a mom all day every day, and my OH enjoys spending alone time with our LO. I am breastfeeding and my LO won't take a bottle so I can only have about 2 hrs of "me" time before I need to make sure I am home to feed LO. Even when I have to look after LO I try to do something I like every day and bring her along with me, so I will go for a run with her in the jogging stroller, go for a hike with her in the backpack, etc. If I need to do shopping or chores or something I do those on days when I have LO because she can just come with me, and I don't want to "waste" my me time on things I could do with my LO.

My OH works 5 days on/5 days off so he gets quite a bit of time off work. He spends most of his free time renovating our house (which he has been doing by himself for almost 2 years, it's almost done!) so I tend to have my LO even when my OH is off work and at home unless I ask him to take her for a bit (which he always will). He also plays hockey a couple of times a week, after which they go out for drinks so it is a full evening of socializing for him 2-3 times a week.

 

[catty]

I have a child with me at all times during the day and then i go straight to work 5-8pm. So on a day to day basis i get very little. I do make sure to take time out for myself at the weekend though as i really feel so much better after having a nice relaxed shower, time to do my hair and going to a shop alone.
Both our parents are happy to help and id say the kids have a sleepover roughly every 3-4 months, they have had 2 this year which was so nice.
OH gets some but he is similar that he works all day and then looks after the kids and puts them to bed.
I feel i get enough 'me' time if there was a night out i wanted to go to id go, same as OH. we probably meet up with friends twice every 6 weeks.
We would always attend weddings etc but actual date nights seem rare right now, so tired this pregnancy

 

[greats]

I get me time every weekend for a couple hours while hubby takes care of the girls... I'll take a hot bath, do my hair/makeup, meet a friend for lunch, whatever. I'm a sahm and if I didn't have me time I would lose it. Hubby gets the same. Once every other month my mom takes the girls for a day and a night so we can have a date night.

 

[Teri7489]

For now my 2 yo and 10 month old nap together from 1-3 and hubby is at work so I get that time 5 days a week. Also they go to bed at 7:30 so have a fee hours of peace. Every now and again my sister tales them so me and hubby can go for a meal or to the cinema. I don't have me time out anywhere but that's by choice. I'm a bit of a loser so get lonely haha

 

[MindUtopia]

We both work full-time, so really that's our 'me time'. We don't really take time to do anything alone in the evenings or on the weekend because our time altogether is so limited anyway. We do try to have a date night out about once every month or two where we go out to dinner alone, like together, but without a kid in tow. On rare occasions, one of us might go away to see a friend or go to a wedding (like if it's adults only and the other stays at home) or visit family or something for the weekend, but that might be only a few times a year and actually on about twice ever for me. We sit down and watch tv at night after dinner and bedtime. That's about all the 'me time' we get really that isn't at work. We tend to like to stay together and do things as a family rather than go off and do our own things most of the time.

 

[dani_tinks]

I don't really get any. I try to have a bath in the evenings when I have the kids down but apart from that that's it at the moment. I'm hoping to get back to my dance classes on a Friday evening which are an hour long. That'll definitely help my mental state .

 

[loeylo]

Tbh we both get enough. I think I will struggle more when I'm full time again!

We have a child free couples night maybe once per month where she stays overnight with family. We also each have one individual night a month where the other one stays at home. So that's two nights per month totally child free each.

We each take a morning at the weekend, so once per week each of us is off childcare and housework duties until lunch.

Our wee one goes to bed at least an hour before us through the week, so that's our "us" time as a couple. We also have all weekends as family time even though each of us have a morning off each week.

It really helps that we have family close by who help out a lot. And my OH does 50% of childcare duties - soon to be more when I go full time and he goes part time!

 

[Starlight32]

I have me time when my baby naps during the day. I usually shower, eat, do household chores, or sleep myself. My husband will watch her for a bit in the evenings when he gets home from work, but he likes my help when he watches her. He gets me time for the rest of the evening after work and on the weekends. Not sure if things will change if I go back to work.

 

[Mamoosca]

Not much at all at the moment. Although my MIL is good and will take the kids for a few hours and will have the older two over night once a month, but other than that I ALWAYS have my youngest with me and she doesn't sleep until about 9.30 / 10pm at the moment and by then i'm exhausted and go to bed. x