medical management

[lilesMom]

Mrs green did u get the all clear?

 

[lilesMom]

Scan lady also said the main reason they say wait one cycle
Is because u hve slight I crease risk of mc
She said if there was something left inside
There would be small chance new bub could implant into that
And then miscarry.
Makes sense to me
But we are gonna wait to do blood tests anyway
Best of luck everyone xx
If anyone finds this and is struggling
Il keep this in my subscribed
And will help if I can xxx

 

[mrs.green2015]

I did get the all clear. I stopped bleeding Friday and everything seems to have passed. She told us to use condoms this month Niro don't know. So you were still bleeding when you went to your appointment?

How are you doing emotionally?

 

[lilesMom]

Glad u got the all clear too x
Yeah still hve a little bleeding but much less.
I think I actually ov the night before last.
Had cm and ov pain.
Scan lady said not unusual ten days after passing sac and bub
Didn't think it would happen at least till bleeding stopped
But she said ovaries look fine so prob ov pain
I'm not gonna ttc fir a bit
Getting blood tests done and stuff too
So gonna wait for them
I don't feel brave enough awhile anyway ��
Best of luck with ur ttc
Hope its fast xx

 

[lilesMom]

Nearly missed ur Qs. Sirryw
I'm ok ish emotionally
Its my third mc so I'm getting used to it unfortunately
I hve a lil boy who keeps me distracted
Good and bad
Sometimes u just want to be alone and be pissed off but u cant
How are u?

 

[mrs.green2015]

I am so incredibly sorry you've had 3 losses. That is absolutely the worst. I feel like it's a roller coaster. I'm fine one day and the next I'm a mess. I've noticed when I get stressed or upset about anything it all comes back to this if that makes sense. Hubs is starting to let it get to him too so I think it's a bad combo. Plus were trying to buy a house. At one point it came up if we should even try again. But I think it's what we both truly want.

I can't believe you ovulated already. That's so fast! I have no idea when I'll ovulate, I don't have symptoms and I'm not temping or testing. I figure my period will come in within 6 weeks. I just started spitting today again.

 

[lilesMom]

Yup that makes total sense
Its like all the things build up till u crack a little
And the sadness sneaks in ��
Bad day for me today too.
I'm nearly at bfn already.
Really faint now.
Obvs I want bfn to say my body is normal
But I don't cos I still want to be preg
Sucky!!!!
I've never got ov and bfn thus fast before.
Last two times took 3 weeks and 3.5 weeks for bfn
And then two weeks after af
Its not even been two weeks
The one time I don't want to try right away is when my body does it fast
Doh ��
My little guy had cerebral palsy and epilepsy
His epilepsy meds are being changed and he is cranky all the time
He is driving me potty trying to keep him happy
All I want to do is cry today
And its def like u said other stuff making me worse
I'm ok if rest of life is ok
But I'm feeling like life is very unfair today
Hope ur a bit better
Xxx
It comes in patches and soon the bad patches are very spaced out xxx
Hugs

 

[mrs.green2015]

I haven't even tested yet to see if I'm at a bfn. I think I'm scared to. I want a bfn, but then I don't just like you. So I get it. It sounds like your a saint lol your son needs a lot of attention and you're still doing it even if it is driving you crazy. I don't even want to be at work half the time I can't even imagine.

Hubs and I have been on such an emotional roller coaster with everything and we haven't been synced up so it's been frustrating. And although I know he needs to grieve part of me just needs him strong for me still so I feel selfish but I'm trying to let him do his thing and be strong for him now.

 

[lilesMom]

I'm def not a saint ��
Not even close ��
My Oh prefers not to acknowledge the losses much
He is the strong and silent type ��
Drives me mad sometimes
I used to think he wasn't even sad
But he feels it alright
Just doesn't know how to express it
We all deal with things our own way
No way is right or wrong
Its just what we need to do to middle through it
We will come out the other side
I promise u and myself ��
From experience, it does get better
And u will feel better
Take hubby cuddles even if ye don't feel like it at times
Its a good way to bridge any gaps between ye
But I'm a sucker for hugs anyway ��
I'm rambling now ��

 

[lilesMom]

Don't make any ttc decisions just yet.
I change my mind every ten mins on when Il ttc
I know its cos I'm a bit muddled
So I'm making no decisions till my emotions settle a bit
Xx
U will know when u feel strong enough to go again xx

 

[mrs.green2015]

We're be really Ttc but ntnp this month. I can't use protection it just seems so wrong when we've been trying so long. So we agreed to that awhile ago. Just not sure when or if I'll go back to tracking everything and taking the medication. We're house hunting this weekend so it's a nice distraction.

Also, I'm a bug sucker for cuddles. I always tell hubs I can't even be mad at him properly because when I'm upset I wanna cuddle with him because he's my safe place. Even if he's the reason I'm upset!

 

[lilesMom]

I know , me too.
Ruined many a good argument on me has cuddles, hee hee

How long hve ye been trying hon?
Are u on clomid or something else?
If I'm being too nosy u don't need to answer me x
Everyone makes their own decisions on when they can try.
My bro and sil hve a beautiful 3 yr old girl who was conceived before af after mc
Hoping u get lovely surprise sticky bean xxx

 

[lilesMom]

Happy house hunting ��

 

[BunnyN]

Just wanted to say thanks for posting your experience. I am going through a natural MC. Natural is all I ever considered but things didn't go well for me so if I ever end up in this position again I'd like to know more about other options.

 

[lilesMom]

Thanks bunny n.
Sorry for ur loss hon.
R u ok? Did u hve a bad natural mc
Not that there is a good one, but I mean extra traumatic
Hugs xxx
I've had 2 previous d and c
Hopefully I won't hve to but if I hve to make the horrible choice again..
I'm not sure which id chose.
Medical management speeds things up in comparison to natural I think.
But doesn't work for everyone.
But it feels very long in comparison to d and c
I'm still having some bleeding 2 weeks later but not major.
But u avoid hospital visit and anaesthetic
So......
Even having had both I'm not sure which was best.
There isn't really a good mc I think.
We just do what we can to make it easier but
Its never good
Hugs xx
I rambled a bit, sorry �� x

 

[BunnyN]

I lost 2 litres of blood and went into shock so physically it was bad. Strangely enough emotionally I think it was not as bad as I expected, maybe because although sad I'm feeling blessed to still be here with OH and our two LOs. If I knew the same wasn't going to happen again I'd do natural again any day as I hate the idea of surgery and feel the natural process allows some kind of closure for me, but it got a bit close for comfort. Hopefully it will never happen again anyway but I think we need to come up with a plan just in case before we can feel comfortable with TTC again.

Sorry for your losses. I agree there is no good MC.

 

[mrs.green2015]

So sorry bunny!

I was on Black Cohosh (its like a natural Clomid) and progesterone. Weve been trying for about a year but I feel a little more positive because we actually got pregnant so its good that I know we can get pregnant.

House hunting was a bust! Hubs hated everything.

 

[lilesMom]

Hugs bunny that's awfull.
U could ask for medical management in hosp
Due to ur history they would surely agree
Giant hugs xxx

Sorry house hunting didn't go well hon. Xx
Hope u find perfect one soon
Fingers for fast bfp XXX

 

[mrs.green2015]

Today was a rough day. I cried all day about everything. I feel so alone. Hubs works so much I don't even see him more than a couple hours a day while he's sleeping. Friends are busy with their families. It feels like the world is moving on and my life has stood still heartbroken.

 

[BunnyN]

So sorry you are having a bad patch Mrs.green. I am dreading the everyone else moving on stage. Because I had such a traumatic time everyone is fussing about me still. Even so I find it strange how most people never mention the baby, just how I am. I think people just don't know what to say but I sometimes end up feeling like I am grieving in secret.

You lost a baby its normal to be grieving. Take your time, do you have someone you can talk to?