medical management

[lilesMom]

It does feel like people forget the baby doesn't it
Hurts when its all we can think about
I suppose it was closer to us and more real to us
Since we were carrying bub.
I even got , maybe ur better off cod ur hands would hve been way too full.
( my lil dude is 2.5 with special needs )
I didn't even answer.
I know it was said cos the person was fishing for something good to say
It wasn't meant harshly but came out sounding very bad.
People get confused and blurt out stuff to cover their awkwardness

The world def moves on a lot quicker than we do.
Ur not alone though.
We r here xxx
We know ur pain and feel the same hon.
I promise it really does get better
Even if it feels like it wont
Or even if u feel guilty at feeling better.
I will never forget my 3 angels
But I will move forward.
U will think of bub one day without the awfull pain
Hugs xxx
But for now let yourself feel what u need to feel
U need to work ur way through the grief first xxx
But if u feel too overwhelmed do ask for help xxx

 

[BunnyN]

People do tend to say the wrong thing. Mostly I am okay with that because I am just grateful they try to say something. I find the awkward avoidance worse. The only one I found really hurtful was 'its better like that because you can take proper care of the two you have' (we have a 9 month old and a 2.5 month old too). Thankfully it was said to OH, not me. Not sure what I would have said to that. This pregnancy was planned but even if it wasn't that's not the point.

 

[mrs.green2015]

Thanks bunny. As far as someone to talk to I don't really think I do. My hubs is amazing but he works every single day. I see him like 4 hours a day when one of us is sleeping. Everyone else seems to have forgotten.

 

[lilesMom]

My bro and sil hve a 2 yr old, 3 yr old , a 4 yr old and a 16 yr old.
They r most def taken care of exceptionally well.
Just cos ur kids r close in age doesn't mean u cant take care of them.
But I think people say things like that cos they r at a loss as to what to say
So we let them off the hook ��

 

[BunnyN]

I think you are right, the friend who said it is in his 80s and a widower who never had kids of his own but he is very sweet with our two. I found what he said quite upsetting but I'm trying to let him off the hook.

 

[mrs.green2015]

I agree. Just because they're close doesn't mean you can't take care of them. I hope we're lucky enough to have our kids close in age. As of right now we only want 2, but that could change. Lol I want them as close as I can. I have an adopted sister and were only 3 months apart and it's amazing! We go through all the same things together.

Today I'm feeling kinda overwhelmed. This weekend was rough and we were supposed to tell everyone on thanksgiving (this Thursday) so I'm worried about how it'll be emotionally.

 

[lilesMom]

Arrrhgh I had big post typed and it vamoosed
Doh

I'm sure there was no malice meant in the mans comment
If he is normally good natured it was prob struggling to find right words xx
Just like my sil, I think she just said first thing that popped in her head
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Mrs green having a sis so clse must hve been fab
Ye be like twins ��
Were ye adopted young ? Xx
Hope u start to feel better soon hon xxx
Are u taking physical care of itself
Even if u don't feel like good food and walks
It will lift ur mood in spite of everything
( not a cure but helps xxx )
Internet people are people to talk to.��
My first mmc , I found a great group here to talk to.
We still chat now, nearly 4 years later.
Big hugs hon xx
Do u like music?
I hve songs I listen to when sad and sing out loud to.
And cry to ��
Makes me feel better to release it xxx

Are ye both ttc soon.
I'm torn.
Between being gratefull for my son and doing blood tests and losing weight first.
( which I prob will )
But a little impulsive part of me wants to go now again !!!

 

[mrs.green2015]

I'm actually not adopted, she is. I'm trying to take care of myself. And I do love having my internet friends it's nice to be able to talk to people who are experiencing it or have. I've been watching Greys anatomy because it makes an cry but not about anything real. So I feel better lol

We're ntnp this month and probably start trying again next month. Hubs asked me last night if I would starting taking the medicine again I told him I would. And he seemed happy about it. (We got pregnant our very first month taking it last time) I'm torn too but I selfishly really just want a baby.

 

[lilesMom]

That's what songs do for me ��
Glad u found something that lets u release without too much hurt xx
I must try watching greys , I never got into it first time round
But everyone loves it

Ur not selfish at all for wanting a baby xxx
Totally natural unselfish to want that x
Hugs

I picked it up wrong , its ur sis. X
That's nice to hve sibling so close xxx
I've 11 older siblings but closest is 3 years older.
I loved having company and want my lil dude to hve some back up ��
But we will see if I get my way. ��
2 mc this year is enough for me
Il wait till 2016 anyway and see from there I rhink
But I can cheer ye on xxx

 

[BunnyN]

I am fourtunate to have lots of suppoert from friends, family and OH but sometimers it is still a lonely process. There is some stuff I just dont know how to talk about. Some stuff is easier to talk about with the ladies on here because you know others are going through exactly the same thing so you dont have to explain it all.

After my first loss I was really conflicted about TTC. Ironically this time I decided pretty much instantly that I couldnt wait to TTC again and I felt fine about wanting to. Then I almost died and it has put everything in the air again. Not sure what to think now.

 

[mrs.green2015]

Greys is amazing! It's amazing for awhile then gets boring for s couple episodes then amazing again!

TMI warning-

Today I've had lots of creamy cm. I know it's probably because my period is almost here. But I still secretly hope I'm going to get pregnant.

 

[BunnyN]

Hopefully lots of creamy cm is a sign your cycle is getting back to normal anyway.

 

[lilesMom]

Hugs hon. Xx
U will know when ur ready.
Last time it took me 3 months to feel ready again
First time I wanted to right away
But I had some tests done on my liver and had to wait for results
Then OH was away, so ended up waiting two months as well.
If I get back into healthy eating now
And lose some weight id feel better 😊 about ttc

 

[lilesMom]

Sorry i missed a page.
Fingers crossed for u xx

 

[lilesMom]

Had to get another course of antibiotic
Infection wasn't totally gone.
Feeling very gghggrrr today.
Hoping its last of hormones leaving and Il get bfn soon.
I'm allergic to thoughts of ever ttc again today!!!
My lil guy had to get cast done for his leg today
( not broken, just keeps his leg in right position)
He roared and bawled through it.
I was crying by the end too.
3 if us had to hold him down to do it.
Not related to mc.
But the whole lot is getting to me today

Hope ye r doing better xx

 

[lilesMom]

Any luck Mrs green?
Hope u get ur wish xx

 

[mrs.green2015]

Got my bfn yesterday but for a week prior to that and a little yesterday I cried at everything!! Even radio commercials that weren't even sad! Hubs is sick so no Bd lately but that's ok. It's probably better for my body not to get pregnant this month.

Hope you have a better day today and if you're in the states happy thanksgiving!

 

[lilesMom]

Maybe its a good sign of my body so ��
Thanks xx
I'm in Ireland but happy thanks giving too xx
Are u feeling ok ish now?
Hope so x

 

[mrs.green2015]

My emotions come and go. I'm ok now but waves of sadness. That's grief though so I understand. You feelin any better?

 

[BunnyN]

I think I have grief and days when its hormones all over the place too.