Hi ladies,
I wanted to share my experience of a medically managed miscarriage for the sake of those that unfortunately have to face it too (or are considering it). I'll start my saying my experience was NOT too bad at all and certainly not as bad as some of the stories you read on the internet.
OUR STORY
Our baby stopped growing between 5-6 weeks. We found out at our scan when I should have been 11 weeks along.
I had a hard time trying to decide whether to opt for a medically managed miscarriage or a D&C. A natural miscarriage didn't seem to be an option as my body just wouldn't let go.
I spent hours reading about other people's experiences of both methods. The more I read, the more petrified I became. I didn't want a D&C due to the slight risk of scarring (particularly as this was our first pregnancy). I understand that the risk is minimal but it just wasn't a risk I was comfortable with. I do however respect that a D&C is the right decision for some people though.
MY EXPERIENCE OF A MEDICALLY MANAGED MISCARRIAGE
First tablet: no sickness, felt fine, started bleeding the day after (consistently but not heavily).
Second tablet: pessary was administered in hospital at 9am this morning, then I was allowed to go home to miscarry myself. I passed the sac just before 1pm. I took co-codamol for the pain. I only started to feel 'uncomfortable' at about 11am. Yes, the discomfort increased and yes I was 'sore' - I would relate it to a heavy period. BUT... by no means was I in agony. The pain certainly was NOT excruciating. It was very manageable. The worst of the pain was right before I passed the sac and that lasted for about 5 mins - again... it was manageable. In fact, when I passed the sac, I was quite surprised that that was as bad as it would get. The pain immediately subsided and I got 'back to normal' quickly afterwards. I continued to bleed the rest of the day but the bleeding slowed down.
WHY I'M SHARING MY STORY: REASSURANCE!!!
My main aim in sharing my story is to reassure those of you who are facing the same situation. I know that everyone's experience is different but it's not necessarily going to be very painful for everyone. You may find it so much easier than you think (as I did). Please don't work yourself up about it. If you've made the decision to go ahead with it, have faith that it'll be ok.
MY ADVICE TO YOU
- Buy a hot water bottle. I used it on my lower back and it was a GREAT comfort.
- Only take the painkillers when your 'discomfort' becomes stronger but don't leave it too late either.
- Have a husband/friend there to care for you. Just having support there, someone to talk to, someone to make you a drink is important. Lean of your friends and family too. They want to do what they can to help. I found talking it through very healing.
- Be positive and do not assume that you will be in severe pain. You might not.
- My husband made a very good point... 'those with a negative story tend to share them more online than those who got through the experience with relative ease'. This comforted me before I went on to have my second tablet. He's right! My Gynecology lady said that their last two cases before me went smoothly and it was all over by lunchtime. The internet does not represent statistics.
- Whatever your experience, it will not last forever (physically at least).
For me, I'm extremely glad that I stood by my decision to have it medically managed. It was certainly the right choice for me and god forbid, but if I was in the same situation again, I would choose the same option if I could.
I hope you take some comfort in this. If anyone has any questions, I'm happy to respond.
Best wishes!!! xxx