Midwife wants to do a home assessment....

[calm]

That sounds very intrusive and slightly patronising. I'm guessing it's because your a younger mother-but your hardly a teenager

I had my first baby just before my 20th birthday and had nothing like that.

It's probably just some scheme to identify those at possible risk or in need of extra support.

The OP is 32 years old, so I doubt they could justify it by age

 

[BigAl]

I had a home visit/inspection by the mw last time, but it was more like 36w. It didn't bother me tbh. And am most definitely not a younger mother, lol.

 

[lola85]

Hi my friend is a midwife in Manchester, not Bolton but not too far away I can ask her if she knows anything about this? I never had it and I didnt get any baby equipment delivered till after 30 weeks so if the midwife had come to see me at 20weeks she would have thought baby was sleeping on a futon ;P

 

[ChristiansMum]

I haven't had this done with DS or DD and I was a teenage mum with DS (18 and still lived at home) but I agree with what the other ladies have said 21wks is far too early. I'm nearly 29wks and all I have brought is a couple of outfits and a couple of packs of nappies. Also this baby won't have their own room as we only have a 3 bedroom house so baby will be in with us and then when he gets bigger he will be in with his big brother x

 

[CarlyP]

Are you sure it was your midwife? There has been a few stories about bogus midwives knocking randomly on peoples doors asking to come in. Just seems odd at 21 weeks? I have never heard of this. I would ring your clinic and question it.

 

[RosieRosieP]

I'd be in trouble...nursery is currently bare brick works, dangling wires and dodgy floorboards.

Purchases are currently being stored at our parents homes with the plan it will come across when im around 35 weeks x

 

[Enasy]

Thanks for all your replies ladies, I don't have a steady midwife I just see who ever is there when my appointment is booked for. I am seeing this mid wife who called me tomorrow morning at my local clinic so will find out more then.

No one I know has had this and after looking into it the only thing i can think of is I suffer from tocophobia (a fear of pregnancy and child birth) so maybe this is them keeping an eye on me. up until now i have had all my appointments at the local clinic as i cant bear to have them at my house. I don't want any medical personnel contaminating my safe place. I have worked in child care for over 10 years so will be fine after the baby arrives. We live in a large 5 bedroomed home in a nice area. we havent bought a thing yet apart from a pair of baby converse so there is nothign for her to see apart from to nosy at our house

 

[Yo_Yo]

That sounds very intrusive and slightly patronising. I'm guessing it's because your a younger mother-but your hardly a teenager

I had my first baby just before my 20th birthday and had nothing like that.

It's probably just some scheme to identify those at possible risk or in need of extra support.

The OP is 32 years old, so I doubt they could justify it by age

there goes my pregnancy brain-I read 21 weeks as years somehow!

 

[Enasy]

That sounds very intrusive and slightly patronising. I'm guessing it's because your a younger mother-but your hardly a teenager

I had my first baby just before my 20th birthday and had nothing like that.

It's probably just some scheme to identify those at possible risk or in need of extra support.

The OP is 32 years old, so I doubt they could justify it by age

there goes my pregnancy brain-I read 21 weeks as years somehow!

Yeah i am 32 im afraid, wish i was only 21 but who doesn't

 

[moomin_troll]

I was 19 while pregnant and 20 when I had my first son. The mw never looked around my flat or asked to look ect, it was a very small one bed flat, so it wasn't exactly ideal for a baby. Again with my youngest I was never asked that type of thing :/
Things certainly change quickly in the having a baby world. I do find it intrusive and really not their business right now, a hv asking to see babies bed, I wouldn't have a problem with.
But my hv wasn't happy about my co sleeping haha

 

[Yo_Yo]

It's really odd given all your circumstances, you think they'd have better things to be doing than poking around.
If you can't bear to have appointments at your home, then don't lovely-it's your house and nothing is compulsory. I certainly wouldn't do anything I felt uncomfortable with

 

[Enasy]

Update - had my meeting this morning with the midwife, explained why i didnt want her at my house and she was happy with my explanation. Going to have all my appointments at the clinic until baby is born happy girl

 

[Yo_Yo]

That's great honey bet thats a weight of your mind.