MIL and my baby name!!

[mummynummy]

I was so annoyed at my MIL on Sunday she said ' your not goning to call my grandson that name' and 'I can't believe you are calling my grandson Thorin, he gonna get bullied in school' I'm so pissed off she don't have the right to say that I'm calling my son Thorin because me and my OH likes it and goes really well with my surname and my daughters name. So my OH got a text from her saying that spoke to his uncle and that he said at least he not being called bilbo! I just really want to cry, I like his names it's uncommon and my mum picked it as we was stuck on names. I hate people that are so in your face about what they think and me being 25 weeks pregnant and it's hot didn't go down too well with me. Is anyone having the same issues? Did you carry on calling your child that name even if the family didn't like it?
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[SoldierWife]

I would honestly do what you want. Most kids don't think of a name as "weird" until they learn that behavior from a parent anyways. Honestly I think its pretty immature of her to act like that.

Although it sounds like my very opinionated grandmother, she really disliked her great nephews name and literally all through the first couple months of this kids life she called him by his middle name because she disliked it so much. In the end the name should be picked by the parents. There's always SOMEONE who won't like your name choice. I wouldn't worry about it

Plus it seems like everyone is getting more and more creative with names that I feel in our childrens' generation there won't be like 6 ashleys in a class like there was in my generation at least. There will always be popular names but people do get a lot more creative with their childrens name choices now

I don't think it would be any issue at all

 

[MnGmakes3]

Your baby. Your choice. Maybe one day she'll realize that too and the name.will grow on her.

H and I have decided not to tell anyone the name of baby girl because of all the comments we'd probably get. Aleksandra is fairly common but I don't care to hear anyone's opinions so we told everyone she had no name yet

If you can- just ignore her opinions. She had her chance to name her babies, now it's your turn. Plus I think it's special your mom helped

 

[mummynummy]

Thank you ladies yeah my mum was so happy when I choose that name. It's from the hobbit and ever since my mum saw the first film in 2012 at first I didn't like it but it grew on me and as we was stuck with boys name I actually really love it it's also a great story to tell him how I got your name with my angel Ellie-Mai she was gonna be called Emmy-Mai but my nan kept saying Ellie-Mai and it stuck. It's just a shame I can never tell her the story. My eldest her name kairi and since I played kingdom hearts when I was 15 I loved her name and so I called her kairi also it's Japanese I'm obsessed with japan haha

 

[crownest]

I really like the name I don't think it is out there at all ☺

 

[CarolinDallas]

I chose a traditional name for my kid and some people had the audacity to suggest "better" names for him. Excuse me? Naming a baby is the parents' prerogative. People, including family, don't have a saying IMHO. I say if you and your hubby like that name, go for it.

 

[mummynummy]

Yep well I turned round to her I said to late now i got personslised stuff haha I dunno why people think they can do that it's just rude.

 

[prettybirdy27]

I learned the hard way to not tell anyone the names you have picked. I loved Donovan for a boy so much that I started hoping for a boy, my little Donovan. However once my father in law got wind of the name, he tore it apart so bad that I can't even imagine naming a dog that now. We had to regroup, find another name, and we aren't telling a soul until after the baby is born.

 

[DoubleTFun]

I have a nephew named Torin.

That sucks that she was so down on your name choice!
I named our first 2 kids and I agreed to let my husband name our twins. My Mom and friends were really against the fact that I was letting him choose their names. It drove me nits that they were making such a huge deal out of it. So I decided we will tell everyone the babies names when they arrive.

I didn't have an issue with anyone knowing our first 2 children's names, but now everyone can find out when we have already looked our babies in the eyes and called them by their names.

 

[LittleBaby311]

Oooo stuff like this makes me so mad!
The nerve. I mean really why can't people just keep it to themselves. They don't have to say they like it if they dont, but if you don't have anything nice to say don't say anything at all! Regardless of what she thinks name your son what you and OH like. She will get over it.
My grandmother on my dad's side never liked my name and always called me by my middle name. My mom was so happy when one day when I was about 6 years I told her "that isn't my name".
It took me so long to pick my son's name, because I let other people's opinions effect my decision to where now I do not care at all this time.
If they don't like it they can shove it, because I have to deal with hubby's opinions enough.

 

[LittleBaby311]

Also for whatever it matters, I think it's a great name although I love unique names.

 

[MyFavSurprise]

Taking a peek in here at 2nd tri... I wanted to tell you how wonderful I think that name is. I had an awful time picking my son's name as everybody shot the names down..I was told that the girl name I loved so much sounded like a stripper (Delaney) and that the boy names were weak or weird.. I loved the name Hyperion and I agree it's pretty different but it's from greek mythology and ive loved it forever.. anyway, one day my mom suggested Raiden and I said no, no way... then my son was born and I made everybody wait until it was official and on the birth certificate before they had a clue what I picked...and it was Raiden after all heh, it grew on me. People tell me all the time how cool the name is and how different and he's so lucky..and people get the reference to mortal kombat or as I chose it, the Japanese thunder god, and they love it. I think the name you've picked is terrific and I bet she will be one of the only ones that doesn't like it, and the only one with the nerve to say it.. people who have seen the movie will recognize it and love and admire it too.

 

[aley28]

I think I'm glad that it takes DH and I for-ev-ER to pick out a name for our kids because it really limits the level of input.

Although on the flip side, if ONE MORE PERSON asks me if we have a name picked out yet, I might go postal.

My sister named her second daughter a name that I don't really love (Willow), but I wouldn't dream of saying anything negative about it! And after six months, I have to admit that the name does kinda fit the baby and therefore the name has grown on me.

People name their kids much worse things than Thorin, IMO! I like the name Thorin, anyway, but have you heard some of the things celebrities name their babies?

 

[loeylo]

As someone who grew up with an unusual name, I sort of get her point ... Sorry! I hated my name growing up and wanted to be called Kirsty/Rebecca etc ...

However, nowadays I think more unusual names are becoming popular! We were determined to give our baby a name which wasn't too traditional but also wasn't too "out there" but we had family heavily involved in picking her name - we asked for suggestions, added the ones we liked (with our own names) and came up with a shortlist of 5, then picked the one we liked best. Luckily everyone loved it!

My sister hated my boys name mind you, and one of my friends commented that she thought the name was trashy when you say both parts together (first name Gracie middle name May) - I told her that she can name her own kid whatever she wants!

 

[Bexypie]

My partners mother disliked Dulcie's name. But it's grown on her and she says she loves the name now that she's met Dulcie.
Currently we can't come up with a boys name... we just don't like a lot of boys names. So that's still up in the air.

 

[lesh07]

I have always had issues with my parents/in-Laws liking my names. This time I have decided not to tell anyone till the baby Is born as I am not having anyone try to influence my choice again as I have actually changed my babies names cause of everyones opinions. Xx

 

[mummy2_1]

I was very hurt when friends and family made their their feelings clear when i was pg with my lb and we choose his name. They hated it.

We stuck to our name and when my lb was born their rli was no other name to call him. He's strong bold and like no other. Just like his name


This time Ive gone with a bold name again for my LG and not letting anyone's opinions get to me


Stuff what anyone else thinks. U name ur child for a reason they are ur child

 

[AJae]

some people really want to 'own' what was never theirs to begin with. It is not her decision. it is not 'on' for her to be spiteful.

I ended up with a very 'normal' name myself as my mum was so fed up with all the unwanted advice: call her this, call her that, no, we hate that name, i am going to call her xyz instead rather than the name you pick as mine is better. she snapped. picked up the babys name book, took the first girls name in the entire book and then told everyone to Do One. so that was my name.

dig your heels in. if it is your body doing the work then it's your decision.

i politely remind people that when they next have a baby they can follow their own advice (i know i win this as it's mostly older family members that i am talking back to!) and until then they can remain quiet until i ask for advice, and when i ask, i will really need it.

i have a list of names that i love, some are totally out there and many are a derivation or deviation of family names or have a story behind them that is relevant to the family so if anybody has anything to say, they will be shot down fairly rapidly and made to look a fool when they hear my reasons. lol!

you do what you want. personally, i think the name you have picked is gorgeous and full of strength and energy.

 

[mummynummy]

Thank you I'm glad you all like it, im so scared she will shorten it and I'm such a pushover as I don't want fights I probably allow it :/ she keeps spelling Ellie-Mai like elli Mai like I told her the way to spell it but she keeps doing it that way. My nan who is really old fashion and traditional has said nothing bad about his name she actually loves it. I love names that are so unique and uncommon I haven't met another kairi yet, I have with Ellie-Mai as the bitch two doors from my mum thought it's a good idea to name her baby that when my child has just passed away then rubbed it in my face :/

 

[mommyB]

Well it's your decision not MIL. I hate stubborn in laws. I have some as well. We have the name Francesca picked out for a girl but FIL likes the name Amalia so he's decided he'll call her that if it's a girl. Nice huh. I just let it go in one ear and out the other. And if he does really do that then DH will be having a chat with him!