MIL and my baby name!!

[o0oCharlieo0o]

Yep i had this from my own mum, i liked the name Parker for a boy and when i told her she ridiculed it for a good 15-20 mins, saying my child would be stupid like a thunderbird and saying nosey Parker, kept laughing at it and saying she refuses to call the child it and will call it numer 4 instead, then my dad come in and she said 'here listen to this stupid fu**ing name shes going to call a boy...Parker' then burst out laughing again and kept on telling me to watch thunderbirds and I'll see why its a shit name, shes so rude, i told her she aint hearing no more names now thats it, and Parker was only an idea we dont actually have any names picked, but if i do have a boy i really do bang to name him parker purely to show her its none of her business what i call my child, dont listen to others hun this is your baby and i think Thorin is a lovely name

 

[jrand2more]

My family (both sides) are VERY opinionated when it comes to names. Neither side were very keen on my twin boys names, did not like my youngest sons second name, and have voiced their unhappiness as to my daughters name (either first or second).

I have pretty much taken the line of, as long as my OH and I like the names, I dont care about the rest.

For what its worth, i like Thorin. Its a strong name and I am sure it will suit him perfectly!

 

[Koifish]

If she doesn't like it it's her problem to get over. I would never change a name I like or love because family didn't like it. I have "different " names picked out for my boys and to my surprise the one name I have announced went well. The second one I am not so sure I haven't told anyone it yet. Reguardless hubby and I love the names we picked and I don't care of family likes it or not. There names are picked and it's done.

Keep the name you love!

 

[Mrs_Bump]

She should definitely of kept her opinion to herself. We didn't tell people ds's name until he was born. I'll do the same this time. Unusual names will always get comments from some ppl. When I went to meet my cousins baby she was in floods of tears because people made fun of her sons name. She's grown thicker skinned about it now but I think its a shame ppl are so judgemental about names.

 

[Ahughes]

I can relate! My siblings, cousins, grandkids names, and myself, on my mom's side of the family all begin with the letter 'A.' Well, we have a lot of kids in the family and the names that I liked most that started with A, for a boy, were already taken. So, my husband and I decided not to focus on just A names, but to look at other possibilities. We fell in love with the name Gavin. Of course, I got crap from my family members but most were understanding and accepting, except for my Nana. She told me (not sure if she was joking) that she would cut our faces out of all the pictures if we chose the name Gavin. I just shrugged it off, but it still hurts! I just think, this is our family and our choice and nobody else. I think she has come around to the change now.

 

[Penguin20]

It's up to you and your partner what you name your baby, I always find certain people like to think their in charge of your pregnancy weather it's family members or friends when tbh it's nothing to do with them for example when you keep getting people give you advice and you try and be polite and say no I'm doing it this way but it never works and they go on and on when finally you just have to say enough I'm their mum and I think this way is best and it's the same for your baby name you know what is best and you wouldn't choose a name that you knew was going to upset your child in the future.

What I'm trying to say is ignore you MIL and stick to what you think is best and at the end of the day your the mum

 

[jamiemcbride1]

I would still call your son it .. people are awful good at judging !! When I found out i was pregnant again I said if I have a girl I'm calling her Aubree skye because I am in abs love with the name and sure as he'll she didn't like it and even my fiance went along with her but my gender scan is tonight and I was good enough to invite her and she's been told if it's a girl it's baby aubree hoping for pink it'll maybe sickin her a little 😂😂that's awful but we carry them well name them what we want regardless !! Do u r own thing if she can't stand her grandson being called that name then tuff she'll get used to it lol x

 

[m nonie]

I love the name I wanted to use Eowyn for bump but DH really didn't appreciate it . So we've settled on two other choices that we'll decide between when she's born however my MIL is currently trying to talk us out of one of them as she really dislikes it...... However it's your child so it's your choice no one has the right to try tell you other wise.

My poor sister when she had her son he was born on my uncles birth so my grandad decided that he should be names after said uncle (who me and my sister don't get on with) so he refused to call my nephew his name, after a while he's decided that he'll call wee man his middle name.

I don't understand why folk think they have a right to put their 2 pence in.

 

[mybabydreams]

My mil hated that I double-barrelled my daughters name AND said she disliked my sons name when I was pregnant with him. This time I am not telling anyone my name plans until the baby is born, when it will be too late to do anything about it! I think if you have nothing nice to say, keep it to yourself. Its very insensitive to be negative over a choice that is so personal and important xx

 

[mh_ccl]

My FIL tried to call our daughter by her middle name for a while. I found out through SIL that he doesn't like her name. I'm not sure if it's the full name (Eleanor) or her nickname (Nora), but neither one seem all that offensive to me.

Then again, he was also saying that if we had a boy, we'd "have" to give it the middle name Verney because it's a family name. Thankfully we'll just have two girls, because that wasn't going to happen.

 

[MrsHopeful]

With my first ( team yellow) pregnancy my mum spoilt my girls name choice for me by saying it. Was awful-it hot to me so much so we had to change the name. Ironically when she named my sister my gran had told her my sisters name was silly, so you would of thought she would of known better than to do the same to me.
This time I had Thorin as my boys choice but we are having a girl & when people ask if we have picked a name we just say no. I shall only be announcing her name after she is born. Hubby isn't totally convinced but says my fave girls name is warming on him. He picked last time so I would love yo pick the name this time.
For those who's relatives call the baby the wrong name...I would say your child will call them old fart rather than grandpa haha

 

[MrsHopeful]

I know it's the hormones but this post has got me really riled at how rude some peoples relatives have been to you ladies. Grrr I would NEVER tell someone if I didn't like their name choice because we are all different with different tastes. Ohh I am mad now.

 

[JennaF]

it's a nice name

 

[katherinegrey]

My MIL was awful with our first son, any name we suggested we were considering she hated and told us 'you can't use that' which I was really annoyed about as I believe it's our child. She then said 'I'd really like you to consider Jack after my father'. So that's why she rubbished all our names! She didn't call my DH Jack or include it anywhere! You had your son to name, this ones mine thanks.
When we had our second she kept pushing for names and I simply said 'we have a couple we are considering but nothing is set in stone, I will decide when he's here'. If she pushed after that I told her I wouldn't tell her the names in case we decided to not use that one.

 

[flamingpanda]

We don't tell people because of crap like this. Strangely they don't appreciate it when you do it back to them - funny that! Like someone else said, kids don't find name weird, it's adults, who should know better.

There's one boys name I like (can't convince OH yet) but if this is a boy that's what I want and there's no way I'm telling anyone else as they'll stamp their feet and act like they have a say.

 

[WantaBelly]

When I was younger I remember things like this bothering me. Now I like to turn it around on them and put them on the spot. I would have said, "That's pretty rude and judgmental of you, don't you think?" I think with age comes confidence in our own ability to stand up for what we believe however, those who do so without regard for others feelings need put in their place from time to time.

 

[MummyM86]

If it means something to you and you like it then it shouldn't matter.

I completely feel your pain though. When I was pregnant with DD1 step MIL kept saying different names as we wouldn't tell anyone. She kept saying different names to see if she would like them or not. Spent weeks just walking round randomly saying names that popped into her head and then announcing if she liked them or not. Whats that about?! What if you announce that you hate the name we've picked? Then how are you going feel?!?

I didn't tell anyone with last and won't tell anyone with this one as it's mine and hubbys choice and once the baby has been named...tought sh1t!!

I'm a bit stubborn, can you tell?!

 

[mummynummy]

I just don't understand why people need to say horrid stuff about baby names. Only family know I wont announce the name until he is born

 

[Sarah369]

When I was younger I remember things like this bothering me. Now I like to turn it around on them and put them on the spot. I would have said, "That's pretty rude and judgmental of you, don't you think?" I think with age comes confidence in our own ability to stand up for what we believe however, those who do so without regard for others feelings need put in their place from time to time.

Completely unrelated but is this baby number 10 for you? If so wowzers you must be super mum and have the patience of a saint 😃😃

 

[oneill614]

I found out the gender and we have a name picked but I'm not even telling my family the gender. I told them we weren't finding out.

I have told my sister our name ideas and she was trying to convince me to use our last name rather than my bf's. I don't even like our last name, but she does. I asked if she was going to give her kids our last name, and of course the answer to that is no...so whatever.

I really wanted to use Edward as middle name but it makes bad initials so then I started thinking maybe give it the first name Edward and call it Teddy. She said she didn't like Teddy and would call it by a better nickname like Eamon (our uncle goes by Eamon). I said that's not it's name. Call it Eamon and I'll call your kids "f**khead junior" for the rest of their lives.