Minor Ultrasound Drama

[AJR14]

So orginally it was my husband and his sister going to my 7 week ultrasound. Then a close friend wanted to go but she understood why not as 3 extra people in the room is a lot. Now my husbands mom has the day off and wants to go. There is only 2 chairs in the room and I'm seeing a specialist so I don't know if they are stricter. Right now I'm thinking maybe my husband should stay back as he has little interest at this point. I don't know what to do.

 

[babifever]

So orginally it was my husband and his sister going to my 7 week ultrasound. Then a close friend wanted to go but she understood why not as 3 extra people in the room is a lot. Now my husbands mom has the day off and wants to go. There is only 2 chairs in the room and I'm seeing a specialist so I don't know if they are stricter. Right now I'm thinking maybe my husband should stay back as he has little interest at this point. I don't know what to do.

4 sounds like alot.

 

[AJR14]

I understand that lol hence the post.

 

[babifever]

Yeah I know lol, if dh isn't really interested then take the one person you want to share the moment with.

 

[AJR14]

There are two chairs, so I know for sure I can have two other people with me. I just don't want to tell my sister or mother in law no or to have to choose between them. Eesh too early for this stress!

 

[HerdingDogs]

Honestly, you have to make that choice for yourself. My cousin decided early on she only wanted her boyfriend in the room for all baby related things, and only let her mom come if he was busy. She didn't allow any of the parents in when she delivered. Her mom was not happy, but my cousin did not want to play favorites with parents and having 5 people in the room for every ultrasound and delivery is too much. Personally, if I had a husband to have this child with he would be the last person I kicked out of the room. I'd kick everyone out BUT him. But that's just me. I'll be lucky if anybody goes to my prenatal at this point. Can I borrow a person? Lol

Maybe make a schedule of who goes to what?

 

[mel28nicole]

They could still go, they can wait in the waiting room and someone can take turns. That's what we did at my 20 week ultrasound. But 7 weeks is still early. You're not gonna see much. Just a blob and a heartbeat, so not really sure why everyone would want to come. It is exciting but having so many people at once for a quick look is irritating.

 

[AJR14]

My husband is hard to read sometimes so I asked if he felt like he had to go or if he wanted to. He wants to, which made me excited his mom understands but I'll call and ask still. I'm beyond blessed with my husband's family. My family lives in a different state so I don't have to worry as much with that lol. They all want to go because I've had 4 miscarriages and they are probably just as excited as I am. And I'll get to hear the heartbeat. The taking turns sounds miserable lol

 

[Insomniash]

I am glad your husband is going, because sometimes men don't even realize how interested they are going to be. When I went for my first ultrasound my boyfriend didn't seem excited leading up to it, but got really into it and he was asking questions. It was nice because I was too busy getting teary eyed and just staring at the screen in awe.

Also, keep in mind at an early ultrasound there is a good chance of a transvaginal ultrasound being performed. They will ask if you want people to leave, but it is really the best look at the baby. I allowed my boyfriend to stay, but that is because obviously there is nothing down there he hasn't seen before lol.

I had a private gender ultrasound around 20 weeks which my grandmother, mother and boyfriend all came to, but they had a bigger room and are better prepared for guests.

 

[Blu10]

I think it will be more real for your DH at the scan, its a personal moment, id just take DH x

 

[BabyJayne]

I wouldn't want anyone else in the room apart from DH. The first time you see is magical and so personal - I would find it strange having so many there!

 

[mummytobe_93]

I personally only ever has my Oh at everything baby related and delivery and I'll do the same again this time. Not to be horrible but because it's too hard to choose between my own mother and MIL and in our scans we can only have two people. Maybe you could say this time your husband and mum and then the next scan your husband and sister etc etc xx

 

[mummytobe_93]

I would definitely take OH with you to every single one. It's hard for fathers to get attached until they see an actual baby growing. Remember women experience pregnancy and men don't so it can be hard xx

 

[lucy_smith]

I will be taking my oh and no one else, I feel I want that time just the three of us to kind of allow my oh to make a bond and actually get used to the idea tht there is actually a baby inside me! I also don't think if there was something wrong I could deal with anyone else being there apart from maybe my mum but would feel bad inviting my mum and no one else .

 

[shellideaks]

I've also only ever took OH with me. Everyone else can wait and see the picture.

 

[venapols]

why he hell would all those people go?

an ultrasound is for the parents not the extended family, friends and aqaintances

the father should be there... its HIS baby and the ultrasound is a huge bond for fathers as its the first thing the can truely see and be a part of

I can get grandma being excited especially if its her first grandchild but personally I wouldnt want the intrusion on such a private moment but if your fine with it then go ahead

Id ditch the sister and friend as theres absoloutly no reason for them to be there when you already have support

 

[mum140381]

in the uk you can have 1 if that lol x

 

[maryanne1987]

I agree, in the uk it's one person only. In my last pregnancies I took my oh and only took my mum when I had to have an emergency scan and he couldn't get there in time. It's hard for men to understand what's going on and bond during pregnancy, the scans help then to feel part of it. Hope your scan goes well, good luck!

 

[smileyfaces]

Why would you want half the family there? Just take your hubby, problem solved.

 

[GoHawks]

I'm actually pretty shocked that your mother in law even asked to go, she has been pregnant before and knows the drill. She should know better than to just say she is coming instead of letting you invite her if you wanted her there. I would just take your husband and call it good!