Missionary position when your OH is heavy

[Enekai]

I found a really old thread on this in the 2nd tri forums but nothing else related and I am wondering.

My question/issue is I was fooling around with my husband last night and found the pressure on my abdomen to be too great and I was worried about the baby. He never holds himself up and puts all of his weight on me. He's nearly 300 pounds. I weigh less than he does and I am pretty agile, and my weight is evenly distributed; he's all beer belly. I am interested in sex the same as before, but my belly pressure during such activities concerns me greatly.

Luckily his erection didn't last, so he had his full weight on me for two instances of about 45 seconds. He has a lot of performance anxiety so I try not to criticize at all. I did not have any bleeding or spotting after. When is it unsafe to have him doing missionary? We've been having sex all along so far and this was the first time I found the pressure painful. I also noticed afterward last night that my bump is noticeable now. Seems to have popped out in a day.

I am going to start trying some other positions I read about out as well. Thanks in advance for any advice.

 

[Sarahdisco]

I've found missionary to be quite painful as OH leans right into me (he's not overly big or anything but it does hurt). I've started going on top instead which is a bonus for me as it feels better and a bonus for him as he gets a great view of my growing boobs!

 

[Enekai]

Yeah, I think we've got to try different things now too.

 

[embo216]

Me and my OH are both pretty heavy people and Im not a fan of missionary, I always the best position in pregnancy is the lady on top as you can control it all. x

 

[Emma867]

Or spooning? I find it more comfortable that way.

 

[Quailpower]

Ive got pretty bad SPD and my pelivs is very sensative.

Ive found that spooning is very comfortable, you can even alter the angle by bending over more so its like supported doggy.
I also find, keeping him in the spooning position, and swiveling my legs over so Im on my back is really good for a tender belly.

 

[samface182]

OH is very rarely on top anyway, even when i wasn't pregnant. going on top is waaay better!

 

[Enekai]

Look like we have two or three things to try out, thanks ladies.

 

[9jawife]

Ugh, I can relate, OP. My DH is much lighter than yours (about 200 lbs) but still, it hurts when he freakin' LEANS on me in missionary. He does not understand that a guy has to support himself on his arms! And missionary is one of my favorite positions for the romance factor and because I'm lazy, lol. Oh well.

 

[Enekai]

Hehe...I'm lazy too

 

[katerdid]

Gosh if my OH didn't hold himself up for missionary, I think he'd crush me like a bug! He's at least 150lbs heavier than I am.
Deffo try what the others have suggested tho xxx

 

[CordeliaJ]

Just get him to lean on his arms, or sit more upright and pull you towards him. Those are the two things my DH does most often. I guess everyone's different, but why does he lean on you? That would sound painful to me even without being pregnant :S

 

[Zebra2023]

I am lazy as well We spoon when having sex at the moment as I can't face having my partner on top just in case.

 

[JJsmom]

My OH is about 240 and he never really leaned on me but I found missionary position getting very difficult as he loved putting my legs up towards my head as far as they'd go. I am a big girl and flexible but it was getting way too much! We changed it up by him standing by the side of the bed with me laying on the bed but the motion got to me as I couldn't hold myself still. We have done me on top and we also have been doing doggie.

 

[Enekai]

Thank you all for the wonderful ideas, we will definitely try a few out!

 

[atalanta85]

Obviously give other positions a go too, but my OH is on the larger side. Now, if this makes sense, I have my arms on the bed beside me, then I hold up his hips with my hands so my elbows are jammed into the bed. This way, I'm kinda reminding him not to lay his full weight on me. It stops your hands from being free though.
As a laugh (to him, not me), he likes to put his entire weight on me and then tickle. Well I stop breathing when I laugh on my back even without him on me (no idea why), so this was my way of keeping him off.

 

[Enekai]

That one sounds tiring. Thank you for the idea though!

 

[MrsTurner2012]

We always spoon sex! It's lazy but good! He can reach around and touch me too.

Other than that I'm usually on top.

I'm worried about doing it doggy whilst pregnant incase he goes to deep and damages something!

I had an mc a few years back which started right after sex. May or may not have been connected but still worry so we always have quite slow/gentle sex now

 

[Enekai]

Thanks MrsTurner I think spooning may work best as I have no cartilage left in my knees and that makes doggy painful for me but he likes it.

 

[Spiffynoodles]

In my last pregnancy we had to do edge of the bed sex. My DH would just stand up and I'd scoot my bum right up to the edge of the bed and then wrap my legs around him. It worked great for us, and wasn't very complicated, if you know what I mean. Plus, you can see each other, unlike spooning, which we both liked.

ETA: This might not work for you, though, if you have a low bed or your DH is really tall.