mad4babies
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Hi. I wanted to share my story about natural management of a missed miscarriage.
I have just hopefully completed my 2nd missed miscarriage. We saw the baby's heartbeat at 7+3 and had a scan at 9+5 where unfortunately there was no heartbeat. The baby had only made it to 7+4. I chose natural management and went home to wait for the inevitable. When I would have been exactly 12 weeks I had an overwhelming pressure, ran to the toilet, there was an enormous force and lots of lumps and blood came out. I have never experienced anything like this. Because the bleeding turned to spotting and then stopped within a week I assumed that this was my miscarriage. I did think that there was more to clear out but hoped that a period would sort that. (My first missed miscarriage left at 13 weeks (baby died at 6 weeks), I had a light period at 18 weeks but at 21 weeks I bled for 3 weeks solid and lost huge clots).
2 nights ago I would have been 17+5 weeks and I went into labour complete with the contractions and back pain. This lasted 4 hours and I finally passed the baby complete in sac with cord attatched.
I have chosen to do this naturally and I haven't been back to the doctor since being told my baby had died but I wanted people to be aware that the baby can take a long time to decide to leave. I carried our baby longer while he was dead than when he was alive. I wouldn't change anything because I have finally managed to have my natural labour that I wanted and to be able to say goodbye andgrieve at home in private. I'm glad though that I thought that this miscarriage ended nearly 6 weeks ago because the waiting is very stressful so at least I was spared that.
**UPDATE**
Just to update you that today I went to A & E and had a large clot 'sucked out' with no pain relief! I feel that I have given in but spent last night bleeding extremely heavily and the clots were getting larger. I was filling 3 pads at least an hour. I couldn't take anymore and went for a scan. Baby had gone but lots of blood was still there. I feel such a failure for giving in and getting this procedure done but such a relief that the bleeding should become normal now. I was given the remains of what they took out along with a beautiful box/coffin to put my baby (still in my freezer). I cried so much today - at the guilt of being at hospital and giving in - at the loss of my baby - at the beautiful box that I was given and the thought of finally putting my baby to rest and sending him to his sister and at the wonderful, respectful way that I was treated by the doctors and nurses. I feel that I have been through the emotional wringer today and so want this to now move onto the next stage. The Dr said I have a great chance of miscarrying again because of my age but if I want a baby so much that I must try again. I've found strength today that I didn't know that I had but also accepted some weakness.
I have just hopefully completed my 2nd missed miscarriage. We saw the baby's heartbeat at 7+3 and had a scan at 9+5 where unfortunately there was no heartbeat. The baby had only made it to 7+4. I chose natural management and went home to wait for the inevitable. When I would have been exactly 12 weeks I had an overwhelming pressure, ran to the toilet, there was an enormous force and lots of lumps and blood came out. I have never experienced anything like this. Because the bleeding turned to spotting and then stopped within a week I assumed that this was my miscarriage. I did think that there was more to clear out but hoped that a period would sort that. (My first missed miscarriage left at 13 weeks (baby died at 6 weeks), I had a light period at 18 weeks but at 21 weeks I bled for 3 weeks solid and lost huge clots).
2 nights ago I would have been 17+5 weeks and I went into labour complete with the contractions and back pain. This lasted 4 hours and I finally passed the baby complete in sac with cord attatched.
I have chosen to do this naturally and I haven't been back to the doctor since being told my baby had died but I wanted people to be aware that the baby can take a long time to decide to leave. I carried our baby longer while he was dead than when he was alive. I wouldn't change anything because I have finally managed to have my natural labour that I wanted and to be able to say goodbye andgrieve at home in private. I'm glad though that I thought that this miscarriage ended nearly 6 weeks ago because the waiting is very stressful so at least I was spared that.
**UPDATE**
Just to update you that today I went to A & E and had a large clot 'sucked out' with no pain relief! I feel that I have given in but spent last night bleeding extremely heavily and the clots were getting larger. I was filling 3 pads at least an hour. I couldn't take anymore and went for a scan. Baby had gone but lots of blood was still there. I feel such a failure for giving in and getting this procedure done but such a relief that the bleeding should become normal now. I was given the remains of what they took out along with a beautiful box/coffin to put my baby (still in my freezer). I cried so much today - at the guilt of being at hospital and giving in - at the loss of my baby - at the beautiful box that I was given and the thought of finally putting my baby to rest and sending him to his sister and at the wonderful, respectful way that I was treated by the doctors and nurses. I feel that I have been through the emotional wringer today and so want this to now move onto the next stage. The Dr said I have a great chance of miscarrying again because of my age but if I want a baby so much that I must try again. I've found strength today that I didn't know that I had but also accepted some weakness.