mad4babies
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Hi. I wanted to share my story about natural management of a missed miscarriage.
I have just hopefully completed my 2nd missed miscarriage. We saw the baby's heartbeat at 7+3 and had a scan at 9+5 where unfortunately there was no heartbeat. The baby had only made it to 7+4. I chose natural management and went home to wait for the inevitable. When I would have been exactly 12 weeks I had an overwhelming pressure, ran to the toilet, there was an enormous force and lots of lumps and blood came out. I have never experienced anything like this. Because the bleeding turned to spotting and then stopped within a week I assumed that this was my miscarriage. I did think that there was more to clear out but hoped that a period would sort that. (My first missed miscarriage left at 13 weeks (baby died at 6 weeks), I had a light period at 18 weeks but at 21 weeks I bled for 3 weeks solid and lost huge clots).
2 nights ago I would have been 17+5 weeks and I went into labour complete with the contractions and back pain. This lasted 4 hours and I finally passed the baby complete in sac with cord attatched.
I have chosen to do this naturally and I haven't been back to the doctor since being told my baby had died but I wanted people to be aware that the baby can take a long time to decide to leave. I carried our baby longer while he was dead than when he was alive. I wouldn't change anything because I have finally managed to have my natural labour that I wanted and to be able to say goodbye andgrieve at home in private. I'm glad though that I thought that this miscarriage ended nearly 6 weeks ago because the waiting is very stressful so at least I was spared that.
**UPDATE**
Just to update you that today I went to A & E and had a large clot 'sucked out' with no pain relief! I feel that I have given in but spent last night bleeding extremely heavily and the clots were getting larger. I was filling 3 pads at least an hour. I couldn't take anymore and went for a scan. Baby had gone but lots of blood was still there. I feel such a failure for giving in and getting this procedure done but such a relief that the bleeding should become normal now. I was given the remains of what they took out along with a beautiful box/coffin to put my baby (still in my freezer). I cried so much today - at the guilt of being at hospital and giving in - at the loss of my baby - at the beautiful box that I was given and the thought of finally putting my baby to rest and sending him to his sister and at the wonderful, respectful way that I was treated by the doctors and nurses. I feel that I have been through the emotional wringer today and so want this to now move onto the next stage. The Dr said I have a great chance of miscarrying again because of my age but if I want a baby so much that I must try again. I've found strength today that I didn't know that I had but also accepted some weakness.
I have just hopefully completed my 2nd missed miscarriage. We saw the baby's heartbeat at 7+3 and had a scan at 9+5 where unfortunately there was no heartbeat. The baby had only made it to 7+4. I chose natural management and went home to wait for the inevitable. When I would have been exactly 12 weeks I had an overwhelming pressure, ran to the toilet, there was an enormous force and lots of lumps and blood came out. I have never experienced anything like this. Because the bleeding turned to spotting and then stopped within a week I assumed that this was my miscarriage. I did think that there was more to clear out but hoped that a period would sort that. (My first missed miscarriage left at 13 weeks (baby died at 6 weeks), I had a light period at 18 weeks but at 21 weeks I bled for 3 weeks solid and lost huge clots).
2 nights ago I would have been 17+5 weeks and I went into labour complete with the contractions and back pain. This lasted 4 hours and I finally passed the baby complete in sac with cord attatched.
I have chosen to do this naturally and I haven't been back to the doctor since being told my baby had died but I wanted people to be aware that the baby can take a long time to decide to leave. I carried our baby longer while he was dead than when he was alive. I wouldn't change anything because I have finally managed to have my natural labour that I wanted and to be able to say goodbye andgrieve at home in private. I'm glad though that I thought that this miscarriage ended nearly 6 weeks ago because the waiting is very stressful so at least I was spared that.
**UPDATE**
Just to update you that today I went to A & E and had a large clot 'sucked out' with no pain relief! I feel that I have given in but spent last night bleeding extremely heavily and the clots were getting larger. I was filling 3 pads at least an hour. I couldn't take anymore and went for a scan. Baby had gone but lots of blood was still there. I feel such a failure for giving in and getting this procedure done but such a relief that the bleeding should become normal now. I was given the remains of what they took out along with a beautiful box/coffin to put my baby (still in my freezer). I cried so much today - at the guilt of being at hospital and giving in - at the loss of my baby - at the beautiful box that I was given and the thought of finally putting my baby to rest and sending him to his sister and at the wonderful, respectful way that I was treated by the doctors and nurses. I feel that I have been through the emotional wringer today and so want this to now move onto the next stage. The Dr said I have a great chance of miscarrying again because of my age but if I want a baby so much that I must try again. I've found strength today that I didn't know that I had but also accepted some weakness.
I am going through my second miscarriage. The 1st was 8 months ago, early on at 5.5 weeks. This time is worse since Im also dealing with a missed miscarriage. I went for a first ultrasound a few days ago and was given a date of 6 weeks, when the baby should've been 9 weeks, no heart beat seen and an enlarged yolk sac. I was told come back in 9 days but that it wasn't looking good. I will go back and see what the ultrasound shows but if not good I will allow nature to take its course. In the mean time its nice to be able to connect with someone who has been there, as the waiting is difficult. Tks for sharing your story. Wishing you a successful pregnancy and health baby soon! 
