greenpear
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Hi All,
Just curious about what you think of this situation. LO will be 2 when this baby is born and my mom is trying to encourage me to send her away to be with her (and my dad and my grandparents) for at least half a year as mom says it will be really hard for me with a newborn and toddler. Now, my family all lives across Canada 5.5 hr flight away, so it's not like I can pack up and visit anytime I feel like it. Moreover, I will never ever give my child away as that's not why I gave birth to her. So that's what I told mom. She said that plenty of Ukrainians give their kids to family relatives for months/yrs at a time as they have to work, survive and that my own mom gave me to grandparents for almost a year when I was 3. Well I remember that time and it was very scary as I thought I would never see my parents again. I really missed them and would never want LO to feel like that. I know that my mom did it because situation where they lived was pretty critical and there was not enough food to feed me so I don't have hard feelings about it but it was scary as a child as I didn't know these things. Our situation is miles away as me and my husband are in a good place and in Canada where there is always food haha!
So I said to mom "no way!" She thinks I'll come around. I know I won't as that's not an option. I can't give my child away no matter how hard it will be.
What are your thoughts on this? Does mom have a point or is this as crazy as I think it is?
Just curious about what you think of this situation. LO will be 2 when this baby is born and my mom is trying to encourage me to send her away to be with her (and my dad and my grandparents) for at least half a year as mom says it will be really hard for me with a newborn and toddler. Now, my family all lives across Canada 5.5 hr flight away, so it's not like I can pack up and visit anytime I feel like it. Moreover, I will never ever give my child away as that's not why I gave birth to her. So that's what I told mom. She said that plenty of Ukrainians give their kids to family relatives for months/yrs at a time as they have to work, survive and that my own mom gave me to grandparents for almost a year when I was 3. Well I remember that time and it was very scary as I thought I would never see my parents again. I really missed them and would never want LO to feel like that. I know that my mom did it because situation where they lived was pretty critical and there was not enough food to feed me so I don't have hard feelings about it but it was scary as a child as I didn't know these things. Our situation is miles away as me and my husband are in a good place and in Canada where there is always food haha!
So I said to mom "no way!" She thinks I'll come around. I know I won't as that's not an option. I can't give my child away no matter how hard it will be.
What are your thoughts on this? Does mom have a point or is this as crazy as I think it is?