Money worries

[cybermum]

£500 a month!!!
Thats taking the mick.
Get in touch with your council and explain your situation hun xxx

 

[elmaxie]

I agree with everyone here!

Get along and see you local housing place as that is way too much!!

When I moved back to Scotland I moved back home with my mum and she charged me £350 per month and I did a food shop every 2nd or so week but did all my own washing etc so it was to basically live there. But she also based it on my income at the time and I am a trained nurse and was on a good wage because I had done it for a good few years!!

You need to start thinking about your and your babys future...your mums debts are your mums dont get into your own debt because of her.

Hope youget things sorted out..



Emma.xx

 

[charlotteb24]

£500 a month is huge! my 1 bedroomed flat was £475 a month and that was our own place!

Get the forms filled out for housing in your area and explain your current situation to them. On a low income and with your mum thretening to throw you out if you cut the payment ammounts to her they should find you housing. Not the mention the fact you have a baby on the way!

I only paid £120 a month to my parents when i lived at home to help with food costs and to pay the child tax credits deficit they had as i had left college.

If your mum has debts etc that something she has to realise is her fault, not yours, the first stage to her getting any better will be admitting its her with the problem and not you! you need to get out of there hun before it drives you into depression, the last thing you need! xx

 

[ribboninthesky]

If you moved out, your Mum wouldn't be getting anything from you, so how the hell would she cope then?

Her spending habits and debts are not your fault, so she has no right to take her anger and frustration out on you.

I'd tell her you're seriously thinking of moving out unless you can BOTH come to an agreement which will suit you BOTH.

Go on, ask her how she will cope if you go and she doesn't have anything from you to help her out ~ see what her reply is!

Like everyone else has said, £500 a month is taking the piss.

What income does your Mum have coming into the house??

 

[orange-sox]

If you moved out, your Mum wouldn't be getting anything from you, so how the hell would she cope then?

Her spending habits and debts are not your fault, so she has no right to take her anger and frustration out on you.

I'd tell her you're seriously thinking of moving out unless you can BOTH come to an agreement which will suit you BOTH.

Go on, ask her how she will cope if you go and she doesn't have anything from you to help her out ~ see what her reply is!

Like everyone else has said, £500 a month is taking the piss.

What income does your Mum have coming into the house??

Well in excess of £2k a month, she is a specialist in her field and has a very good job.

Everything is a competition with her, when I've worked all day, it's "Oh I had to drive an hour there and back though", if I complain that I'm sick of cleaning up her mess, it's "I spent your entire childhood clearing up your mess"

*YAWN*

 

[ribboninthesky]

If you moved out, your Mum wouldn't be getting anything from you, so how the hell would she cope then?

Her spending habits and debts are not your fault, so she has no right to take her anger and frustration out on you.

I'd tell her you're seriously thinking of moving out unless you can BOTH come to an agreement which will suit you BOTH.

Go on, ask her how she will cope if you go and she doesn't have anything from you to help her out ~ see what her reply is!

Like everyone else has said, £500 a month is taking the piss.

What income does your Mum have coming into the house??

Well in excess of £2k a month, she is a specialist in her field and has a very good job.

Everything is a competition with her, when I've worked all day, it's "Oh I had to drive an hour there and back though", if I complain that I'm sick of cleaning up her mess, it's "I spent your entire childhood clearing up your mess"

*YAWN*

So she doesn't really need £500 per month from you? If so, why on earth would she watch you struggle ~ I don't get it!

If I were you I'd seriously contemplate moving out.

You'd have more money for starters and you wouldn't be on the receiving end of her emotional blackmail crap xx

 

[pinkish_angel]

my dad rents out a 2 bed house here for 500 a month. It really makes me thankful (and makes me feel a bit cheeky) that when I lived at home up until I was 21 I didnt pay my parents a penny. Can I be rude and ask is it ur mums house? does she have a mortgage/rent to pay and if so how much a month cuz looks like u are paying the bulk of it. Maybe thats how it works.. u pay that and she pays the bills?! It seems an awful lot tho to me. hope u get it sorted hun xxx

 

[Pyrrhic]

You can rent a 4 bed detached house here for £600 a month!

 

[Lisalovesbean]

I am gobsmacked!!!!!!!

Seriously, You are being taken for a ride! You can apply for council or private rental housing and get help with housing benefit due to your low income and impending arrival, You will only make up a small shortfall (nowhere near £500) and also a 75% discount on Council Tax as well other benefits even if you keep working. You can also claim a grant to help pay for furniture and home items if you need to.

You Mum needs a serious reality check....how can she justify her actions??!!

All I can say is that if she controls you now.....wait until your LO arrives!

You are an adult and she should treat you as one....it will be the best thing you can do for both you and the baby....I wish you lots of luck!!!

 

[steph123steph]

When I was in between renting and mortgage my mum asked me for £10 per week for my fiace and me! Granted it was only a month, but she understood the pressure we had with a new baby on way and a new home to set up. £500 is extortionate! I would definately look into moving home with your baby, if your income is so low your probably entitled to to housing benifit, you will get tax credits also( probably around £100 per week, I work for TC's) and child benifit. Or could you look into the possibility of moving home with somebody else to share responsibility in a fairer way. When running your own home £500 does seem ALMOST like a fair split, but you need to remind your mum, the option is there for you to move home, and she will REALLY struggle with you gone! Youd be better off alone without the stress hun, dont feel trapped x

 

[coz]

wow 500 pounds its loads my big 2 bedroom flat is only 270 a month , i would go on the council list for a house if i was you xxx

 

[oOKayOo]

wow ,thats alot!

So many friends with 3 bedroom houses arnt even paying that let alone a room in your mums house! Im shocked!

 

[Deb_baby]

im shocked at that its extorsionate.

my OH only had to pay his mum £100 a month when he lived at home, my mum said i didnt need to pay as i was at college and had to keep money for travelling.

Then we have our house where we ware now and thats 2 bedrooms, gas and electric, water and council tax included and its only £128 a month, but were away to move in 3 bedroom town house for £695 a month thats npot bills included but were going to be sharing with OH brother so makes it bit easier on the purse strings.

 

[danni0509]

omg it sounds as though your mum is relying on the £500 per month you pay too her!!
i think that is far too much and she is taking you for a ride
sorry if that sounds a bit harsh i know she is your mum but i seriously would have words with her or failing that move out and find somewhere much much cheaper x x

 

[Rachiebaby24]

i think your paying your mums rent/mortgage!!! Move out hun.....you can always get help with housing benefit if your income is low

 

[jillypoop]

Sweetie, you really need to get yourself out of your mothers. If you fancy moving somewhere new, come up here and you, your OH and me and mine could rent a 2 bed house together!!
Ok thats probably in dream world but you need to get out, speak to your local housing office and explain the situation. If they can't rehouse you, maybe they could give you an emergency loan so that you can at least pay the deposit on a rented place?


speak soon hunny, remember there are lots of people that love you and will do anything for you. txt me if you need me



xxx

 

[lesleyann]

Our rent on a private 2bedhouse is only £495..

Got some bad news about HB though well in my area from what i understand they wont pay up if its rent to family members

Who isn't eligible?

You can't usually get Housing Benefit if:

* you have savings of over £16,000, unless you are aged 60 or over and getting the 'guarantee credit' of Pension Credit
* you live in the home of a close relative
* you're a full-time student (unless you're disabled or have children)
* you're an asylum seeker or are sponsored to be in the UK

But as everyone has said i would move out hun

Ops just re-read it lol and once you leave you will get it, My Oh makes 14k per year and we get £36 and some pence per week to help with rent