Month 6 and counting...

[Lirpa11]

Oh my gosh. This is enough to break you down at times to cry.

I went of Bcp in august, DH and I tried for the first month and he got cold feet for the next two months. Come November we decided we were ready and have been trying since then with no luck at all

I'm not missing O, he is around at the right times, we bd on the right days. I even have regular 28-29 day cycles... Why isn't anything happening.

Other women accidentally have babies all the time and yet I can't have one on purpose

DH is away at work until the weekend at the moment. I'm at home alone feeling sad and crying.

I'm 8Dpo already, and I felt my CP today and there's a smear of blood which means AF will come as expected in 4 days. I know it isn't IB as it happens every.single.month.

All I can think of is maybe my LP is too short? Surely my uterus or whatever is up there shouldn't start cleaning itself ready for AF so soon after O.

I don't know. I'm so confused and down.

I can't even talk to my friends as they don't understand, yet.

 

[mrshan]

Hey Lirpa, sorry you're feeling down.

I'm in the same boat, normal 28-day cycles, still haven't gotten a sticky bean yet. You'll find friends on here to talk to, which has been saving my sanity. I don't want to pile all my fears on DH because I know it'll just add to his stress and the pressure to perform, which causes even more problems.

I wonder if so many girls can accidentally get pregnant because they're not stressing about it. That's the problem- once we want a baby, the pressure we put on ourselves makes it that much more difficult for us. But it's not like we can force ourselves to relax, or to forget that we want to get pregnant!

It'll be okay. I've been at it for eight months and it hasn't gotten any easier yet, but I'm confident that I'll either get pregnant or I won't, and no matter what happens, I'll be happy and have a great life. DH and I are prepared to continue trying for another 5 years or so, and after that, if it hasn't happened, we'll be childless, happy, have lots of money, and travel the whole world.

 

[DosPinkies]

I'm sorry you're going through this. I completely understand how hard it is. This is my 6th cycle and I've been on a roller coaster of emotions that ranges anywhere from go-get-it optimism to total devastation to raw anger and negativity. Right now I'm in the mindset of "fine, we'll keep trying, but it's not going to work." I'm sure I'll snap out of that eventually, because like I said...roller coaster. This TTC thing sucks - flat out. But the truth is that all of us WILL make it to the other side. It's just rough getting there.

As far as advice goes, have you or your DH had any tests done? If not, I'd say go do that right away. They'll do some basics tests on you - ultrasounds, blood tests etc....and then DH can get an SA. Tests are good for either peace of mind or making plans to work around obstacles.

Also, do you use PreSeed? That seems to be something that a lot of women say made the difference for them.

I wish you all the luck in the world! Hang in there. You'll get through this. We all will.

 

[Lirpa11]

Thanks mrshan.

I know a few ladies who wanted it, and within 3 months they were expecting, but so,many more who it just happened outta no where. Maybe they were relaxed?

DH and I have said if we don't have luck in the next few months (around a year) we will start going through any other ways yo get pregnant with doctors help... The wait and each cycle though is so frustrating, and can definitely make you feel down

 

[ladders]

Know exactly how you feel I expected that as soon as started trying it would happen. Nine months later just find each af harder and harder. It's hard to time bd perfectly and still doesn't work because you think what the hell else can I do! I have never spent so much time googling things in my life! And to think I actually thought this was going to be fun!

 

[BeachyFeelin]

I feel your pain!!!

 

[Wish2BMom]

I hear you ladies - 6 mos here too. Currently in TWW but assuming it didn't work this month either. Just b/c, well, those are the higher odds, right? It all sucks b/c it just comes down to luck - we can do everything in our power - CORRECTLY - to lead the horse to water, but we can't make it drink.
I'm kicking myself a little bit for waiting so long to try, thinking we had the luxury of time. I know DH and I are open to adoption but that takes time too. So when do you make the call to stop this and go to that? After a battery of tests and 6 more months of trying? by then I'll be 39.
I'm SO with you - too many thoughts....

 

[Tricia08]

I feel your pain too! This is out 6th month I just starting O'Ving today so here's to another month of praying for good news while I have friends getting pregnant right and left 😥 It sucks so much I feel your pain!

 

[dreamingmom]

8 months and counting here, I am currently in the TWW but I think my O came a little late this month and DH and I missed the window, but there is a chance from a few days earlier. AF should start today but I am not holding my breath because if my O was late so AF will be late too. I am at the point now where I just expect AF so when it does happen I hopefully will not be as disappointed. It's hard to stay pessimistic though when I seem to be having stomach issues for the last week. Fingers crossed maybe this month is the month!

 

[Lirpa11]

Fingers crossed dreaming mom! And good luck and baby dust to the rest of you! Hoping we all get sticky beans soon.

Went out with a friend tonight. I'm planning her baby shower next week she said her hubby dreamed I said I was expecting at the shower lol, I wish! Maybe it means soon

 

[mrshan]

Fingers crossed dreaming mom! And good luck and baby dust to the rest of you! Hoping we all get sticky beans soon.

Went out with a friend tonight. I'm planning her baby shower next week she said her hubby dreamed I said I was expecting at the shower lol, I wish! Maybe it means soon

FX for you! Babydust for all of us. We'll get our sticky beans, and have happy and healthy babies.

 

[BabyPrayers21]

Hi Ladies, Mind if I join in?

I both hear and feel where y'all are coming from. DH & I have been actually trying for 6 months and not trying not preventing for over a year. I had a TTC buddy at work and we would talk about our TWW symptoms etc but now she's pregnant (i'm totally psyched for her) and I'm going through a battery of tests. I just had and HSG done on Tuesday.....OUCH! NOT FUN! However it showed that my tubes are open and my uterus looks good. DH goes for an SA on Tuesday. I'm at CD9. I'm hoping and praying that the HSG cleaned everything out and we get our BFP this round. The doc said many women get their BFP after having the test done. Yet again my hopes are high but we will see.

Last month was especially hard for me as I wasn't having any of my usual PMS symptoms so my hopes were super high. Plus i had the inevitable battery of test looming in the very near future had i not gotten my BFP. Well yet again i got a HUGE....

I totally hear all of you. This is not what I thought TTC was going to be like. Don't get me wrong the BDing is great but the constant excitement followed by let down is killing me. I don't even want to POAS any more. In fact I don't I wait to see if AF shows up and if she doesn't I still wait a couple days to test.

Where is everyone else in their cycle? Prayers to all for your sticky beans and

 

[Lirpa11]

I'm on CD28 and 10DPO

AF is coming today or tomorrow

 

[ladders]

Baby prayers I'm exactly the same now, at first I poas from like 8dpo now I can't because I have seen enough bfn to last a lifetime, also it drags the pain out over days as you know your not pregnant but as af isn't here can't move on. I'm on cd 10 and waiting for my smiley face on the opks.
Lirpa how do you know af is coming? Hopefully it doesn't

 

[Lirpa11]

I know AF is near because there is a tiny bit of blood on my cervix by 8-9DPO, which is 3-4 days before AF. It's the tiniest amount on my finger from checking cervix position, and I can see it by wiping my finger on toilet paper afterward, kinda like checking for CM around the cervix.

I also get a gurgly stomach a day or so before AF. It's kinda like it's growling, but different lol.
Sorry about TMI!!

I really hate POAS now I sometimes POAS around 7 and 8DPO even though I know it will be a BFN. Still doesn't make me feel any better when the Bfn finally does show up though.

Also, I've been taking parental vitamins since August last year!! At this rate I should buy shares in the company so I can get a return on their profits from me since I keep buying them ha ha! I should definitely have enough folic acid in my system to help with forming a baby by now! (Keeping spins bifida away and stuff)

 

[Lirpa11]

I also didn't think TTC would be like this! The way I always made sure my partner and I were protected to avoid an unplanned pregnancy I figured it could happen pretty fast wen we finally decided to give it a go. Plus the fact that we're still quite young.. Buy nope.

 

[ladders]

Yeah I can't believe how neurotic I was taking my pill if I'd have known it was this bloody difficult i wouldn't have bothered being so precise!
I also need shares in ttc equipment if dh knew how much I was spending he would kill me!

 

[BabyPrayers21]

Baby prayers I'm exactly the same now, at first I poas from like 8dpo now I can't because I have seen enough bfn to last a lifetime, also it drags the pain out over days as you know your not pregnant but as af isn't here can't move on. I'm on cd 10 and waiting for my smiley face on the opks.
Lirpa how do you know af is coming? Hopefully it doesn't

Ladders, fortunately I've been able to hold off up until a few days before. After receiving my last I'm definitely waiting until I'm officially late.

We are just beginning month 7. DH goes for a SA tomorrow morning. Then its back to our usual routine of bding every other day. Except this month I think I'm gonna try and convince him to keep BDing until AF shows up. I tend to stop trying after my window "ends" according to Ovia and FF.

I also go for more blood work on CD 21. I'm on CD 14 and also waiting for a + opk.

Best of luck and baby dust to all......

 

[BabyPrayers21]

I know AF is near because there is a tiny bit of blood on my cervix by 8-9DPO, which is 3-4 days before AF. It's the tiniest amount on my finger from checking cervix position, and I can see it by wiping my finger on toilet paper afterward, kinda like checking for CM around the cervix.

I also get a gurgly stomach a day or so before AF. It's kinda like it's growling, but different lol.
Sorry about TMI!!

I really hate POAS now I sometimes POAS around 7 and 8DPO even though I know it will be a BFN. Still doesn't make me feel any better when the Bfn finally does show up though.

Also, I've been taking parental vitamins since August last year!! At this rate I should buy shares in the company so I can get a return on their profits from me since I keep buying them ha ha! I should definitely have enough folic acid in my system to help with forming a baby by now! (Keeping spins bifida away and stuff)

Lirpa11, I hear yah about the prenatal vitamins. I've been taking them for a year. I also eat healthy and exercise. All of which my doctor has told me are good to continue doing. It's like then whats the deal??

I can't wait to get the remainder of my blood work done and have those answers as well as the results of DHs SA. I know my insides are good so maybe its hormones or DH. IDK. It's so frustrating.

 

[dreamingmom]

My DH got his tests back today. Good count but low mobility. He is going for an ultra sound next week to make sure their are no varicose veins down there. I think it is funny VV can be in the manly area and cause infertility issues, I thought they were just on girls thighs. The doctor also gave him some suggestions in life style changes to help speed his little guys up, if there is not a VV issue. Is anyone else dealing with low mobility? Has anyone heard of any strategies to help with slow mobility? I'm still pretty new to posting, is there a thread that someone can direct me to that might deal more directly with this problem?

I am a little disappointed that he is having a problem, but I am more relieved I deal with stress better when I have something to research or work toward fixing. Also, I was worried he had a low count so I was trying to make sure we didn't dtd too much. Now I think We will do it more then there will be more changes for one of them to get there. I wonder if standing on my head after will help them get to the goal.

Sorry for the rambling, I guess I had more questions then I thought.