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So I can honestly say besides the fact I was worried about holding onto the pregnancy in the early months I’ve not been stressed about having a baby. The ONLY anxiety I have is my mother in law. I love her but she very much sticks her two cents in whenever she sees fit and mostly in a brutal way.
Example: what’s happened to your skin again (when it breaks out) you’ve gained weight your belly is like the michlin man, your hair looks really thin you must be loosing it again, your so tall/lanky/bean pole(I’m 5.7) etc then I’ve heard from family members that she thinks I am not qualified to look after children-when I studied a degree in education and she’s never actually seen me “at work”. I’m lazy (when I do her dishes EVERY SINGLE TIME I’m at her house) I can’t cook, when she’s never tasted my food and my bf says he thinks I cook better than her (and he’s brutal he would tell me if it’s no good)
These are just small examples she does this even with her own children I’m genuinely staring to think there’s something wrong with her...so with all this in mind I have genuine anxiety about having my baby. I am dreading the un wanted advise the parenting skills/tactics I feel are outdated or not what I want to go by. I am genuinely stressed over it, she makes me want to scream at the best of times let alone when I will be tired and feeling useless finding my feet trying to raise my first child. I’ve worked in childcare especially with babies for over ten years so I’m not completely clueless like she tells people. It breaks my heart to hear how she’s spoken of me as she acts so loving and kind to my face. I want to say something from the moment I tell her I’m pregnant so I nip it in the bud early. I am 5 months next week and she still doesn’t know, my bf is supportive of me and doesn’t like the way she carries on either and says she’s been like this forever. I honestly won’t want to be around her if she says anything like this when I have my baby...what do I do?!
Example: what’s happened to your skin again (when it breaks out) you’ve gained weight your belly is like the michlin man, your hair looks really thin you must be loosing it again, your so tall/lanky/bean pole(I’m 5.7) etc then I’ve heard from family members that she thinks I am not qualified to look after children-when I studied a degree in education and she’s never actually seen me “at work”. I’m lazy (when I do her dishes EVERY SINGLE TIME I’m at her house) I can’t cook, when she’s never tasted my food and my bf says he thinks I cook better than her (and he’s brutal he would tell me if it’s no good)
These are just small examples she does this even with her own children I’m genuinely staring to think there’s something wrong with her...so with all this in mind I have genuine anxiety about having my baby. I am dreading the un wanted advise the parenting skills/tactics I feel are outdated or not what I want to go by. I am genuinely stressed over it, she makes me want to scream at the best of times let alone when I will be tired and feeling useless finding my feet trying to raise my first child. I’ve worked in childcare especially with babies for over ten years so I’m not completely clueless like she tells people. It breaks my heart to hear how she’s spoken of me as she acts so loving and kind to my face. I want to say something from the moment I tell her I’m pregnant so I nip it in the bud early. I am 5 months next week and she still doesn’t know, my bf is supportive of me and doesn’t like the way she carries on either and says she’s been like this forever. I honestly won’t want to be around her if she says anything like this when I have my baby...what do I do?!