Mother of all conception months Graduates

[molly85]

he doesn't willingly operate teh washing machine and hates clothes piling up so will wear 3 day old jeans or olderwhen its hios work trousers

 

[gilz82]

Aw Molly maybe you should write him an instruction manual but make sure it has lots of pictures cos men don't tend to read instructions just look at the pictures instead

 

[molly85]

iv told him to figureout what needs doing himself otherwise i will remain angry

 

[madcatwoman]

Vbaby, you sound way too busy today!!

we went for a short walk this pm, well, as far as i could make it before baby B slipped right into my pelvis and it was time to turn back.
then we lit the fire, i found a VERY comfy spot on the couch with the cushions, DH on the other couch, and we both fell asleep.

Off out to dinner soon with DHs family (&the SIL), we're hoping shes going to be ok with the sight of me and my not so little bump.


(PSive eaten 3 cream eggs, DH doesnt know yet)

 

[PeanutBean]

Funnily enough we fitted our stair gates because of our old dog too! He couldn't get up the stairs without help but would try and often fall down. It was awful. We have one a the bottom and top of the stairs. They are very steep. We don't have any at the lift stairs as they are dog leg so not a big drop. We've never bothered about between rooms.

I said to DH today he should start a support group for men with helping them support their women but that found include doing the housework too! Lol

Well we had a super busy day. Went to the birth choices group - I'll paste all about it into my journal later - then on to the shops. Got Byron some play doh accessories and more training pants. I got a tommee tippee pump half price! Very excited about that! Lol. Got some delicious veg food from Holland and Barrett; we've not been in ages so very refreshing change to my food repertoire. All in all a good sort of day. I am ready to sleep again. I think I need to start napping in the day to balance things out better.

 

[NOMORENUMBERS]

aw peanut sounds like an absolutely fab session! goes to show the attitude though about discussing birthing options no-one else ahowing up is shocking! i mean i know i am pretty much decided on a c section but if someone would promise me 100% i would have the best midwife (not the worst and a trainee) who would be at my side the whole time who was experienced in vbac i would be 100% up for it! i will still be discussing all my birthing options with my consultant when i get appointment even though i am pretty decided. aw i think it is a shame when there is obviously a good class there which could provide really valuable info on making your birth not just a way to expell a baby but to have a really positive experience.

ladies i really really think i might be wanting vbac . . . i am NOT confident that my hospital will be able to provide me with a decent midwife though . . .

EDIT: lol i just realised i totally contradicted my self i am pretty much decided on c section because my hospital is shocking but i am starting to feel like i would actually prefer vbac . . .i think that makes better sense

 

[molly85]

nomore i remember you live down here somewhere roughly where ar u? I might know somewhere.

Matt is doing house work it has just taken him 5 minutes to empty machine and sort a new load. and now he's tidying the bathroom lol On shoving his hand in the machine he said it's bigger in here than you'd think. !!!!!!!!!! shows the last time he did anything in there

 

[MADLYSBOYS]

Evening Ladies :wave:

tbh Gilz the weekend away `head wetting` just sounds like an excuse for the men to go crazy and get drunk imo Am not sure if DH would ask to go out with the lads but if he did I might not mind so much if I also got a night off in return Fairs fair and all that.

vbaby I think am with you on the `nesting` I went mental cleaning fridges and alsorts at work yesterday and during the week have got the house in order. I am so organised were Charlie is concerned and have nearly completed my `to get` list and tomorrow am planning on doing the drawer shifting about thingy By the time I go on Mat Leave I wont have a thing to do

Peanut hon your meeting sounds great I commented in your Journal already.

madcat hon goodluck with the meal out (might be a little late now ) hope your SIL manages to cope ok really is a sticky situation

Well today I went to a soft play area with Oliver, my sister, her dd, my other sister and she brought her friends LO as she doesnt have any LOs. It was a really nice day albeit noisy them places get so busy however Oliver decided he was going to be a right little monkey this aft and threw about a dozen trantrums ekkkkkkkkkk We then went to the shopping centre and I bought some tit pads a baby sponge for Charlie (forgot this the other day when I bought all other bath bits ) and then once DH picked us up we went to do our shop at asda and we picked up an avent microwave steriliser for a fab price only a tenner.....I love baby bargains oh and Charlie`s Baby K all in one going out suit arrived this morning in the post and its totally gorgeous

Well I am feeling really tired and now Olivers in bed am going to have summat to eat and then me and DH are going to find a film to watch

Have a nice evening Ladies

Oh madcat I now have 11 creme eggs in the fridge yum yum!

 

[PeanutBean]

Busy lady madly! Glad you found some baby bargains too.

Nomore why don't you look into getting a doula? You could meet someone local and talk through it all, see how possible a vbac is and talk through how she would support you in the hospital. You could just explore the options with her and see how you feel. It would be a real shame for you to be choosing a section because of your hospital and not because it's what you want. Now I've started down this path I'm getting more and more passionate about birthing women's rights. I'm trying to keep it down a bit in here with you new mums to be! But I do think that every woman should be able to have a positive experience, however that birth comes about. There are things that can be done with every kind of delivery to maximise mum and baby (and dad and baby) bonding. But at the base of it all our options should certainly not be limited by the willingness or competency of the medics we happen to live near. Anyway, maybe explore it a bit and see? You've got plenty of time yet.

On the people not turning up thing. I was surprised as on the phone last night she said she was expecting I think three other couple planning homebirths. But I wouldn't have known it was on had I not actively sought out a homebirth group. My mw didn't even know about it even though she's really pro-natural birthing. It was the first one at the hospital too. I guess these things can take a while to pick up.

 

[NOMORENUMBERS]

Hey Molly,

My hospital is RHB . . . . i have seen a few posts that Frimley Park is good but if i were to end up having an emergency c section it might just be a little too far out . . . dunno i need to do research! i am getting excited about the thought of it though!

aw 11 creme eggs madly! not fair i have nothing in my fridge . . old mother hubburd . . . damn this tiredness! i am over being so tired now. must . . . get . . . . arse . . .off . . . sofa . . .need . . .food . . .and . . clean bra . . .

 

[PeanutBean]

Clean bra?!!

 

[gilz82]

Sorry it's late but hope the dinner goes/went well Madcat

Madly and Peanut sounds like you had a productive day

I fell asleep in the bath earlier, I'm so tired, I've never done that though. I was so wrinkly and prune like when I got out it was beyond a joke

 

[NOMORENUMBERS]

i totally agree, i am beginning to think i am already being conditioned to have a c section, my midwife was like what are your feelings on your first birth after reminding her of the details and i didnt want to say it was horrible but said it wasnt positive and she was like no no it was awful wasnt it just horrific for you to have to go through all that, but there was no mention of how do you feel about it this time or this time round we will be doing x y and z or even a mention of a vbac leaflet you know? i know it was only a booking in appointment but the fact there was no "well this time we are going to just go for a more positive one wont we" i felt like she was trying not to voice any sort of opinion, i will prob find out why when i go to a consultant visit, i have already heard that RBH has one of the highest if no THE highest c section rates in the country and have already heard of the "policy" of vbac

i just realised that actually the thought of being sat in a waiting room waiting for that big old needle and the knife etc etc petrifies me far more than at least being given a go at vbac you know

oh i am excited! dont think i will be able to afford a doula but that is defo the sort of thing i need . . . maybe i should google a few things like hypnotherapy and get my mum clued up too so she can defend me in there lol

 

[NOMORENUMBERS]

ha ha yeah clean bra! i realised that my dh might have been pulling my trick that i did on him, he had no clean pants now i have no clean bra! doi! oh i am disgustingly lazy at the mo

 

[molly85]

RHB would be reading? damn to far the wrongway. Im not massive on frimley park but I know the actual unit is very nice and the nursing staff brilliant. UNiS students train there. Depending on distance you could get therereasonably quickly. I'm using RSCH as I have bad memories attached to other parts of frimley park i.e. a&e and othopeadics.

 

[molly85]

Poor hetty the hoover is in the hands of matt she does not look amuzed at all

 

[NOMORENUMBERS]

aw i think i am just going to have to semi hope for a good midwife and just get my self really really clued up on things, i think my problem last time was allowing them anywhere near me with their sweepings that increased my contractions with no power behind them and their semi forced epidural - i was too quiet and didnt have a birth plan. being flexible is not a birth plan lol

aw come on i have GOT to get up i give myself until half 8 if i have done nothing then i will have to sign off and do something lol

 

[molly85]

Nomore message me some time and we can compare notes. there is always possiblity I may have to use frimley park.


Oh nooo my pooor beloved hetty has been dragged in the front room he has been hoovering for 20 minutes our house is tiny and hes' only done downstairs. teach him to be an arsey git

 

[gilz82]

How is it men can make housework look so much harder than it actually is? That's almost a talent in itself

 

[NOMORENUMBERS]

well that was the first load of washing i have put on for a month, it feels so good to have contributed lol lol lol shame the rest of the house still looks like something out of how clean is your house but hey ho!

yeah will do! i have just been looking at doulas and they cost about a grand maximum alot of people were saying cost them between 500 and 750 pounds.

hmmmmm i would love something like that then it wouldnt matter if i had to give birth at RBH! My mum asked if she can be there again but i keep thinking if i cant afford a doula then my sister is very strong willed and i know she would be able to support me and keep me going . . . . my mum last time bless her i had her there to keep my dh calm and although thats exactly what she did i think my sister could keep both me and dh calm which when faced with my pain i dont think my mum coped too well with it

oh i sound harsh saying that maybe i should think of other things my mum can do like helping our ds pick a present for the baby and bring him to the hospital for the first meeting or something . . . dunno oh