Mother of all conception months Graduates

[madcatwoman]

morning all

pinkclaire, so glad you had such a positive birth!
Madly,fingers crossed for charlies weigh-in, hope he's a little chunkier!.
Gilz,you know im thinking of you!

Does anyone have any wonder remidies for colic, poor Bailey has it every evening, for 2 hours, from 7-9pm, tried infacol,gripewater,tummy massage,back massage,cuddles,you name it, by 10 past 9 its like someone has flicked a switch though and he's back to his normal self!. I just hate seeing him seemingly in pain for those 2 hours!

 

[pinkclaire]

Thanks madcat!

Hmm I would suggest all the things you've tried, I think it's just one of those things they grow out of?

Lottie has fed all night, literally on the boob all night lol. I am shattered! James woke up in the night and was really upset he couldn't come in our bed. It made me cry he was just shouting mama so I left her crying for a bit and gave him a cuddle in his room until he went to sleep. Felt so guilty on sooo many levels! X

 

[Sofiekirsten]

pink, Jake did the same on his second night and I was exhausted. I can't imagine how much harder it is with having another LO to look after aswell. I hope tonight is better for you.

Jake deciced not to sleep last night either so I put him in our bed (I know I shouldn't have done) and he slept there for a couple of hours but me and DH had to sleep in shifts again to make sure he was ok and that no one squashed him.

Problem is we have tried him in everything....moses basket, bouncer chair, car seat and his pram but he doesn't want to sleep. He will sit there for 15 mins then he will start screaming and he won't calm down unless he is doing skin to skin with me....

I am wondering if he misses the comfort of the boob?

Also can you swaddle them? My SIL said your not supposed to swaddle them in thier moses basket anymore??

God this is exhausting!

 

[pinkclaire]

SK I have had both my babies in bed with me, its exhausting otherwise! I know I sleep lightly though and know exactly whats going on! Its the only way to get any rest though!

With swaddling, its about them getting too hot, a swaddle gives triple the tog, so use a cotton sheet, rather than a blanket and dress appropriately.

 

[MADLYSBOYS]

Morning Ladies :wave:

to everyone for the pants part of parenting we all seem to be suffering in one way or another

Pink I too had seriously nasty after pains this time I would go as far as to say at points they were as bad if not worse than contractions as you know am not a BF mama and I too was impressed how quickly my tummy shrank I was back in pre-preg Jeans two weeks after Charlie was born and about a week after that I dropped to a size smaller the size smaller are a little more fitted but mainly around my now chunkier thighs am hoping all the walking to the school and back (90mins round trip each day!) will help that ps did I tell you I just adore your little girls name

Thank you Ladies for your comments re Charlies weight am keeping everything crossed for 1pm when the HV is due

SK you can swaddle Jake in his moses basket have you tried a lullaby mobile or something similar Charlie seems to like this ..... it plays lullabys when you press its tummy but in the background of the lullaby there are water and wooshing sounds I suppose its meant to represent the sounds from the womb its tummy is also a night light it plays lullabys for about 10mins or so and they get quieter and quieter we find by the time its dont one cycle Charlie is snoring

https://www.argos.co.uk/static/Product/partNumber/3489941.htm

madcat am told frequently that the `colic` thing just all of a sudden disappears at exactly 3mths old on the dot I bloody hope so I have just had a screaming Charlie .... mornings are our worst time of day

 

[pinkclaire]

Aww madly thank you,

I missed the bit about Charlies weight, whats up with it hun? GL anyway!

I think I might get one of those if it works so well

 

[vbaby3]

Morning all,well I had the same 3 nights in a row,awake for a 2am feed and she's staying awake and unsettled til 4.30/5am.I'm beyond tired at this stage.

madly,Hope charlie has put on some weight.We've our 6wk check up next wk so teagan will be weighed again finally!I'm presuming she's doing ok as she's outgrowing all her clothes at an alarming rate lol!

Sofie,its hard work,especially those 1st couple of wks.Jake is still brand new so isn't gonna be in any kind of routine.Do what you have to to get some sleep,dh and I did shifts too for the 1st couple wks,especially since you're formula feeeding at least you don't have to do all the feeds.Leave your boobies alone,they'll be ok in a couple of days,mine killed me too.

Madcat,Teagan is very unsettled in the evenings too crying unconsolably and also after her nightfeed.I can't seem to get her wind up at all.
I am googling and gonna try the yellow onion colic remedy,might sound crazy to some people but I'm willing to try anything lol!!I've heard people swear by it.After last night I've had enough!!!
I'm gonna do it this evening so will let you know tomorrow how it went!!

 

[vbaby3]

And yes ladies,shay had the worst colic ever and from 10 wks it started getting a little better each day,by the time he hit 12/13 wks he was all better.So if nothing else works,at least we're almost half way there

 

[vbaby3]

Pink sorry you're so exhausted.Its so hard when you've other lo's to look after.Especially for you as James is so young.aThe guilt is all part of it unfortunately.
My 2 always seem to need something,or need my attention when i'm feeding or bathing teagan,and i hate saying you'll have to wait until i'm finished.I don't want them resenting her.Its hard.x

 

[MADLYSBOYS]

Pink Charlie has only gained 3oz since birth theres been talk of him having an higher calorific formula, HV is coming today to weigh him again!

vbaby so sorry your having crap nights too .... half way there right never heard of that remedy am intrigued must go google

I still have a grizzly baby that just wants to stay in my arms all the time

 

[MADLYSBOYS]

Pink sorry you're so exhausted.Its so hard when you've other lo's to look after.Especially for you as James is so young.aThe guilt is all part of it unfortunately.
My 2 always seem to need something,or need my attention when i'm feeding or bathing teagan,and i hate saying you'll have to wait until i'm finished.I don't want them resenting her.Its hard.x

We have this too I hate to say to Oliver he has to wait DH took him bowling on Sunday just the two of them so he doesnt think everything is Charlie related now Guilt is the worst feeling ever when it comes to our children

 

[Ozzieshunni]

Morning all! Hospital day again! Second to last time we'll be scanned to check on Baby Alex then next Friday he's here! DH can't come today I always worry something will happen when he's not there.

to all the mommies

 

[PeanutBean]

Good luck with the scan Ozzie. Sofie new babies, especially early ones just want their mums. Like pink we coslept with Byron who was sleeping only 9 hours in 24 because he simply couldn't sleep not in our arms and also literally never cried it out. It was awful. Swaddling really helps but we swaddled Byron too and it wasn't enough. Do what you need to.

Pink chuck your oh out and have James and the baby! It is awful having to favour one child over the other. I found she quickly improved from the very first days.

 

[Sofiekirsten]

Thanks Pink I will try and swaddle him tonight and see how it goes.

He doesn't seem to like having his feet covered up either just hope he anages to sleep tonight....

Just waiting for the health visitor to do Jakes heel prick and weigh him

 

[Sofiekirsten]

Thanks everyone for the advice.

I was getting conflicting advice from people....Like my MIL telling me co-sleeping was dangerous but I know many women who have done it.

Hopefully we can atleast get an hours sleep tonight because this no sleep is killing me!

Madly the baby soother is sooo cute but suprise suprise its not in stock...Although the pink one is you would have thought they would make a cream coloured one.

Little man did a poo at around 6am and oh my god it was gross lol we are still giving him cooled down boiling water to try and get him to poo more because I think he is constipated

 

[molly85]

SK could be the water he'll eat less with that in his tummy so get hungry. dippy me should have known.

one baby wide awake at 4.30 so got up 2 did some washing up with her on the changing mat next to the sink. i picked her up and shed done that possettig thing it was all in her hair grossss. back in bed at 7.30 we were all asleep around 8 woke up at 11. not a great routine but i got some decent sleep

 

[pinkclaire]

SK the guidelines have changed on co sleeping and as long as you do it safely its fine, but you know yourself better than anyone else, if you trust yourself thats all that matters, mum instinct is huge! I will try find the guidelines for you or if not ask your MW for them!

Madly how worrying for you! I hope everything is ok today

So we rename this the mother of all sleepless nights thread? !!

 

[loopylollipop]

Sofie, Dylan wouldnt settle in his moses basket at first. With persistence he goes down and sleeps well in it during the day, but not at night.

I sleep with him on my chest every night. The health professionals wouldnt recommend it, and it is allegedly more risky with low birthweight babes like mine. However I would not have slept at night at all if I didnt do this. I have tried everything else I can think of because it worries me but needs must. From what PB has said the evidence against co-sleeping isnt great.

I basically lie to my HV about his sleeping habits

I will continue to keep trying putting him down at night after feeds/changes etc until he hopefully settles.

Its weird its only at night.

Dylan is a month old today

He has smiled for the first time this week OH didnt believe me til he saw it for himself, def not just wind!!

 

[pinkclaire]

PS there is some new photos in my new journal in my sig, including one of the dog greeting her home, loopy I knew you wanted to see an up to date one lol xx

 

[loopylollipop]

Ozzie - all the best for your appointment