i am absolutely ground down to an absolute pulp
sorry this is going to be another self involved rant but i need to get this off my chest because i will never sleep . . .
my appointment today . . you know the one where it was supposed to be all rubber stamped, section date given and me finally able to relax. . . well no.
dont get me wrong despite being told it was just a formality i still expected to have to put my case forward for a c section, i know i dont have a physical medical reason but i have a pretty huge mental medical reason and as this was down to them being completely incompetant at my first birth i thought that they might be a little anxious and very much sympathetic to my story.
i have now seen 5 different people, all saying that they can not make a decision, all of which insist i go through every painful memory i have of my first birth without offering any kind of help back ie any form of basic counselling skills or even an oh wow ok no wonder you feel the way you feel, my tears are just met with stoney silence
today the consultant point blank refused to do a c section. i absolutely just broke down, when i asked why she reeled off the whole no medical reason and i just sobbed well what about birth trauma, are you telling me that this medical reason now no longer exists? no we do not give c sections for birth trauma, like wtf!

then she asks me if i had seen the head midwife, i said no i have not needed to as when my midwife explained my situation to her she found it severe enough to agree to it without seeing me, has written on my notes her opinion and has written a letter to i was told "the consultants" exactly my worries and her opinion on it.
you know how it was left
i will call you and let you know my absolute final decison in a week or so
i am in floods of tears, i feel like such a prick. am i being stupid that i should be totally over my son almost dying? should i be over the lack of care i recieved during my labour and after it? should i be able to blindly trust the exact same people not to do the same thing again?
and another thing not one person has told me anything remarkable about why i should put my trust in them. oh every labour is different - my resonse yes i could actually end up with a fully dead baby this time instead of one in a coma, your baby isnt big, neither was my son supposedly 11lb 6onz of not big, you will be monitored, because they did such a fabuous job of it with leo, we are not into forcing people to do something they do nto want to do, right and what youare doing to me is.. . . . what my imagination?
i feel like giving up. if it werent for the very very real thought in my head that they will most certainly feck up again i would turn around and say whatever fine force me to do what you want but if anything happens to my baby i will be suing the arses off of all of you like i should i have done the first time round.
in fact she only shut the hell up with her no no no when i said i fully blame this department for what happened to my son. fully blame them.
i'll f&cking call you in a week or so. thanks!