Mother of all conception months Graduates

[molly85]

Eugh Madly hugs I deffinatly fel lucky that my mil is more useless than in yor face but still haven't left Abby with her yet.

You do remind me my dad wouldn't hold Abby yesterday because he was standing up I am very relaxed about people holding her as she will probably have to go to nursery and they are far from soft with them there.

 

[NOMORENUMBERS]

aw sequeena i felt the same, when we left the hospital with leo we were like i am sure someone is going to run after us from intensive care unit he was on and go err what you guys dont have a clue what you are doing with this baby lol

when we got home within 24 hours i realised that it was a case of eat, change, sleep, change, eat, change, sleep, change lol lol lol well i was lucky with leo once we got him home he was a very easy baby. you will be absolutely fine, although things can go wrong like reflux and exloding nappies it isnt rocket science . . . the rocket science part of being a mummy is keeping cool, calm and not thinking about how few hours sleep you had lol in fact the less discussion with partners about who had less sleep will save you so many arguements in the future especially if you just declare now it will always be you winning lol lol lol

oh sequeena i am so ruddy jealous, i have gone from thinking my baby will be here at 39 weeks to thinking hmmm more likely september now! although i am a september lady so wouldnt mind sharing a birth day month with our little lady lol

oh madly your mil sounds like a right weirdo, i really dont understand why people want to look after babies who are ill in whatever way and insist on making them even more unsettled by taking them from their mummies, keeping them in an unfamiliar house with a person who does not know their routine, what they like, how to calm them etc etc if i was struggling with someone elses baby i would be a little like aw i wish we could cuddle for longer but would most certainly be finishing that sentance with oh well back to mummy lol lol lol unless mummy then looked at me as if to say please just 30 more seconds lol lol

 

[Ozzieshunni]

sequeena, please try and sleep. That's the one thing I didn't do enough of.

 

[NOMORENUMBERS]

aw shucks looks like i am defo the very very last one on the list to pop lol, just popped onto dares journal, she doesnt appear to have updated on there yet but everyone is congratulating her!!! i wonder is sequeena and dare popped the same day??? would that be two sets of grad babies with the same birthday?

darn it so jealous lol lol lol congrats to dare if the news is accurate!! lol xkx

 

[tas1]

Evening ladies

I'm feeling rubbish at the minute I feel like I have the world worst hangover but without drinking,my OH has felt like it too!

I did car boot today we're doing ok need to do abit more to make our money back! Feel so tired from it today!

I can't remember everything I have read you ladies write loads lol!

Madly mil's do your head in,mine was once again here helping my OH it does my head in my OH doesnt get any time alone with the boys not that he seems bothered! Your mil sounds worse though at least mine hands Caleb over when he starts crying!

Congrats sequeena,glad Thomas is marking his Mark lol! Will repeat what Ozzie said get some sleep!!!!

Good luck with all the appointments this week I hope everyone gets answers!

I got two weaning books today for 50p they are Anna karmel ones too! So if anyone wants me to give them recipes just let me know,I'm gonna do a plan of what I'm gonna do week by week and do it properly this time! I'm gonna try him on baby rice on Friday he will be 17wks and 1 day it's my OHs day off so want him to see this time as he missed out on Cadens first meal!

I think Caleb is growing as he has slept most of the day which is nice as I got some sleep this afternoon! Caden is cheeky need not to say any more lol

Xx

 

[madcatwoman]

Arghhhh madly! Your MIL is completely incapable by he sounds of it! . and "HER" charlie!???? keep your distance from that woman i say!

Well, i left the gaviscon out of 2 bottles today, and we went back to square one, hes taken his evening bottle ok with it back in!!.

Sequeena, i too was left to get on with it in hospital too!, they wouldnt even keep an eye on bailey when i went to the shower, and id come back to the ward with him screeming!!. Id never held a baby before let alone fed& changed one!

 

[PeanutBean]

Sorry about your mil madly.

Sequeena I'd also say get some sleep but I doubt it'll happen. With Byron I had maybe 4 hours sleep the night before labour because of bronchitis; about 2 the night I went into labour; then none til two days later as I didn't sleep in hospital. So I reckon about 72 hours without any sleep, no counting five min snippets between contractions for a short time after having pethidine. The subsequent nights [weeks] didn't see much sleep either. With Indigo I slept not too bad through the first night of contractions but didn't even bother in hospital so went about 40 hours before I slept again. Not a competition, just want to let you know it's normal and women are fantabulous and can somehow do this sort of thing as well as labour and give birth at the sane time. . But seriously, do get some rest at the first opportunity. Apart from feeding Thomas everything else can wait.

For BF, as you obviously have the Internet google La Leche League for tips on positioning and latch. There are lots of different holds and babies tend to favour one or two over others. It's common for them to only like one boob for a while and you both learn how to do it together. They only need a very small amount of colostrum and tbh if it came down to it most could probably manage without til the milk comes in - Byron did with only a dash of formula that I now think was unnecessary. So try and relax and just spend some time skin to skin so you are both bonding and chilled. The feeding will come. The more anxious you are the harder it is. Oh and mws are notoriously shit, ask to see a lactation consultant for support. You could always try the breast crawl. They don't all do it but many newborns will find their own way to the nipple.

Well as the night draws in I feel more ill. Was hoping to start some sewing but it's not looking promising. Just ordered a birth sampler for Indigo. It matches the one I made Byron. Also ordered some bookmarks to sew as gifts. Ordered photos up to date now and just need to order some albums and then rearrange my shelves to find a home for them. Not tonight obviously!

 

[molly85]

pbim with you on the milk being milked by a midwife as your just starting to feel better after birth does nothing for your confidence.

 

[sequeena]

I've managed about hour and a half kip. Woke up freaking out and had to check his cot.

I've had to give him some cow and gate in a syringe as he's just not getting enough and he's going a little yellow.

 

[molly85]

there allowed to go yellow yikes. get him in the day light, we got a bed by the window at the hospital. you can only do your best hun

 

[sequeena]

Thanks jo x I didn't really want to give it to him but Sean just wants him fed however and I felt a little guilt depriving him of food

 

[molly85]

your not depriving him when hes hungry he will eat. the first few days are a struggle but they barley eat anything very often so tell sean pipe down your instincts will take over. Oh and he should sleep loads tonight if you can stop your self staring at him sleep you won't get to again for some time. Have you stayed in or come home yet? If your home and his highness feels the need let him syringe but you will be flying high for a week or so no sleep required round about 2 or 3 weeks when the baby blues really hits the adreneline runs out eugh. about the same time dads go back to work. Funny how they work that.

My scary midwife said feed them in the sunshine and against most other adviseput them by a window in the day time the yellowness goes its the liver firing up and getting sorted

 

[NOMORENUMBERS]

this is why my original birth plan was get me the hell outta there as soon as possible! there is nothing worse than people making you feel like you are doing a bad job when in actual fact there is nothing at all wrong i think the pressure to pop out baby and be instantly feeding like a pro is so unrealistic! when i first started pumping after leo was born i literally pumped until i bled because one nurse came in and said aw bless thats not a lot is it! when i took it up to leo i was apologizing saying i am so sorry it isnt alot they were like errr this is a total normal amount dont worry, if you can pump more for the feed after do it if not dont worry we will give him some formula but that honestly is more than enough!

go with your gut hun, i think sometimes the "something is up" feeling is more down to people being pushy and making you feel like you are doing wrong when actually you are doing fine!

 

[molly85]

Kate i think it took me over a month to figre that out so hope sequeena doesn't have to go through the same pressure as us. I think it's important to write down now at some point what i hav learned so once hormonal and scary again i can tell them all to bog off. lol

 

[sequeena]

I'm actually still in waiting for the baby doctor to discharge me to my local hospital where Sean can stay. Can I go home then? Would they let mr take him?

 

[PeanutBean]

I agree with the girls sequeena. A newborn has a stomach the size of a walnut. They need very little. Almost all get jaundice to some extent. Indigo fed loads and gig a little. Byron fed not at all and got a lot, including jitters, but his levels still weren't enough to need light treatment. Definitely get him in the sunlight and if it's dry get OH to take him outside for some real sun and air. You've the advantage of summer. In November with Byron and weeks of thick snow we really struggled for light!

You've done so well through all of this, don't let them get you down now. Even when they are latched for hours it doesn't mean they are actually feeding all that time. It is comfort and bonding too. When your milk comes in in a day or two it'll be soooo much easier.

I weeded the front path (with bare hands) when I put the milk bottles out. I think I might be getting a bit delirious.

 

[PeanutBean]

There's no 'let' you take him, he's yours not theirs! Tell them if they don't come sign you off untie next half hour you're both leaving and they can bring the paperwork to your house tomorrow!

 

[NOMORENUMBERS]

its a shame isnt it, especially when it is your first baby you are drip fed this image of instant bonding, instant feeding and anything that goes to the left or right of that is wrong - so stupid. i had a brilliant midwife in leos ward (it was like a completely different world up there it really was) who gave me so many tips, made me feel really confident about everything even though i didnt really have a clue and i can say that honestly the majority of it went against most government guidelines which is the buzz word on the wards these days, dont worry about individuals and common sense!

 

[NOMORENUMBERS]

i agree with pb sequeena! he is your baby! if they are fart arsing around with paperwork then i am afraid time waits for no man .. . and you do not wait for paperwork!

 

[molly85]

god yes they can't keep you in mild jaundice isnot a reasonand neither is bein a first time mum or questions on feeding. You will do all far better at home and transfering to another hospital this time of night is not going to happen your not an emergency. Tell them your going or snuggledown for the night. in hindsight home is better. They sort of held s hostage with all this waffle on abbys tempreture blahh she spent all her time on me not her sodding hot cot nothing wrong with her. Pls they wanted meto feed her before we left then disappered cheeky sods. Next time in (only having waters popped if im indced) baby out stitches and thing up bum, collect medication and out. Abby and molly can go to MIL for a few days while i get sortedthen chocs away. No faffing I will combi feed down to FFing. i'll sodding use wipes and i refse to stay in be fed rbbish and bekept awake by other people giving their babies to themidwives to care for. (not as they did with me offer so i cold wizz to the loo)