Mother of all conception months Graduates

[Ozzieshunni]

madcat Stay hydrated!

Yeah, I suppose. She was my friend before he and I got together. I think she needs to get a good book and a reality check. Having a baby isn't all rainbows and sunshine. She's going to realize that sleep becomes a thing of the past and everything is for baby now.

Ah well. I have a great relationship and a great little baby who has defied the odds with his heart and is a cuddle bug

 

[madcatwoman]

thanks had a lie down and downed a pint of water, feeling a bit more human now, just have a headache.

 

[molly85]

yuck to lack of sleep and the squits hugs girls

after a wingey going to bed, abby dabby here had a dream feed(loving this) of 2 oz at 11 then slept til 5 and imnot sure she actually woke just flapped abot then had some more then slept til 8.30 wish matt had tried to dream feed her he wouldnt have been woken then lol

now if i can go to bed earlier and convince myself to get up earlier we wouldhave a good routine going

 

[PeanutBean]

Madcat the antibiotics definitely upset the normal bacteria - that's the purpose of them - but I don't believe one round of iv antibiotics will prompt ibs. It's no more likely than one round of antibiotics for anything else in life as they all destroy the normal flora in order to destroy the target bacteria. I've never seen any research suggesting a link and the phrase "may provide another trigger" or whatever it was is tantamount to saying "my pet theory with no evidence to back it up". Not undermining what you're feeling or whether it is or isn't ibs but I don't think it'll be from the antibiotics either way.

I think it's very common for postnatal women to have gut problems. There is the physical rearrangement going on plus the hormonal changes. I had bad guts every single period for at least a year plus being in general disarray the first couple of months after both pregnancies. If it is ibs then it will most likely be down to an existing predisposition that could have been triggered by being postnatal (whatever the cause) but I don't think ibs can be diagnosed without it having been there a while. I say all this, as you know, coming from the perspective of not wanting and not trusting the antibiotics in labour.

Anyway, I hope you feel better soon.

We all walked the dog this morning. It was muddy. DH is reading stories before Byron's nap. I've fed indigo and am hoping we can nap too. Loads of housey jobs to do but too tired to even think about doing them.

 

[molly85]

they'll still be there tomorrow Peanut.Girls i have a very bonkers idea but wish to put it to you to see how bonkers.As I have mentioned I may be loosing my job I may not depends on alot of things but: We deffiantly want another baby and my body obviously was never designed to carry a child so what ever damage it does will hurtwhen ever we choose to do it. I don't really want to go back to work yet so was thinking would it be bonkewrs to start NTNP now and just see where it leads according to my calculations if and thats a big if I got pregnant in the next monthy A they would have similer birthdays and B more importantly I would not be back at work for over a year from now probaby 18 months.I know it's a crazy way of doing it but what do you think a little bit nuts or a lot nuts?

 

[gilz82]

Wow I think a lot nuts but my perspective is completely skewed by having a really sick baby. If you think it's the right thing for you, Abby and Matt that's all that matters hon

 

[molly85]

matts not much use finacially for the forseable it seems to make sence but a very scary thought

 

[madcatwoman]

just been for a really long walk, im knackered now, my stomach still lost its ying&yang, decided im not going to have dinner/tea, maybe toast later

Molly,you crazy girl! lol

 

[PeanutBean]

Molly you need to do what works for you. I was thinking of getting pregnant during my leave so that I only had to return a short time but as you know we're now thinking we might leave it as 2. Our motivation for choosing when to try for Indigo was almost entirely financially based. I wanted to wait to try and get a new job. That didn't happen. Then it made sense to wait so that Byron would have free nursery places before we were both full time again. I also wanted a baby in the spring/summer. All pretty fickle reasons for choosing when to create life but hey ho! It's bloody hard work with two little ones, as pink will be able to tell you, but you won't love either of them any less for being maybe more tired and/or grumpy. You will miss out on some time with Abby if you feel rotten in pregnancy but if you're going to feel rotten then you'll miss time whenever you do it. The carrying can be particularly hard when pregnant and it'll all be before Abby is walking if you get pregnant soon so there will be a lot of it but, again, it's tough being pregnant with a second anytime. I can certainly see why you would want to safeguard your mat pay etc by getting pregnant sooner.

I had no nap despite trying. I've since done some pissy jobs, bit of post here, some emails there etc. Feeling strangely excited that I only owe £350 on my credit card now which I'll pay off next month. Not bad from £3k courtesy of my last leave! I got my first full SMP payslip this month. Still, not really getting taxed on it so it feels a bit bigger than my last leave. Going to take Byron to another comprehension study next month.

 

[NOMORENUMBERS]

molly the thought has crossed my mind too! the thing that is stopping me really is that it would be 3 sections in 3.5 years, the spd is just unbelievably crippling and makes me feel so bad for leo, also it is different having no baby and being pregnant and having a baby and being pregnant such as no naps, having to hold in your sick because you cant just drop the toddler and run, the general lack of energy and now it is the guilt i have that the spd is making me into the worlds most boring mum! ever!

with that said . . . another side of me is thinking yes it would be nice to have lots of time off and not have to work but still get paid (when i say work i mean leave the house to work lol) and also how nice would it be to have all 3 close-ish in age and also how much harder could 3 be than two . . .but then again how much harder would 3 be than 2 when you only have two hands. . . then again two would be little so for a while you only need the one hand grabbing hand . . . . i have totally not helped at all have i lol lol lol

the selfish part of me is a little bit like at least the third and last baby would be born quickly after the second and then i could start thinking of a career for myself . . . gah no stop 3 sections in 3.5 years is not good stop stop stop - you bad influence molly!

 

[NOMORENUMBERS]

just tested the water with dh, it was a resounding no . . .but i think thats more likely because we have had sex like 6 times this entire pregnancy lol i dont think he could go another drought like that for a couple of years lol lol lol

 

[tas1]

Lol you two are mad! I've had thoughts about a third but finically we will struggle plus my health is an issue I don't wanna risk getting poorly as I have two kids! But I do get jealous of baby girl and the fact that I'm so girly it's unreal so I'm missing out playing dress up with them but then I'm not guaranteed a girl next time so I might get tempted to try again so a never ending cycle that might not get broken!
But my friend is having a third and although for me it's crazy but for her it's normal if that makes sense,she has always wanted three so it seems right for her!

I think I need to get Caleb a sleeping bag coz he's kicking away in his basket and pulling his blanket off! It's day four of just putting him in his Moses basket and sitting next to him and he's all smiles although I know he's tired lol it's cute though

When do you put them in cots? I put Caden in at 8weeks because he kept waking himself up hitting the sides but Caleb seems to be ok during the night he is just getting tall! I'm not sure whether I am being tight coz I need to get a new mattress then I've been looking (gonna get it on the very account) and which one do you buy? Because I definately can't use Cadens old one right? I wish I could remember stuff it's only 3yrs ago but I feel like a new mum!
Think I'm gonna wean him earlier as well as he is staring loads at us eating even biscuits and chewing his hands getting fussy with his bottle! He's strong with his head now he looks around and moves to noises!

Xx

 

[molly85]

6 tell him hes a lucky ******* matt got it 3 times once we knew i was pg lol

it gets worse matt agreed lol. my thoughts are if i can't walk its better when abby can't walk lol then leave number 3 if we get that far for a couple of years my only realissue would be carrying her upstairs but morning and night is enough. oh eeek sounds like my minds made up

 

[molly85]

oh dearwhen did they put a swear blocker in?

 

[MADLYSBOYS]

Evening Ladies :wave:

Thank you for your comments on my DH Ladies Tas the argument escalated which saw me go to bed but then come back down for Charlie because I couldnt bare to be upstairs without him I have been out today with the boys with my two lady pals and their children and DH has done stuff around the house so I got help too but I doubt it will last I love your money making idea btw

Peanut for a crap night

madcat glad you dragged your DH out of bed to help If it helps I havent been feeling too hot either and now I think I have the flu of sorts

molly I would have another baby now if DH was agreeable sadly I think our two boys will be it for us and tbh that makes sense but I feel sad I will never be pregnant again

As for us we spent the day with two of my lovely lady pals and their children we went to a childrens soft play area sadly after a lovely day out I got back to my neighbours down the road arguing it then turned violent with him knocking seven bells out of her infront of their petrified and screaming kids and so we called the police I have given a statement and may have to go to court and give evidence should he be prosecuted (he was of course arrested!) I live in such a lovely neighbourhood Oliver saw most of it sadly because we were walking up the road on the way home as it happened so we quickly ushered him indoors ....please let us win the lottery tonight I want to move my children away from this sort of thing

 

[molly85]

eww madly my neck and head feel like they are in a vice so we are in bed. if i'm not on nights I can't sleep early.I am deffinatly not a napper

 

[pinkclaire]

Hello ladies sorry I've not been on been having a really tough time this week.

My guts are also completely screwed!

Vbaby ivr just booked C&Js christening for the 18th of September!

Molly we tried for financial reasons and nomore so I could still have a career and not be out of work for ages. I like the fact that within 4 years they will both be in full time education. It's worked out well for us but it is hardwork. I def wouldnt have wanted to he pregnant the whole of the summer as it's James' first proper summer where he can do stuff. That's when I found it hardest when he wanted to run round outside!

Gilz you've had such a hard time I really feel for you it's awful not getting any sleep let alone when they are in pain!

Those who were moaning about there OHs mines useless. His best quote yet today 'your a women this is what women all round the world are doing, deal with it' needless to say we had a massive row!

 

[tas1]

Madly that's poor lady and her children and poor Oliver for seeing it too! Hopefully she wont take him back but I'm sure she will!
I hope you win the lottery although my other got given a ticket by kne of his customers lol so we are hoping they are lucky and we can win just hope they don't want abit of it as we have a big family!

Well I realised Caleb was kicking coz he had wind oops naught mummy corner for me lol he's settling down now and going to sleep he keeps spitting his dummy out but yen waking up oh no he's asleep now with abit of movement! I'm glad I'm doing this coz now he knows the difference between daytime naps and bedtime! He looks at his Moses basket well up at the hood bit and is instantly tired and rubbing his eyes! And Caden went to bed at 8 so it's getting earlier and earlier Im kicking myself out of whatever was wrong with me this week as I just let Caden so what he wants because I couldn't do everything but now I'm forcing OH do help me on an evening by saying are you with us tonight or not lol

Gosh I gotta get up at 6am for the car boot I'm hoping this money making works if it does you should all try it lol then we can all be sahm's forever lol

Xx

 

[tas1]

Oh pink that's what I get sometimes or 'I work all day and you don't or 'it comes naturally for women' men!!!
I do moan about my OH but he does treat me on my birthdays valentines day mothers day etc he spends loads of me whereas I spend a little on him lol but I have to say and I've said it to him I would prefer you to help or be here than expensive gifts

Xx

 

[MADLYSBOYS]

Ladies DH calls me `the domestic supervisor` now I dont know wether to him or request he pays me