Mother of all conception months Graduates

[PeanutBean]

I've had been having them most of the pregnancy. I was surprised they started as early as they did as I didn't get them til late in the last pregnancy. I mostly get them when I'm active.

vbaby. I did think that might happen! How about showing him something on your phone? I reckon Byron might sit for teeth filing if we had Something Special songs playing. Why don't you ask in the toddler section too?

 

[vbaby3]

Thanks girls.Bribary won't work,he's a bit young to understand the concept unfortunately.I know it won't actually hurt him,but he won't even let me put my hand in to feel them.
Can just imagine him screaming and me crying too
My dentist is a lovely gentle lady,so at least I don't have to take him to a scary looking man!!
Will post in toddler section see if anyone else has suggestions thanks.x

 

[NOMORENUMBERS]

i had them really early on in my last pregnancy too literally from 12/13 weeks, i read somewhere they actually start at 5 weeks but are barely noticeable, my stomach does harden sometimes but could be loads of things like the burger i had for lunch you know lol


mine were exactly how you described yours, not painful just stomach going really really hard, they made me a little uncomfortable by the end last time but only because it is hard to get comfortable anyway and when you finally get comfy and stomach goes hard as a rock it spoils it lol

 

[PeanutBean]

I find them a bit uncomfortable too. Getting them when I'm really busy doesn't help as it makes me feel I've overdone it. I wonder if second babies usually give BH earlier or if we recognise them earlier? Except for vbaby who must have a super-uterus that doesn't need to practise! lol

 

[vbaby3]

Ha ha i'm sure it must be happening and i'm not noticing!!!Or maybe I do have a super uterus!!!
Not even once have I felt these tightenings people describe!!

 

[gilz82]

Now if real contractions felt like BH that would be perfect. I could totally cope with pushing a baby out if the only feeling was this tightness

Well that's my dr just off the phone I can go back to work but only half days for the next week at least maybe two. At least I can go back tomorrow and then still do bits and pieces from home in the evenings.

 

[PeanutBean]

That's good Gilz, help stop you getting cabin fever. Maybe do some half days at home to save on the commute?

I also wish contractions felt like BH! They don't! Actually I can't really remember what they felt like though I'm sure it'll all come flooding back once they start this time.

Right I'm off to physio. Catch you later! Or maybe in the waiting room....

 

[pinkclaire]

Yay on going back to Work Gilz, I think I would feel the same as you, I hate being stuck at home.

Just dropping in quickly on my lunch break, its 20 weeks for me today what fruits that?

Been feeling very emotional the last 24 hours, really need to pick myself up!

Peanut unfortunately I can remember what they feel like it wasnt that long ago I'm hoping my labour should be a lot shorter this time? The midwife reckons half the time of your first, is that correct?I think I've had a couple of BH, but not strong ones x

 

[NOMORENUMBERS]

oh i remember them as clear as if it were yesterday! i might have ended up having a c section but i definately experienced enough pain over the three days of labour to make up for it lol lol lol lol it was awful it was all in my back which is the worst - at the beginning and afterwards i was like wow this is horrible but funnily enough when it got worse and more frequent i kind of zoned out and was handling it all fine so i wouldnt worry lol

 

[vbaby3]

The memories come flooding back as soon as labour begins,and I wonder why on earth i'm doing it all again!!
Pink,happy 20 wks,and my 2nd was only a couple hrs of proper painful labour as opposed to 11hrs 1st time(11 hrs of what they call established labour,but I was as far as i'm concerned in labour for a lot longer than that!!!)
Hopefully all you 2nd time mams will have a much quicker time of it!!

 

[MADLYSBOYS]

Hi Ladies :wave:

Well am home from work early...I came home Feeling sorry for myself and feel When I left work I went to see the union rep as the situation at work is getting ridicilous and am sure its not helping how I feel. I got plenty of advice and I know I have plenty of support so now I just need to decide what I want to do Thing is my contract is officially up on 31st March although unofficially is should be renewed for 3yrs however I have a feeling that they may try to get rid of me come the 31st March because apparently regardless of length of service if your on a temp contract or `funded` term contract as is usually the case with charities they can end your employment and dont even have to pay you SMP which may mean that as I plan on starting mat leave on 2nd April and my contract is up days before they might just show me the door without paying me a cent in the way of mat pay I need to do some more research but I dont know what to do Am seriously considering jacking it in at 29wks and cutting my losses that way they will have to pay me Mat leave at least until 31st March am not sure what to do Ladies

 

[gilz82]

Aw Madly sorry you are feeling so bad, the hassle with your work must really be making you feel worse.

What are your union advising that you do?

Oh and Pink your 20wk fruit is a cantaloupe melon thing.

 

[MADLYSBOYS]

Thank you Gilz hon

Well the union reckons I need to get my contract secured before I take any action with the `illegal` situation going on at work because if I persue that first my contract could be jeopardised Apparently the SMP rules only apply to people who are on `long term` contracts not someone like me who is on `fixed term subject to funding` and because my contract is up on 31st March they might say they are not renewing so they dont have to pay me SMP....I cant work out if this is right and the only info I seem to be able to find is that you have to have been working for your empoyer for 26wks by the time you are 25wks pregnant iykwim which I will have but it doesnt mention if this is subject to contractual terms of not I may give acas a ring!

 

[madcatwoman]

jacking it at 29 weeks doesnt sound like a bad idea madly.

well, ive been dying to play around with my new camera kit, so i did this morning.
please dont think im a vain peson, i just dont have anyone else to photograph!, so i did a couple of me, this seems to be the best one i think..

 

[MADLYSBOYS]

Wow madcat thats a great pic you have a real talent there

Well I just spoke with acas and am told that

A) they will have to pay me SMP even if on 31st March they show me the door as currently of today I have already worked more than enough time as an employee to qualify so theres no getting out of that one for them
and
B) If they didnt renew my contract BUT kept the cafe open and say employeed someone else to work in my place ie my mat cover or a new member of staff THIS IS TOTALLY ILLEGAL and an employment tribunal would wipe the floor with them

So as for finishing at 29/30wks (as I am in my 25th wk now and it may take me a week or so to sort out the paperwork MATB1 and such and you have to give 4wks notice iykwim!) I will lose 6wks with Charlie once hes born BUT I am out of the situation and so along with my colleague I can let the union throw shit at the fan

 

[molly85]

Ahhh I wrote a really long post then it disappeared.

Vbaby they might sing with him thats what the girl next door does asshe does child dentristry as a nurse.

Mad lovely picture and bump.

I'v had Period paind and waundered if they were BH's as Abbys still moving I guessed it was all ok.

How much cranberry juice do you need to clear a wee infection? it hurt a bit earlier I'm allergic to penicillin so don't want antibiotics.

Good news on rehydration Ozzie.

Aww madlys out fits arrived they are so cute, you cna actually imagine a baby in the and she packages very well.

 

[molly85]

I thought they had to pay you Madly, if you had done over 26 weeks by your 25th week. there is also Maternity allowancewhich I think is a bit less.

Ahh must dress got a nursery to inspect. Thanks for package number 1

 

[pinkclaire]

Madly that sounds really sensible. Get out of there, the stress isnt worth it!

As for Mat pay I'm glad you got it cleared up, you can always claim mat pay if needs be if they do stop it until its resolved. I like ACAS they are very helpful!


Matcat you look positively glowing! Unlike me who just feels like a beach ball today ewww.

Gilz are you going to get annoyed of me asking every week? lol xx

 

[NOMORENUMBERS]

Madly i bought my mat leave forward last time after my boss who told me to make friends and get to know the agents on a personal level took me into a glass office in the middle of our workplace so everyone could see, left the door open so that everyone could see and hear and proceeded to scream at me and was going red in the face saying i dont feel comfortable you having conversations about your pregnancy with that agent find someone else to make friends with thats the last time i want to hear you discussing your pregnancy - might be good for you to know madly the reason i was talking about my pregnancy with the agent was because we were due two days apart from each other - it was all because my boss wanted me to be her bossom buddy and in fact i hated her and she knew it so whenever i got close to anyone she would somehow find a reason to fire them or have a go. i have to say it was lovely having two months off away from that lot and no i did NOT go back lol it was fantastic handing that letter to her within 15 mins of that "meeting" - oh and she went back to her desk started talking about sex with the temps and then called another agent to discuss how much the agent wanted my boss to ditch her boyfriend and go out with her son . . .hmmmmmmmmm

 

[madcatwoman]

ah pinkclaire, this is the beauty of black and white photography!....glowing or not, theres no telling!