Mother of all conception months Graduates

[pinkclaire]

madly I left early last time as it was awful at work, I got handed an at risk of redundancy letter 10 days before I was due to leave and was re interviewed for my job etc, it was so stressful!

Do any of you know what happens regards to holiday? can you take what you've accrued before, or a full years allowence? Also my firm makes me take a week at xmas which obviously I dont get, should they add that on to the number of days holiday? and bank holidays etc?

 

[pinkclaire]

ah pinkclaire, this is the beauty of black and white photography!....glowing or not, theres no telling!

maybe you need to come photograph me then

 

[we can't wait]

Madcat-- Your picture looks absolutely amazing! You have real talent! Imagine what you could do taking pictures of others!

Madly-- I'm sorry you are feeling so awful today. Be strong & don't put up with too much stress. You don't need any extra stress on you!

 

[madcatwoman]

ah pinkclaire, this is the beauty of black and white photography!....glowing or not, theres no telling!

maybe you need to come photograph me then

i would willingly if you were closer, i love doing stuff like this, as long as theres no pressure(unlike when i did weddings, it was one big stress).

 

[madcatwoman]

Madcat-- Your picture looks absolutely amazing! You have real talent! Imagine what you could do taking pictures of others!

Madly-- I'm sorry you are feeling so awful today. Be strong & don't put up with too much stress. You don't need any extra stress on you!

i used to do weddings hun, but it was too stressful in the end, one big huge pressure!. i will have to see how i do with baby photos!

 

[MADLYSBOYS]

Thanks Ladies

Well I have been thinking sat here with a HUGE headache and feeling like crap that its just not worth my effort. I have tried so hard at work and my colleague (the other supervisor!) is currently off sick really unwell and probably not returning either...she is also seeking advice from the union and so what do I have to loose. We have both given that place our all and our boss still treats us like shite and expects us to do `illegal` stuff where food hygiene and safety is concerned Do you know one of the handles fell off a saucepan week before Chrismtas and it was full of hot liquid whilst I was carrying it and it damn well nearly went all over my belly I have told him time and time again the equipment is not fit for use and hes doesnt seem to give a shite about our safety at all. He told my colleague we are responsible for taking delivery of all food deliveries and unloading and storing etc COME ON I MEAN A 50YR OLD LADY AND A PREGNANT WOMAN I have well and truly had enough and am on the verge of raising a grievance against one member of staff for down right nasty bullying comments and behaviour I think finishing at 30wks is the best decision I could make I will loose 6wks with Charlie once hes born but I feel like I need to do this to make me and him safe right now cause my boss doesnt seem to fooking care and then the union can throw the damn book at the arsehooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooole!

 

[gilz82]

Wow loads to catch up on...

Madly glad you got things straightened out now you know exactly where you stand with your work. Time to take a deep breath and let someone else worry about it all me thinks hon

Madcat wheetweeee lovely picture are you having fun with your new camera?

Pink no worries you can ask every week what the fruit is, if I can manage to remember I'll happily tell you

 

[MADLYSBOYS]

Thank you Ladies for your lovely support as always

I rang my MW re MATB1 form but her voicemail says on Holiday until tomorrow Well its my day off tomorrow anyway so no bother I will call her then and see if I cant pop by surgery and collect a MATB1 tomorrow then when I return to work Wednesday or may be Friday if am not well enough for Wednesday I can go in armed with my letter saying I am finishing at 30wks on Saturday 19th Februaury I will be 30+1wks then so if I did hand in on Friday at the lastest or Saturday that gives them 5wks so am complying with the 28days notice rule to qualify for SMP. Me and David will talk more tonight but in the long run its 6wks difference which may make all the difference where our safety and my peace of mind are concerned Am sure David will agree with what I want at the end of the day I shouldnt have to do this but at least I will get the last laugh as theres no way he will get cover in 5wks (sorry shouldnt laugh but it tickles me!) They havent even started recruiting yet and it takes ages for security clearance to enter the establishment to go through so good luck to him I say I have well and truly had it right now!

 

[vbaby3]

Glad all looks like its working out well for you madly.x
Gorgeous pic madcat,your bump is coming along nicely too!!Def baby pics would be a good new business venture for you when you're ready to get back into it!x

Well was back onto the dentist and she's given me the no for the community care dentist who deals exclusively with children,so hopefully they'll have a few tricks up their sleeves to keep oran calm,as they're used to dealing with kiddies.
Gotta ring them in the morning to make an appointment.
Hopefully they'll get him in this wk before he does his tongue any more damage!

 

[MADLYSBOYS]

Well I just spoke briefly with David and we will talk more later but roughly the plan is I am finishing work on 26th Feb at 31+1wks So 5wks earlier than planned but it falls inline with payday in Feb so Febs wage will be a full one before I go on Mat Leave at SMP rate He basically said its up to me...hes knows I would much prefer to spend those wks with Charlie but also knows how unhappy the situation is and so hes leaving it down to me As always I worry financially but 5wks isnt a life time and is worth it for me sanity, health and def safety.....So I worked out only 47days until Mat Leave which means only 27 more days to work

 

[MADLYSBOYS]

I feel happier....infact so much happier am off to go clean my bedroom and bathroom I think I got the nesting bug already considering all the cleaning we have done this weekend

Goodluck vbaby with the dentist not a nice trip Oliver hid behind David and wouldnt come out the first time he saw the man in the white coat They are generally very good with kids, he was so am sure you will work it out

 

[madcatwoman]

thats good to hear madly, bet a weight is off your shoulders now.
your company sounds like my old one, never gave a damn about my health or safety.

 

[PeanutBean]

Do any of you know what happens regards to holiday? can you take what you've accrued before, or a full years allowence? Also my firm makes me take a week at xmas which obviously I dont get, should they add that on to the number of days holiday? and bank holidays etc?

Pink you accrue all your leave whilst you are off, whether or not it was meant to be taken at a certain time, and your bank holidays (except I don't get BHs that fall within my new 12 weeks full pay and imagine that'll be the same anywhere and is annoying as there are loads in the Spring!). You can take some of your leave at the start or add it to the end. I think your employer can request you take holidays accrued from a previous year directly after your mat so it is a continuous leave rather than potentially having two years of leave to take in one year.

Nomore - how nuts was your old boss?!

Madly - it sounds like the right thing to do for you to get that break but do fight the corner still as it's so important for pregnant women to be given their rights.

Madcat - if you could make me look that good I would be astonished! I'm not to far from you, maybe you should photo me next time I'm down my mum's way! But for free!

I'm back from physio. Got some exercises for back and pelvis and tummy muscles and tubigrips for the muscles. Quite liking the tubigrip! Should really try and do some actual work in this last hour...

 

[madcatwoman]

Do any of you know what happens regards to holiday? can you take what you've accrued before, or a full years allowence? Also my firm makes me take a week at xmas which obviously I dont get, should they add that on to the number of days holiday? and bank holidays etc?

Pink you accrue all your leave whilst you are off, whether or not it was meant to be taken at a certain time, and your bank holidays (except I don't get BHs that fall within my new 12 weeks full pay and imagine that'll be the same anywhere and is annoying as there are loads in the Spring!). You can take some of your leave at the start or add it to the end. I think your employer can request you take holidays accrued from a previous year directly after your mat so it is a continuous leave rather than potentially having two years of leave to take in one year.

Nomore - how nuts was your old boss?!

Madly - it sounds like the right thing to do for you to get that break but do fight the corner still as it's so important for pregnant women to be given their rights.

Madcat - if you could make me look that good I would be astonished! I'm not to far from you, maybe you should photo me next time I'm down my mum's way! But for free!

I'm back from physio. Got some exercises for back and pelvis and tummy muscles and tubigrips for the muscles. Quite liking the tubigrip! Should really try and do some actual work in this last hour...

thanks peanut, you know what, i would absolutely love to do your portrait too, the camera&photoshop can make anyone look good!, i have a big white window box i use to photograph anyone who will let me, then it looks like the white background you see in the pic. Heres another i did of a college girl(although rather more skinny than us!...arragh!) https://www.flickr.com/photos/catfeely/4638746015/in/set-72157624134413886/

Id do it free of charge, its nice for me to be honest!. when might you be in the area hun??

 

[PeanutBean]

Dunno. What with the not getting out the house much! Lol But I owe my sister a visit one weekend so I'll keep you posted.

 

[gilz82]

Oh good god I came across this thread noseying in third tri.

It's got some very helpful stuff but also oh my god things I hadn't even thought about as far as labour and post labour etc

Thought some of you other first time mums might like a look

https://www.babyandbump.com/pregnancy-third-trimester/499241-things-films-dont-tell-ya.html

 

[madcatwoman]

thats a handy thread gilz!


will someone enlighten me as to why there is a can of appletizer in my bounty bag?

 

[gilz82]

Is that the first bounty bag? I also had a can of appletiser very weird but oddly refreshing given I hadn't had it in years

 

[madcatwoman]

Is that the first bounty bag? I also had a can of appletiser very weird but oddly refreshing given I hadn't had it in years

yes, i forgot to collect it a while ago, but got it on the weekend. i havent drunk mine yet got it from boots. funny but i just had an email from sainsburys saying that they had noticed i hadnt collected my bounty bag and sent me a voucher to print off for it, ...so i can collect another one if i want

 

[madcatwoman]

DH has asked if we can watch one born every minute tonight!.

i told him, "only if you can behave yourself!"

so he's promised not to laugh.


ive watched most of them on utube, trying to desensitise myself!