Mother of all conception months Graduates

[pinkclaire]

Bids, you have to listen to the midwife and do what she says when your at pushing stage. If you push when she says and don't when she tells you not to you are less likely to tear. That's when the comedy panting comes in handy, it stops you from pushing as your body wants to it's hard to stop the panting seems to stop it! my midwife told me that before and I did what she said and it worked for me

 

[pinkclaire]

Peanut thanks for the info, atill a bit confused about bank holidays! Xx

 

[gilz82]

Morning girls

Well i'm back at work this morning, and you want to see the mountain of total shit basically that's just been dumped on my desk. Honestly some people just make me sooo mad.

Anyhoo, takes a deep breath , i'm going to try and get a date organised for this meeting about my flexible working application sorted today as they expect me to give them my mat b and my maternity leave arrangements at the end of this month. That will not be happening if the flexible working thing isn't sorted by then.

How is everyone else today?

 

[PeanutBean]

Morning.

Pink the Bank Holidays that fall within your msg leave will just be added on at the end, or should be!

I feel crap this morning. Byron came in at 5, never really settled then got up at 6. We've all got some sort of infection (for a change) affecting our ears. So tired and nauseous. Got my course today.

 

[gilz82]

Oh Peanut you must be thoroughly scunnered with feeling ill all the time

 

[madcatwoman]

Morning all

sorry to hear about the state of your desk on return to work gilz!

postie has just been with the moses basket stand, i flew out of bed to open the door, now i have bump ache!

i have the midwife this afternoon, wonder what little gems will come out of that visit, i keep asking about antenatal classes and they keep saying to me to remind them on the next visit about it, so i will ask again.

 

[tas1]

Morning Ladies,

Havent been on here for ages will have to update myself with what your all up to.

Everyone due 21st are you getting HIP grant? I have an email saying if you was 24wks and 1 day pregnant on 31st december then your entitled to it which we was but my midwife wont give me a form because i wasnt dead on 25wks.

Hope your all feeling better soon and dont get too stressed with work even though you get k***heads there

xx

 

[madcatwoman]

Morning Tas
my MW looked into this. i have TWICE now been told that basically your EDD HAS to be April15th or earlier to be eligable. so we miss out im afriad.

 

[tas1]

well i have an email from the HIP people saying we do, i can forward it on if you want then you can print it off and show it thats what im doing. x

 

[PeanutBean]

Yes definitely going to apply for it. Loads of women on here have emails from HMRC saying we are eligible. You've got to demand that form madcat! I'm sure mine will give it to me but will fight if there are any issues. P's me off. By not using EDD I think they're trying to save money through all the confusion.

I'm on the train. Had to dash to station which nearly killed me. Panting like I was in labour! Madcat I was always always doing the rushing to the door thing last time, it wrecks! Then I'd start retching too!

 

[madcatwoman]

i get dizzy rushing to the door like that.

2 MW's have catagorically said i cant apply for it, so theyre not giving out the forms to me anyway.

 

[MADLYSBOYS]

Morning Ladies :wave:

Well so far no I guess thats good then We will see!

Sorry to hear you have gone back to crap loads of work Gilz sending huge for that meet about flexible working!

madcat the amount of times I have dashed to the damn door and nearly killed myself in doing so Postmen have NO patience to wait grrrrrrrrr!

Well all my baby bits have arrived except one sleepsuit from the Next sale I really do hope it comes its a grey knitted romper with a baby blue star on it...its gorg and I really really want it

Hope you have a good train journey Peanut

Pink I agree follow the MWS instruction and this is esp important if you have an epidural as you dont feel the need to push

Wish me luck Ladies I am about to compile an email to my boss about my grievance with this woman at work I am of course cc`ing it to the rep at the union too Then I have to sit and compile a list of all the things we need correcting in our workplace in order to make it a safe environment to work in I am not sure if I am going to request a meeting with my boss and taking a union rep with me yet or wether am just going to let the union deal with it The least emotional input I have the better but surprisingly I feel pretty strong about this so My colleague (also involved with this and the union!) is still off sick so am going to speak with her again later and see what she thinks Either way I am starting Mat Leave end of February so 6+5wks to go

 

[gilz82]

Is the MW the only place you can get the form from Madcat? Can't you get it directly from HMRC or is it something the midwife needs to sign?

 

[tas1]

Ive emailed HRMC for a form coz my midwives wont give me one either then im getting my doctor to sign it so i dont have to face my MWs. x

 

[vbaby3]

Hi ladies,well I have dental appointment for oran tomorrow morning
Poor wee minchkin.I'll just be glad to get it over and done with.

No other crack here.
Except I feel constantly wet in my lady bits.I was the same with shay so know its not my waters or anything,but unpleasant nonetheless!!

 

[madcatwoman]

Vbaby, im the same down there horrible isnt it?.

Madly shame you havent recieved the romper suit yet, but next clothes are nice!!

will take the email tas to show my MW this afternoon, thanks!

im really annoyed, we ordered bottles from mothercare a while ago, twice we have had an email saying theyre in store, twice we have gone to the store to collect them and theyre still not in!, going to write a complaint to mothercare!. even ordered a lampshade from next, said it was in today and its not.
in the end i came back from town with one maternity t-shirt(im stretching all my normal ones), a pack of baby vests, and curtains for the nursery.
oh and a chocolate bar&sausage roll

 

[MADLYSBOYS]

Well Ladies I emailed my letter of grievance to my boss not sure what will happen from here on out but tbh I dont care am fed up of her treatment its wholly inappropriate upsetting and not helping matters at all Am happy I have taken this step and will not regret it Now for my second letter which I am part way through I just need to run it by my colleague (whos involved with this and union as well!) just to make sure I have covered all the issues, I am going to do this after the school run Then I will be emailing this to him as well

I hope NOW something will be done

 

[madcatwoman]

you tell them madly

ive just realed off my letter of complaint to mothercare

 

[gilz82]

Yay Madly on getting your letter sorted for work, hopefully it'll help you feel a little less stressed about work in general.

Madcat that's so annoying I'd be really pissed at Mothercare, I also find next are quite bad for it too as I frequently get stuff delivered to store cos I'm to cheap to pay the delivery charge frequently I go in after my work and the stuff isn't there

Don't let you mw fob you off today either Madcat, if she does just go over her head to the practice manager with your email from hmrc.

 

[madcatwoman]

im back!

showed MW the email about being 24+1 by dec 31st(which i was) and she was confused because the info they have been given is different, but she had a HIP form with her and filled out for me, she kept the email and said she will contact some of her other girls and see if they want their forms filled in, and see what happens from there.

otherwise all ok, i should be going on a hospital tour on sunday feb 6th (OMG!!), and antenatal classes to follow. measured my bump, didnt say anything, just plotted it on the graph(so i take it im measuring ok). Listened to HB again etc.

AND, mothercare just phoned up to say the bottles are in. Im certainly not going back to them anytime soon to pick 'em up, theyre having a laugh!