Mother of all conception months Graduates

[molly85]

Yay for scans!
lol at gilz for the turd thing. If your being induced you should know atleast 48 hours in advance so can arrange your own little evacuation with some senna and liquids. Nice.

The lovely dovey bit was a bit to much but she was my favorite this week. there was a bit were a quite your woman came in and said she was there for an elective c section I wanted to know why she looked fit and healthy.

Exhausted now. so having dinner when matt has his brekky then early night me thinks

 

[gilz82]

You know I hadn't thought about that Molly. Would far rather take some senna and spend a little time in the loo at home than the pooping in public option

 

[Ozzieshunni]

Got more meds! Yay! Still feeling a wee bit queasy, but it's not as bad as it's been

 

[madcatwoman]

well, part of the nursery furniture has now arrived

i tried to have another nap this pm, just dropping off and this time the MW phones, about the hospital tour.

she asked how i was, i told her about the situation with my hips at night, told her what i have tried so far, but she said its one of those things that because of all the stretching will only improve after delivery.

 

[NOMORENUMBERS]

ah so it really is true, when one EDIT thing goes right the other thing goes spectacularly wrong!

dh has just called me in tears after a work meeting saying that he is being disciplined for the following:

not working enough hours as per the needs of the business
and for not being focused

he works 60 hours per week when all the other managers work 40-48 max
he has been begging them for annual leave since last august but they have refused to let him which means he is drained, tired, and is not focused as much as normal but not because he doesnt want to be there but because he is so f**king tired that he is just a walking zombie at the moment

he works so much that we see eachother for 6 hours a day 3 times a week, he barely see our son other than on his one day off and a wednesday morning and sunday morning!

AND THEY ARE GOING TO DISCIPLINE HIM FOR NOT BEING AT WORK ENOUGH!

when he said honey i am going to hand my notice in tomorrow and i really dont want you to say no dont

i said honey, dont, hand your fu**ing notice in this very second you have 3 weeks of holiday that you have to take, you have two booked, demand the third, that leaves one week of you being there.

wish i could leave too but think i might be a little stuck there, sounds really bad but maybe if i say i dont feel like i can do my job ask if i can be a waitress 1. wont have to do night shifts, 2. will actually earn more money, 3. will be able to say I CANT work x y and z and get dh to change my contract before he leaves

feckers, this could actually physically bankcrupt us but i am at the point where having a bad credit rating for 6 years is better than burying my husband due to a stress induced stroke or heart attack

 

[gilz82]

Oh Nomore that's hellish hon

If you DH has handed in his notice he should still speak to citizens advice. If he's been working all the required hours and not been allowed his leeave etc he might have good case for constructive dismissal!!

 

[PeanutBean]

I agree with gilz nomore; your OH should look into tribunal. That's disgraceful! I'm so sorry. Gah we are all having endless crap with work one way or another!

I had training today which was fun and finished an hour early. Thought I'd nap once home and was just dropping off when my laptop arrived. I missed it this morning so a bit of a surprise. I've spent about 30 mins with it on while it runs through a million setup things. I guess this stuff is normally run to make them shop ready. Hopefully have it running by bedtime. Well tired though. Yawn.

 

[NOMORENUMBERS]

thats exactly what i thought, i have been telling him for months to go down there, i think give him till his notice period and he will have gone down there under his own steam. i think it lands under the whole thing of feelign that you have had to leave your job due to the strong bad behviour and attitude towards you of others

 

[molly85]

Nomre has he signed an opt out? if not they have been breaking the law having him on duty regularly for 60 hour weeks. Plus they have to give him his 4 weeks holiday plus bank holidays each year. Personally I wouldn't resign I'd be down the doctors requesting being signed off then off to CAB and looking for help. I'm not quite sure what you do Nomore but if its on your feet alot they will have to amend your duties etc and you should have had a full risk assessment by now.

 

[NOMORENUMBERS]

yeah he has signed an opt of for the work but they are suggesting that he doesnt do enough. this is his rota for this week

monday 7am -6pm
tuesday afd -all fucking day which is 9am until 2am ish
wednesday off
thursday 9-5
friday 9vol which is open until the restuarant is quiet in the evening so 9-at least midnight
saturday 9vol so 9 till midnight again
sunday 5-close but has to do a stock count so useually leaves around 3am - and the sharp eyed people will notice that if he works until 3am on sunday and is back at 7am on monday that isnt exactly alot of sleep is it! (he has to work sun night and mon morning for p&l reasons)

i work in the same restaurant, i did my risk assessment lol as dh is boss so i put alot of stuff in there but honestly it is impossible to follow it, there was a bit which said i shouldnt move beer barrels, but when you have a full restaurant and all the male waiters have 12 tables due to stupidly tight labour budgets and the chefs have 25 tickets to do again because there isnt enough of them, i cant exactly make them do it and i am not allowed to just leave it empty! so i have no choice!

i also am not supposed to work back to backs but because i have to work 4 shifts and cant do the busy shifts due to dh HAVING to do them i end up doing PM -AM having 6 hours sleep twice a week. i think i have more than enough case to say well there is no real way under the current labour targets that we will ever have the staff to do these essential jobs that i am not supposed to do. i would LOVE it if they couldnt provide me with a reasonable role and i got signed off! not because i am lazy but because i hate that they treat everyone like a piece of sh*t. to be honest if they say be a waiter on the hourly rate that i am currently on i would take it, i would only have to work like 10-5 3 days a week to make the same money that i am now!

 

[molly85]

Right Mrs your RA says no beer barrels so no beer barrels no if buts or anything else.

you are not to work with less than an 11 hour break!

Your baby is already at risk and you can be off on full pay. I would have a look at the pregnancy laws on Direct Gov and take it into work. Blow up the main points of your RA and put them on a notice board.

I will come and visit you at work other wise and make one hell of a fuss on your behalf. If there was even a tiny bit od damage to your baby because of work then you can sew the pants off them but if you go ahead an do stuff you aren't allowed to do on your RA they will take you to the cleaners. Demand your breaks and take them any way. Make sure you get your days off and leave. and if it means you are the person satat a desk so be it they have a duty of care to u

 

[NOMORENUMBERS]

aw molly i would pm you the address in a heart beat lol i am going to try and get dh to follow the no back to back rule and fingers crossed he is going to hire another poor sucker to come work for us tonight so i can officially lower my hours but at the moment if i complain about doing stuff that i shouldnt on my risk assessment dh will get in even more trouble. once he goes on holiday for 2/3 week - which is only in another week and a bit i can make it relate more to that time as opposed to effectively blaming dh for not following the RA, i think it would be a good idea to go to CA though for me as well as him, in reality it doesnt matter who is in charge and responsible for the RA if we dont have enough managers to cover shifts it is impossible to follow on the 11 hour break thing, i am supposed to limit stair use, the ruddy building is 3 stories high with the two main places being on 1st and 3rd and no lift, we cant afford a runner on and i cant work shifts which has a runner on most the time because again dh HAS to do those shifts, the other day i ran £3000 worth of food mostly by myself, thats about 65 trips at least up and down the stairs. i am hoping that they wont have any option but to sign me off, i know they could make me a waitress but at least then i can say well i am part time for a reason, i can only work specific hours and you never put a runner on on those shifts because of labour targets. now what! lol oh i am going to kick their arses! no one messes with my dh and actually thinks they will get away with it! insert evil laugh here! i mean yeah i need to look after myself too!

 

[gilz82]

Nomore hon i really think that you and your DH should make an appointment with the CAB together. There are so many things that are wrong with your job for a start and then your DH could really take them to the cleaners with the way he's being treated.

The problem is that employers like this just continue to treat people the same way because no one wants to be the person to stand up to them. You are really in a unique situation that you are unlucky enough to both be employed by the same company, but you should capitalise on that and make sure they can't do anymore damage to you pair by showing them you won't stand for it anymore

 

[molly85]

Grrrr, if your not on duty with OH it has nothing to do with him it's teh manager on duty and you. they cannot fire you for saying no and if they did mwahhhhhhh they would not get away with it.

 

[NOMORENUMBERS]

molly you will laugh, the problem i have is that it is the manager on duties job to do these jobs. i am the manager on duty lol this is the problem, it has to be done, there is no one else to do it and if i leave it and someone say. . . complains there was no particular beer on tap, i get a call saying errr had you run out, no, right why didnt you change it, i am pregnant i am not supposed to, did you ask anyone else to do it, i did once all the tickets had been cooked and the tables were settled with food, how long did you not have x beer for, 5 hours. that would be deemed unacceptable as there would have been physically people to move it, they see past the fact that none of them can just drop what they are doing, the next complaint would be right so you disturbed a chef who had several tickets you were running a 25 minute ticket time and you made it 30 by disturbing the chef, i am pregnant, right but surely there was someone else who could move it the runner (female) no, then why are you being put on shifts that are too busy for people to help you, it can be busy at any time and a beer barrel can empty at any time too . . . .

i think i might write up some things 1. to stop ranting on here lol and 2. so i dont forget anything

 

[molly85]

lol. can you not swap runner for male waiting staff? or you wiat while they change?

I'm getting it now that your the boss so a right pain in the ass

 

[NOMORENUMBERS]

making a waiter a runner is a demotion as they runner makes £6.00 an hour and the waiters are paid £5.93 plus keep all their tips, some of them make £500 a week in credit card tips alone let alone their hourly pay and the cash tips they make too so you can see the difference also even if it was for just 5 minutes if any of the male server's tables needed anything then the runner wouldnt know what to do and also if any food is down there for longer than a couple of mins it will go cold and also we have one part time male waiter and one full time and i only do one shift with one of them - who tried to tell me the other day he didnt know how to change a barrel of beer despite me showing him numerous times lol

i have looked into the pathway to getting signed off on full pay, i think i will prob qualify, if i can only work 3 days due to childcare and that has been agreed on my contract - which it has and they cant provide a runner on those shifts then even waitress isnt a suitable position for me to be honest i like working so would rather them say hire another runner and we will put the money into the budget because i like getting out the house and actually earning money but i think the gloves need to come off with this one - i might have to have a meeting with dh with our other supervisor as a witness just to make it official that i have raised concerns that for me the RA is impossible to follow under my current role

 

[NOMORENUMBERS]

ha ha and pain in the arse doesnt cover it, there are currently 4 managers on the verge of quitting in one area, well 3 as mine is going to quit tonight lol

also might i add another manager has every other weekend fully off! and he isnt being told he is not in the business enough!

 

[molly85]

yup as long as its nothing personal sounds good.
I'm now working quite well my boss so really worth sorting stuff out

 

[PeanutBean]

Oh nomore the list of employer errors you've just given us seems to be endless! Never mind even the pregnancy working conditions, both you and your OH seem to have had rules broken left right and centre! I agree with taking both of you to CAB. We make these excuses, if I didn't do it it wouldn't get done, if I didn't do it I'd have to ask someone else but for whatever logistical reason that wouldn't be possible and would lead to x,y,z consequences. Well F all of that. The root of the matter is that there are not sufficient staff employed for things to run effectively and LEGALLY! That's not your problem, that's the owner's and he/she should be taken down for treating you all in this way.

My news - I am on the laptop! McAfee gone, fully cleaned up, avast installed, firefox installed, bing removed, itunes and my work programme installed, updates all done, recovery media in the process of being created. Hoorah!