Mother of all conception months Graduates

[madcatwoman]

well im off now... just been helping Dh put up a wardrobe, i came over all funny though, a bit faint like, im hoping it doesnt happen when we're out now though

 

[Ozzieshunni]

Scan pics from yesterday

 

[vbaby3]

Hi ladies,
Congrats on team blue ozzie,thats fab news.
Happy v day loopy,happy new wks everyone else,congrats on the scan dare,glad all is ok!
HHHmmm had a bit of catching up to do and now can't remember anything else I read....

Well yest I had a hell of a day,started wonderfully.
My friend who lives a good few hrs away came up to visit in the morning,haven't seen her since summer,so it was great to see her,and her 2 lil girls.
She brought me up a big black bin bag full of baby girl clothes,either worn once or twice,or brand new still with tags and hangers!!
I'm completely over the moon,really gorgeous stuff her gorls never got the chance to wear.With money being tight here I was delighted to take them!!

Then for the not so good bit.I had my car booked in to get repairs done.
So had to bring my 2 boys with me,drop the car in,walk into town a half hr away in the wind and rain,and then kill 4 hrs while waiting on the car.
The passing of time wasn't so bad,got boys hair cut,went for coffee and browsing the shops.
But the weather,getting from a to b was torture in the wind,and also being on my feet that long.
Sorry to be graphic but my veejay is throbbing with pain,1 side is all swollen and bulging with veinsIts the varicose veins but obviously being on my feet too long aggravates them
Finally got home,and we weren't home 15mins when the electricity went
And it didn't come back til 10pm.The boys sleep with a light on and are going thru being scared phase,so there was no chance of getting them to bed without a light,or with a shadowy candle,so all we could do was put a dvd on the laptop and let them stay up

Today I just had to get some shopping in tesco and I just feel sick and faint all day,not to mention the still throbbing lady bits.
Just getting boys lunch now then I'm getting a shower and getting my jamies on.
Gonna lie on the couch then and let the boys run wild lol!!!!

 

[gilz82]

Aw Vbaby sorry you are feeling so rough but get all curled up and cosy on the couch and hopefully you'll feel better.

Yay for the girlie clothes from your friend, that's a wee bonus

Oh and happy 29 weeks

 

[vbaby3]

Thanks gilz,yeh just hopping in shower now and then gonna chill.
Got pizza and garlic bread for later so not cooking or anything!!
The bag of clothes is amazing,brand new stuff from next and gap and benetton,beautiful dresses and coats and everything!!
I definately don't need to buy anything,i'd say between that and pressies she gets we'll be sorted for about a year lol!!

 

[gilz82]

Oh that's fantastic. We've got loads of friends with children but they are mostly all school age now, so i don't imagine many of them still have baby clothes lying around we could make use of.

 

[madcatwoman]

Lovely piccies Ozzie, and Vbaby- sounds like you've over done it a tad

Im super p*ssed off.
as you know, i relented this morning and went baby clothes shopping with MIL&DH., she said she wanted to treat us to the clothes so i gave in.

we picked up 3 colourful dangly toys to hang from the bouncer in a toy shop, which she paid for. Then we went to debenhams, i dont know if anyone has seen the price of baby clothes in there, but its not cheap, but then we thought "well, we're not paying for them and MIL is minted etc". we picked out some outfits and she picked some, theres about 7 or 8, more than we need really, but again you dont really think about that if youre not paying.
Ready to go to the till, and she didnt pay for them,(said she had bought the dangly toys), but we were told she was taking us baby clothes shopping(??).
Dh had to get his credit card out, and pay for them, £75 bloody quids worth of outfits, half of which we can do without.. we cant afford to pay this much for clothes, we're still paying for furniture.
Then we went for lunch, and she let DH pay for this too.

Im going to have to take some of these outfits back in the week, we dont need all of them, and theyre way too dear.

she then proceeded to tell us about her new bathroom shes having because shes bored of the old one, all i could see were the pound signs mounting up

im so niaeve(sp?)

we're sat having lunch and she wants to know how often i see the MW, then she wanted to know what the MW does with me when im there.
sorry, but i could be having internals or alsorts done!. i just said "oh routine BP etc".

 

[NOMORENUMBERS]

aw hun pick your favourite two or three then just take the rest back, just say we were bought these as a gift but we dont like them or something, even if they just give you gift card in return at least you can use them for a couple more outfits when baba is bigger

that is bang out of order! fancy picking out outfits and making you pay for them, and then make you pay for lunch! why even suggest it! if she was just wanting to join you shopping she should have just said can i join you shopping one day, it will be nice to have a day out and then leave it at that! my nan does that sometimes to my mum she goes lets go shopping and then go out for lunch, my mum drives, pays for lunch pays for parking and they only go in nans shops thats not a shopping trip to me thats chauffering and paying for almost everything! and it is never my mums suggestion to go lol

i dont know what is up with people as you are having a baby money is going to be a factor in everything surely picking out loads of outfits in an expensive shop and then getting handed the cheque isnt going to be your main prioty or even on your list of things to do! grrrrrr im sorry hun she sounds really frustrating

 

[Ozzieshunni]

That's such a shame that your MIL is so selfish, Mad! Baby clothes does not mean three toys

 

[vbaby3]

yes madcat,I definately overdid it yest,but I had no choice.
Car had to be fixed,I had to bring the boys and I had to wait til it was ready unfortunately.Its definately a major downside of having no family closeby!

I'm fuming here for you!!!
The last thing in the world you wanted to do was go shopping with that woman,can't believe she made such a fuss about wanting to buy baby clothes and then didn't pay!!
I would be raging too.What your dh say to all this?
Just bring the clothes back and you'll get a refund.

 

[madcatwoman]

Dh got home after me(he had to pick his van up on the way home). he looked a bit fed up, so i said to him to choose his favourite 2 outfits and i'll return the rest, so he has (plus i know my sister will be buying clothes too anyway).
I think he's very disspointed, but realises we're paying out too much on other vital things as it is. We asked for baby things for xmas but MIL said "no,i'll buy them for you in the new year", (so like alot of people we ended up with xmas gifts we didnt really need..).
He's seeing a different side to him mum these days.

 

[madcatwoman]

yes madcat,I definately overdid it yest,but I had no choice.
Car had to be fixed,I had to bring the boys and I had to wait til it was ready unfortunately.Its definately a major downside of having no family closeby!

I'm fuming here for you!!!
The last thing in the world you wanted to do was go shopping with that woman,can't believe she made such a fuss about wanting to buy baby clothes and then didn't pay!!
I would be raging too.What your dh say to all this?
Just bring the clothes back and you'll get a refund.

DH hasnt said anything, but he was quiet when we got home, i dont think he wanted to say to me "we need to return some of these"(yknow?), but i said it for him,let him pick out his fave two to keep.
Im annoyed for him really, he took a day off for this shopping trip,knowing it was a treat he activly picked clothes out, and then Wham Bang

i guess people with plenty of cash dont give it a second thought. DH earns £30K for all of us, and all this new stuff we need, MIL gets £40K divorce money every year with no mortgage and no family to take care of.

Silly us!

 

[DaretoDream]

i so wish i knew what team i was. Just have to keep waiting. everyone is saying boy! only had 2 say girl.

 

[gilz82]

Oh Madcat honey that's so rubbish, i would have brought it up with your MIL, especially the paying for lunch part too!!

I honestly don't know what her problem is but i really think that the less time that you both spend with her the better it'll be for you

Well onto totally mundane stuff Audi just phoned about my car, the gearbox is knackered so they need to order a completely new one as they don't repair the gearboxes. It has to come from Germany so i'll be without my wee car for another fortnight at least.

I'm quite angry about the whole thing to be honest, as they should never have sold us the car in this state but i'm thankful that it's covered by the warranty so at least we don't need to pay for it.

 

[Ozzieshunni]

Bored out of my skull! I wanted to take the doggie for a walk, but it's pouring rain and I left my raincoat back in Arbroath

 

[NOMORENUMBERS]

aw gilz that sucks! mine failed it MOT yesterday and of course it ran out yesterday so today me and ds had to drop it off got told it could take an hour of 6 so we caught a train back to our home town and then walked 45 minutes back to our house so knackard! as it turns out i dropped it off at 8am and they only just called to say they were finished . . .safe to say will be leaving the walk back to the station to tomorrow!

aw madcat that just sucks, the thing is she should be more careful than that! i am well aware that when my little ds grows up and has his own little ones that as the mil to the mother of his children i will automatically come after her own mother, her sister, her grandmothers, her friends and cousins in the line up of who she would get advice from or spend time with, if your mil alienates you like that she is going to be the last person you want to drag your baby over to see when they should really be sleeping etc etc.

i am a very busy person and only have time to see my family 3 or 4 times a month absolutely maximum and i do not choose anyone who is going to make us feel bad. you will find that when so many people want to see you you will automatically gravitate towards the people that make you happy and the ones that dont get a half hour visit on the way to the shops one sunday once you have realised it has been 4 months since you last saw them for half an hour blah blah blah. the person who gets the half hour visits will be your mil if she is not careful and if she genuinely wants to be a part of the childs life and a proper close caregiver to your child then she has got to stop pulling stuff like this!

we were kind of opposite in our house, my dads parents were very child friendly and my mums werent, we used to cry so much when we went round there that most of the time we spent with my dads family. it happens people do not choose to spend extended time with people who make them feel bad, and if they are in laws they are much easier for the descion maker - ie the mother of the child to just simply push aside

she needs to be ALOT nicer to you in the future if she doenst want this to happen to her!

wow rant sorry but i have a couple of in law issues, not the mum though she is perfect lol

 

[madcatwoman]

well as you know gilz, ive already created space between us in the last 7 months,DH understands why (we had a huge heart to heart a few weeks ago). As for bringing this up with her, i would have, but being with DH i decided to bite my toungue!

He also shops with his mum all sat morning, i said this will have to change too, as he will be needing to spend time with his new family on weekends(apart from all the gardening that needs doing around here). Hes been very good and excepted that his family needs to come 1st after april. He told MIL this also on xmas eve when she was having a tantrum, he told her "things are going to change next yr, i'll have new priorities"(she didnt really get it).

Stupid woman, i should have known.

 

[vbaby3]

Oh madcat,i'm at least glad dh is on your side and realizes things will have to change,and that you and lo are his priority.
Mil will get a rude awakening,but by sounds of things she deserves it!!
I just don't understand her,why bother making such a fuss over going shopping if she wasn't gonna put her hand in her pocket.And I feel bad for you dh too.
UUUggh,familes,eh??!!
It'll all change in a few months,your family will be you,dh and baby b and everyone else comes 2nd.

 

[NOMORENUMBERS]

im sure he will stand his ground if required. my dh said yes to helping his brother by being a gaurantor on his private council house, i flipped because he hadnt even asked me first. safe to say i got him to call up and tell him no because he was having his own family and if he couldnt pay one months rent it would bankrupt us. he stormed off but guess what . . . .he didnt pay the first month rent

 

[madcatwoman]

Oh madcat,i'm at least glad dh is on your side and realizes things will have to change,and that you and lo are his priority.
Mil will get a rude awakening,but by sounds of things she deserves it!!
I just don't understand her,why bother making such a fuss over going shopping if she wasn't gonna put her hand in her pocket.And I feel bad for you dh too.
UUUggh,familes,eh??!!
It'll all change in a few months,your family will be you,dh and baby b and everyone else comes 2nd.

i dont know why she made such a fuss, twice she asked to take us baby shopping, the 1st time a wriggled my way out of it, the 2nd time(this time) i gave in knowing DH was comming.

She will get a rude awakening hun, she did this xmas for starters, she wanted to sleep here xmas eve, DH decided to ask me 1st,& ring her back later. By the time we had decided no, and phoned back, she went into a huff.which is why DH started telling her that alot of things are going to change in the new year etc.