Moving away from your parents?

[captain-ally]

I'm living in my home town right now, mostly because where I'm "from" (where I feel I belong, anyway) doesn't have a hospital I'd willingly give birth in. It's as middle of no where as you can get without having to fly. It's about 12 hrs from my parents and they're not at all impressed that I want to go back there, asap. My dad already told me he wants me to move to their end of town (no chance of that!)

I feel guilty for taking their only grandkid away from them, and she's not even born yet. I'm not going to go until Dec '09 at the earliest, but my mom's already dropping hints that I should stay around longer - years longer.

I hate it here It's the time of year where all my friends are migrating up north for the planting season/timbercruising season and I feel really left out. I don't resent the baby for keeping me here but I wish I could spend the spring/summer/fall trekking through old growth forest doing the work I love - or at least be in the same vicinity as all of my friends. My parents are great and I would miss them alot too, but I'm being held back from the one place I've ever been where I fit in and was liked and respected by my coworkers/friends.

Is anyone else stuck like this?

 

[xarlenex]

I'm not in your situation, just wanted to say surely if your parents know you aren't genuienely happy there they wouldnt want that for you? You have to do whats best for you xx

 

[Always&4ever]

Im not the same, but I'm currently in Germany and my family in Stafford-England, I feel so alone but it does get better. Do what you feel is right for you and your LO

 

[brownhairedmom]

Yes, I'm stuck. I'm living with my parents in my hometown about 8 hours away from where I spent the last 3 years living on my own.

I hate it here, there is NOBODY here. But at the same time, I feel very grateful that I am bringing my daughter up in a safe place where I can let her play outside or go to the store without worrying about her getting run over or abducted. It is a very close knit community and I can trust my neighbours.

I want to leave for my own selfish reasons, but I know this is the right place for my daughter to grow up.

 

[captain-ally]

That's where I'm trying to leave too, lol. I don't even like my 19yr old sister walking home at night around here, let alone allowing a child to play outside. I've constantly got people walking through my back yard as if it were public space... I want to be out in the woods again

 

[brownhairedmom]

Do what is best for your baby, not what is best for your parents!