MemmaJ
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My mum was excited when we were TTC and asked me every month if there was 'any news'... I thought she would be really happy and excited when I got pregnant too.
In March, she had a small stroke and a week after she left hospital, I got my BFP.
I didn't tell her for another week after that, as I wanted to tell her in person and I wasn't seeing her until then.
Since I told her, she's not had any interest at all and it's really starting to upset me. She's recovered well from her stroke in the last 3 months and is doing well, so I don't think it's that...
She never asks me anything about me/the pregnancy... She was negative about me for paying for a private scan at 8 weeks, she was negative when I text her to say I had found baby's HB at 10+4, and when I text her my 12 week scan picture, she didn't even reply.
When I see her, she doesn't even mention the pregnancy/the baby, and neither do I any more because I feel like it's awkward now.
The most recent time, OH and I went for breakfast with her and my sister: OH, my sister and I were talking about something baby-related, can't even remember what. Maybe names or something. And my mum just completely changed the subject. It wasn't even done discreetly, she practically interrupted what we were saying and changed the subject to something else.
My partner is quite upset about it as he feels like she doesn't care and he's worried she's not ever going to be interested, even when the baby is here. This is his first baby so him and his family are very excited and he's taken it a bit personally. But now I am starting to aswell..!
I feel like I can't tell her anything now because she doesn't care anyway, and like I can't even mention anything about it when I'm around her... It's so awkward and I don't really know how to deal with it. OH wants me to say something to her but I don't feel like I can, I don't want to cause any tension an I know she'll go straight to my other siblings and tell them what I've said. Potentially then causing them to be angry with me too for 'causing her stress'...
How would you deal with it, or would you just leave it..?
In March, she had a small stroke and a week after she left hospital, I got my BFP.
I didn't tell her for another week after that, as I wanted to tell her in person and I wasn't seeing her until then.
Since I told her, she's not had any interest at all and it's really starting to upset me. She's recovered well from her stroke in the last 3 months and is doing well, so I don't think it's that...
She never asks me anything about me/the pregnancy... She was negative about me for paying for a private scan at 8 weeks, she was negative when I text her to say I had found baby's HB at 10+4, and when I text her my 12 week scan picture, she didn't even reply.
When I see her, she doesn't even mention the pregnancy/the baby, and neither do I any more because I feel like it's awkward now.
The most recent time, OH and I went for breakfast with her and my sister: OH, my sister and I were talking about something baby-related, can't even remember what. Maybe names or something. And my mum just completely changed the subject. It wasn't even done discreetly, she practically interrupted what we were saying and changed the subject to something else.
My partner is quite upset about it as he feels like she doesn't care and he's worried she's not ever going to be interested, even when the baby is here. This is his first baby so him and his family are very excited and he's taken it a bit personally. But now I am starting to aswell..!
I feel like I can't tell her anything now because she doesn't care anyway, and like I can't even mention anything about it when I'm around her... It's so awkward and I don't really know how to deal with it. OH wants me to say something to her but I don't feel like I can, I don't want to cause any tension an I know she'll go straight to my other siblings and tell them what I've said. Potentially then causing them to be angry with me too for 'causing her stress'...
How would you deal with it, or would you just leave it..?