My 3rd loss at 4+5

[ellie]

i am very sorry to hear that
you are not a failure ... there may be something really simple that the dr's could do that would help .... i know that probably doesn't help right now with how you feel though. take care and when you feel ready, maybe try to push for some tests?

 

[princess_bump]

oh honey i'm so so so so sorry, its certainly not your fault x x x

 

[MrsJD]

Snowball,

You're not a failure! It's not your fault, you need to get back to the doctors and get this sorted. So sorry to hear about this
XXX

 

[Lyns]

Oh my goodness sweetie, I can't believe this has happened to you again. I agree that now is the time that the Doc simply has to do something or its time for another doc.

Omi has given you some great advice (she does know her stuff that lady!), and I would also recommend this book, which I'm ploughing through at the moment...but I cannot for the life of me remember who on here recommended it...whoever it was,. thank you! Its certainly a good view on why things happen and how to get past miscarriage.

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Miscarriag...=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1232918103&sr=8-1

Thinking of you sweetie....hope you can get some help very soon xxx

 

[susan_1981]

Aw hun, I'm so sorry. It's a pretty big coincidence if that's what it is and you are in no way a failure. I'd go to the doctors and ask them to give you tests.

 

[samzi]

Snowball, i am so so sorry

 

[sarah_george]

so sorry xxx

 

[jonnanne3]

Snowball, You are not a failure! You need to go to a doctor and get looked at. I am so sorry for your loss and you are in my thoughts and prayers.

 

[want2bamom]

Snowball i just wanted to say how sorry iam to hear about your loss! I was so upset when i had my first and second and after my second i wanted to get test done and my doctor told me to just wait, maybe try and lose weight...all this crap!!! So i ended up getting preg again and had a m/c...So now that i m/c three times, ya now they will do something about it..take tests and stuff!! Doctors can be so frusterating..I don't even have a regular doctor i just go into the walk in clinics...But my gyno has been really good to me..I wish you all the best hun!!! And you are definetly not a failure!!!!

 

[superp123]

Youre not a failure. So sorry this has happened again hun. Sending you BIG
P

 

[buffycat]

....this is so unfair.....

when you are up to it.....make an appointment at the docs....this must be so tiring for you.....(physically and emotionally....)

take care...

 

[JASMAK]

I would demand testing. As you know, I have had three m/c too, and my DR shrugs it off. He keeps telling me to "keep trying" like I am just practicing my batting. These are my KIDS. I see my specialist on Tuesday, and I really hope that there will be some more testing offered, but I am going to ask for a lap. I am so sorry sweetie. Please don't call yourself a failure!!! Failing is something someone chooses. We are not choosing this! It is out of our control. I know how it hurts, but you can't blame yourself. Take care sweetie, and I am so so very sorry.

 

[eclipse]

I am so very sorry for your losses. As everyone has said, its time for the doctors to step up and help you. Get that genetic testing. Have it all done. Don't accept no for an answer. You are not a failure, your husband doesn't think that either. I'm sure his heart is broken for you. As is mine. *hugs*

 

[Widger]

Really sorry to hear your news - you are most defo not a failure.

After having 2 miscarriages, I too am feeling apprehensive about having to try again to wait to get some tests. I'm actually thinking about going private if the docs doesn't suggest it when I go to them this week. It is so frustrating because there are lots of women out there that end up finding out that there is something wrong - usually something small that could help people stay pregnant. Insist on it.....!

 

[SJK]

I am so sorry xx

 

[mummymadness]

Your are no failure sweetheart .Sue iam so so sorry You had to go through this again **Hugs** .
I hope Docs can give you more answers im here if you ever need me . xxxxx .

 

[Chris77]

Oh hun, I am so very sorry for your loss.

 

[Tishimouse]

I can relate to the word 'failure' but not quite in the same sense as you. I believe it's a word I use when I am utterly disappointed with something and feel like I have no control over the situation and this is most likely why the word has popped into your head. It's perfectly natural to think this way, but it's not technically true.

In my eyes, you are successful, but haven't quite made it all the way just yet. I agree with the others that you should visit your doctor (or go for a second opinion elsewhere) to put your mind at ease. You need some answers if they are obtainable to help you through this difficult time and I sincerely hope you get some, even if they are to confirm that you are both perfectly OK. I wish there was more I could say to help you, but others here are better qualified to help you as they have been through the same experiences.

 

[jacky24]

Im so sorry hun....

 

[maccy]

I am so sorry hun, I don't know what to say.. you don't deserve this at all