Trying4first1
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Hi Ladies. I am sorry that you all find yourselves here 
I found out that I lost my little bean last Tuesday 31/03/15. Prior to that I had had brown spotting with the odd few brown clots (sorry if TMI). Due to this I had a scan 11 days beforehand on Friday 20/03/15. The sonographer said that she saw a sac but at this stage was unable to tell if the pregnancy was viable. In my head I knew hat baby had stopped growing and I sobbed my heart out all the way through until the next scan. Its weird how you 'just know'. All my pregnancy symptoms seemed good at first but then they just stopped in their tracks, which made me worry a few days before the spotting started.
I went back for the scan and the sonographer said that baby had stopped growing and had been re- absorbed as nothing could be seen. I remained calm as I had cried so much before, I just wanted to thank practically and about how to end the pregnancy. This was a lot harder than I thought. We were told all the options and we went home to discuss (DH and I).
I originally chose medical management as I wanted it to all be over with ASAP. But I couldn't go through with it after researching. I wasn't prepared to see all of the blood and to have the pain. I am also a bridesmaid in a wedding this week so didn't want to worry about anything going on down below. After speaking to my Mum I opted for a D & C. They were able to book me in for Saturday 4th April, which was fab! The whole time I worried about MC naturally as the bleeding started to increase. Luckily I didn't .
When we got to the hospital we were pleasantly surprised. We had been placed in the private part of the hospital and had our own room an en-suite. It was like being at a travel lodge! I feel that this made things easier as made me feel much more comfortable and gave DH and me the privacy we needed. I know that we were very lucky to have this, I just wish that all women could have this, I really do as it was a big help,
I would say that the worst pat of the day was the waiting around as I was so nervous. My op was much later as an emergency case was dealt with first. However I was comfortable and DH and me chatted and watched TV.
Whilst waiting for the op the nurse came in and did all of my forms. A while later she gave me a drug called misoprostol which was use to soften my cervix. She also gave me two paracetamol as she said that it could cause cramps and headaches. I got a couple of pulling twinges but nothing much at all. The tablets opened my bowel more than anything, I had quite bad diarrhoea. The nurse came by and said not to worry as that was also a side effect. I had no
headaches either.
After a couple of hours the porter came down to get me for my op. I was so nervous and began to cry as I said goodbye to DH. It was a cry of sadness but also a cry of relief. Once down in the main hospital in the room where they prepare you for the op, the nurse down there was lovely, very friendly and tried her best to calm my nerves. The anaesthetist was lovely too. I asked where he was putting me to sleep as I said that last time it was in the theatre and I didn't like it much. He said that he prefers to do it in the room we are in as he said a lot of patients find the theatre scary. Phew!!! That made me feel much better. Being put to sleep wasn't bad at all. the nurse was talking to me about holidays. I closed my eyes and responded a few times but that is all I can remember.
I woke up in recovery. A bit dazed thinking oh my goodness its over. I had a very sore throat and the nurse was there right next to me and straight away got my a drink of water before I could even say anything. I had a bit of a cry when I woke up as it hit me that the pregnancy was now gone and I was no longer pregnant. The nurse and I had a good talk and she was very re- assuring. I had some aching and discomfort in the uterus area. It wasn't the worst of pain at all, more uncomfortable than anything. The nurse gave me 20mg of morphine to help. I was also given some painkillers in theatre. After 40 minutes in recovery (low blood pressure) I was taken back to my room where DH was waiting wondering why I had been so long (I took ages to wake up, probably so exhausted from lack of sleep the night before).
Once in the room I was monitored blood pressure and temperature every 15 minutes for an hour and then very half-hour for 2 hours after that. Whilst recovering I watched TV and they kindly gave me a sandwich and cup of tea. DH also bought me in some snacks as I was so hungry!
I didn't feel any pain and the bleeding was like a period. The day after I also had no pain and today 3 days on nothing, very minimal bleeding, They have given me pain pillers and paracetamol but have not used them once! It s as if nothing has happened, its so weird! It nice not to have the physical pain as its enough to cope with emotionally.
So my experience of the D& C was very positive, was over quickly, no pain and hardly any bleeding. The emotional pain will take a while but I am just trying to keep myself busy. We have been told that we can TTC after my first period post D & C , which I have been told should be in 4- 6 weeks time. I wouldn't try before as I feel my body needs time to heal and I need to heal emotionally. I am on a break from TTC as I don't feel that we are waiting to try. A break right now is what we need and we will make the decision on when to try again once AF shows
up again.
This has been an awful time, especially since I thought this would be it after my first MC, but someone up there has other plans for us.
Wishing you all the best of luck and so sorry that you are going through this too xx
I found out that I lost my little bean last Tuesday 31/03/15. Prior to that I had had brown spotting with the odd few brown clots (sorry if TMI). Due to this I had a scan 11 days beforehand on Friday 20/03/15. The sonographer said that she saw a sac but at this stage was unable to tell if the pregnancy was viable. In my head I knew hat baby had stopped growing and I sobbed my heart out all the way through until the next scan. Its weird how you 'just know'. All my pregnancy symptoms seemed good at first but then they just stopped in their tracks, which made me worry a few days before the spotting started.
I went back for the scan and the sonographer said that baby had stopped growing and had been re- absorbed as nothing could be seen. I remained calm as I had cried so much before, I just wanted to thank practically and about how to end the pregnancy. This was a lot harder than I thought. We were told all the options and we went home to discuss (DH and I).
I originally chose medical management as I wanted it to all be over with ASAP. But I couldn't go through with it after researching. I wasn't prepared to see all of the blood and to have the pain. I am also a bridesmaid in a wedding this week so didn't want to worry about anything going on down below. After speaking to my Mum I opted for a D & C. They were able to book me in for Saturday 4th April, which was fab! The whole time I worried about MC naturally as the bleeding started to increase. Luckily I didn't .
When we got to the hospital we were pleasantly surprised. We had been placed in the private part of the hospital and had our own room an en-suite. It was like being at a travel lodge! I feel that this made things easier as made me feel much more comfortable and gave DH and me the privacy we needed. I know that we were very lucky to have this, I just wish that all women could have this, I really do as it was a big help,
I would say that the worst pat of the day was the waiting around as I was so nervous. My op was much later as an emergency case was dealt with first. However I was comfortable and DH and me chatted and watched TV.
Whilst waiting for the op the nurse came in and did all of my forms. A while later she gave me a drug called misoprostol which was use to soften my cervix. She also gave me two paracetamol as she said that it could cause cramps and headaches. I got a couple of pulling twinges but nothing much at all. The tablets opened my bowel more than anything, I had quite bad diarrhoea. The nurse came by and said not to worry as that was also a side effect. I had no
headaches either.
After a couple of hours the porter came down to get me for my op. I was so nervous and began to cry as I said goodbye to DH. It was a cry of sadness but also a cry of relief. Once down in the main hospital in the room where they prepare you for the op, the nurse down there was lovely, very friendly and tried her best to calm my nerves. The anaesthetist was lovely too. I asked where he was putting me to sleep as I said that last time it was in the theatre and I didn't like it much. He said that he prefers to do it in the room we are in as he said a lot of patients find the theatre scary. Phew!!! That made me feel much better. Being put to sleep wasn't bad at all. the nurse was talking to me about holidays. I closed my eyes and responded a few times but that is all I can remember.
I woke up in recovery. A bit dazed thinking oh my goodness its over. I had a very sore throat and the nurse was there right next to me and straight away got my a drink of water before I could even say anything. I had a bit of a cry when I woke up as it hit me that the pregnancy was now gone and I was no longer pregnant. The nurse and I had a good talk and she was very re- assuring. I had some aching and discomfort in the uterus area. It wasn't the worst of pain at all, more uncomfortable than anything. The nurse gave me 20mg of morphine to help. I was also given some painkillers in theatre. After 40 minutes in recovery (low blood pressure) I was taken back to my room where DH was waiting wondering why I had been so long (I took ages to wake up, probably so exhausted from lack of sleep the night before).
Once in the room I was monitored blood pressure and temperature every 15 minutes for an hour and then very half-hour for 2 hours after that. Whilst recovering I watched TV and they kindly gave me a sandwich and cup of tea. DH also bought me in some snacks as I was so hungry!
I didn't feel any pain and the bleeding was like a period. The day after I also had no pain and today 3 days on nothing, very minimal bleeding, They have given me pain pillers and paracetamol but have not used them once! It s as if nothing has happened, its so weird! It nice not to have the physical pain as its enough to cope with emotionally.
So my experience of the D& C was very positive, was over quickly, no pain and hardly any bleeding. The emotional pain will take a while but I am just trying to keep myself busy. We have been told that we can TTC after my first period post D & C , which I have been told should be in 4- 6 weeks time. I wouldn't try before as I feel my body needs time to heal and I need to heal emotionally. I am on a break from TTC as I don't feel that we are waiting to try. A break right now is what we need and we will make the decision on when to try again once AF shows
up again.
This has been an awful time, especially since I thought this would be it after my first MC, but someone up there has other plans for us.
Wishing you all the best of luck and so sorry that you are going through this too xx
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