My follow up Gyno visit - a bit annoyed.

[NeyNey]

My first appointment with my new Gyno was fantastic, he took the time, sat down and told me everything. Well obviously it didn't work, so I had my follow up yesterday.

Firstly I barely got to see him, I saw his local Dr first - who was 22 weeks Pregnant...And proceeded to ask me..."Have you tried just taking a holiday". Yes she did ask me that....I sat there all opened mouthed...Oh but wait, there's more - Then she went on to tell me "There is still hope, I am over 30 and I got pregnant on my FIRST TIME trying". At this point I felt like turning to her and saying "Well whoopdeefuckingdoo to you sunshine" But kept my mouth shut..

Then my Dr came in, did not sit down just stood over me where I sat goes "Congratulations!!" After my puzzled look he said "Well the treatment is working"....At this point I felt like punching them both in the face, so I replied with - "I fail to see where it's working? My cycles are wonky as ever and I haven't had a sniff of a BFP since being treated under you" So that shut him up. He then told me he wants to continue on the Clomid and Metformin, and thats where I got fed up. I told him I have been on clomid close to 12 months all up now and I wasn't going to continue on it. I will take the Metformin, but I told him I want a laproscopy AND my tube dye test, he started to "but but but" but I got in first, I said I realise I have had a BFP but that is beside the point as I've been TTC for over 3 years.

So - he went and booked me in for a Lap and Dye, I'm on a waiting list...Why do we have to demand someone to try to find out whats wrong with us? Is it really easier to just give them another pill and shut them up..

Oh, and FJL - I asked them about fixing my Sub Septate Uterus under general anesethic, but she said no - they will only do that after I've suffered multiple M/c - I was so angry I'm sure steam was coming out of my ears...I said "Well I know people who had it fixed without needing to go through all the heartache of M/c over and over again..." I think I was gritting my teeth when I said it cause she turned to look at me. She said "Oh, well I've never heard of that" ....and they wonder why some people...just snap!

 

[Arcanegirl]

 

[Vickie]

What an awful way to be treated

 

[miel]

OMG !!! how rude!!!! i can't believe the nerves of those two !!!

you should wrote them a letter Neyney ...let them know how you felt ...they are suppose to be care giver not bullshit giver !!!

They should have known both of them that you ttc road is not just physical but also it's a mental journey ...they should known ...maybe it did not occured to them what they were doing but as medicals peoples they should know!!!

i will be furious ...i am furious actually !!!

can't believe you have to be on a waiting list either !

 

[polo_princess]

omg hun what a pair of idiots, i cant believe they treated you like that

 

[NeyNey]

Thanks girls.

I got out to my car afterwards and just burst into tears, I think some of it was frustration/anger and some was dissapointment but I had a nurse passing the car tap on my window to ask me if I was ok....See, I am crying again - I hate being this sensitive about things.

Anyway Miel - I have thought about making a complaint. I have said it before, there is just not enough knowledge on Infertility in the community and therefore you get idiots like these Dr's who have no idea how sensitive this issue can be to someone. I know she didn't mean any harm, but c'mon - any idiot knows you don't say those things to someone who've been TTC for over 3 years....Don't you think we've tried the whole fucking "Relax and it will happen" approach!! ARGH. God it makes me so fucking angry.
I'm angry because they haven't a fucking clue - and I'm angry because I had to DEMAND my own fucking treatment to try to fix my problems....

 

[miel]

you should your hunny wrote a complain to the doc let him know that instead having his wife come back to him with reinssurance or more knowledge of what the next step they can take as a couple to have a family.He find her in crumble because the medical team she meet with did not take in consideration a single minute the state of mind a woman can be when entering their office regarding a infertility issue ...to have nurse telling her she got pregnant first time trying is outrageous !!!

i don't know but it's like a very over weight person that will have a lot of problem trying to lose her weight under a medical help will walk into a medical office and she will have a skinny nurse telling her she can eat 100 mc donald burgers and not gain a single pound !!!
people sue for mental abuse you know!!!

 

[CurlySue]

Seriously, people who say such things should not work in such places. There is tactless and there is plain unprofessional.

 

[chefamy1122]

I am reading this in shock. I cannot believe you had to go thru this. I don't even know what to say, but I want to give you for having to deal with such insensitive assholes. You would think they would have had a little more compassion!!!

 

[woodsy]

aww hun sending im sorry your experience wasnt more positive, some people can be sooo in sensitive and especially in their positions they should know better

 

[natthecat]

why are these people doing this job when they know why you are there?

do they not have an ounce of sensitivity?!

seriously, get a letter written telling them how they made you feel and that they should be more conciderate!

jesus what are these people on?!

 

[BizyBee]

That is ridiculous! How can they be so insensitive? Sorry you had to go through that...

 

[FJL]

OMFG NeyNey...I am seeing red on your behalf...seriously, I am FURIOUS at the way you were treated.

1. I want to punch that pregnant Dr. How DARE she say those things to you...she is obviously a shitty Dr when it comes to infertility and LTTTC.

2. Honestly, I so highly recommend you get yourself referred to a city Dr, preferably my Dr because he is so wonderful at what he does and there is no way he will muck you about with clomid after you've been on it 12 months, you won't get insensitive comments and he will fucking well fix your uterus!!!

Jesus...I had 1 very early m/c and mine was fixed a month later. If he had've known about it before we started our cycle, he'd have fixed it before. Some women do go on to have good pregnancies with a septate ute...but when you're dealing with such a high % of problems, why the fuck would they want to even risk it??? Seriously, these country Drs are FUCKED.

I know its a pain with travel and time off work to go to the city, but honestly, it is the best decision we have EVER made...my only regret is not doing it sooner.

Forget about these Drs, they obviously don't know what they're doing and I hate how they think clomid is the answer for everything it sometimes makes me feel like they bought a piece of paper that says they have a degree along side the thick script pad for clomid. That seems to be all many country Drs know about TTC.

God I am angry, I can't imagine how you must feel!!!

Always here for you anytime.

Hey, you could always send my Dr an email telling him of your struggles and what you'd done, about your uterus etc and ask him with the info you've given, what he would suggest if you were his patient. I did this before making an appointment with him and the email back was absolute music to my ears...he said everything I wanted him to say! Just go to the SIVF website, go to the Drs page and you will see Dr Derek Lok. Click on him and his email address should come up.

Let me know what you decide

 

[TrixieLox]

Hey NeyNey, it's been a while. Man, I can't beleive how crap that appointment was. I admire your strength tho honey, good for you insisting on stuff. xx

 

[rachelle1975]

Glad you got the treatment you wanted chick - not glad at the way they treated you and the fact you had to fight for it. Is there any way to change doctors or are you stuck with these guys?

 

[NeyNey]

Thanks again girls...I'm still fuming from all of this.

FJL - I might go to that website and email him just to see what he says. I still want the lap and dye - to rule out what is going on. But now I really do want my subseptate uterus fixed...Otherwise I could go on and on with m/c - So yes, I will email him!

 

[miel]

go neyney !!!

new year ! new battles but nothing you can't do!!!

 

[FJL]

You've got nothing to lose with an email hun, I think its a good idea Let me know what he says xx

I've been thinking about your appointment all day today and I am still SO angry for you.

 

[babezone]

aww sorry thy were so shitty hun u deserve better thn that. and you go girl...no1 should have to suffer any m.c before they wil fix something that is clearly wrong good luck xx

 

[Helen_26]

That was awful hun. I'm pleased you stood up for yourself and got the treatment you wanted.
I think it's a great idea emailing FJL's doctor, you've got nothing to loose.

Good luck hun