Oh hun. I'm so sorry that you had to hear that and it made you feel that way. What I will say is that even in single pregnancies (mine included) woman always anticipate V-day...when the pregnancy is far enough along that your baby has a fighting chance if God forbid something did happen. So you're not feeling anything that other women don't, but I know it doesn't make it any easier. Also your hubbs is right. I bought a Snuza for Virtue to monitor his breathing at night and make sure he kept breathing while I was asleep. He wore it for the first 4 months of his life. If it wasn't for hubs not putting it him without telling me some nights, he'd probably still be wearing it. Even now, at 8 months, I have to check on him before I leave in the morning if I don't hear him moving around, or breathing a hard sigh.
BUT GOD...
Has a different plan and He knows what that plan is. I was talking to my grandmother last night and she told me what she always tells me..."You're not suppose to worry, the bible says that worrying is a sin. Worrying is like saying that you don't trust God." I know you trust God hun, you trust God with your husband, Tay, your own life...surely you can trust Him with your babies. It's difficult I know, to not want to have complete control, but God can take better care of them than you can, even in your womb. Give your babies to God, daily, hourly if you need to. Enjoy your pregnancy, and tell people when you're ready. Besides with 3 healthy babies in there, you won't be able to keep it a secret much longer!
Lord give our sister Your peace that surpasses all understanding. Lord build her faith in You. Remind her daily that You are in complete control and are fully capable. Clear her mind and remove any negative thoughts and thoughts of doubt so that she can focus solely on You and the promises in Your word. Help us to encourage her; bring Your word back to us, so that we may continue to use it to build up our sister. Lord we thank You for already bringing her babies to term. Now let us be patient and faithful in our waiting. In Jesus name, Amen!