My mother has been telling everyone I almost died.

[SaraVO]

My dad got here two days ago. The first thing he said was that he couldn't believe he wasn't called when my labor went south. I have received phone calls the theme has all been we are so happy you are here. It turns out my mom who was in the waiting room has decided that my long surgery. A little over four hours and my two transfusions due to blood loss means that I almost died and have been sharing the traumatic and terrifying birth story with all of my relatives. Now it wasn't ideal and if wasn't my plan but my doctor and the team had me under control the entire time. I was fine and my nine day old was perfect. I wasn't at death's door. And I want to talk about my beautiful son not my freaking labor. It's like she is ruining part of my story because she is being melodramatic. And the hugs of "survival" from my cousins before they even look at my baby are sucking the joy out of things. I'm just annoyed and I can't take back all of the conversations she's already had. And trying to convince people that she is exaggerating isn't working they just think I'm being tough.

 

[laila 44]

Urgh Sara I'm sorry your mom is acting that way. The fact is that I'm sure she was very worried and maybe bc things didn't go as textbook that she just over dramatized things. You are being a trooper though, that's for sure! I had a very similar labor with my first minus the blood loss and let me tell you I was a freakin mess for a while! I thought I was gonna die for real. The thing is, labor is really insignificant. What really matters is that your son is healthy and perfectly fine! So there's really no need to make such a big deal about the type of labor you had as it was out of your control anyway. I would sit my mom down and tell her Nicely that I don't appreciate her telling people details about my labor etc. And that id like to focus on the positive ie: beautiful healthy baby! Just enjoy him Sara, he's really all that matters anyway, your labor will just be a story you tell one day xx

 

[Eleanor ace]

Oh no, how embarrassing! Just stick to your guns, maybe say something like "yes things went off plan, but when does birth ever go to plan really?! I had a c-section, I lost blood so had transfusions but that happens sometimes and the doctors were used t it so it was all under control and LO and I were fine throughout. I can imagine it was scary for Mom not knowing what was going on and she had all sorts of thoughts going through he mind which is why she's remembering it as more extreme than it was!"

 

[SaraVO]

I'm disappointed in the reactions around me. And I'm hurt that my mother would put so much emphasis on the way he was born. I tried to talk to her. I got the "you're my baby" speech. Blah blah.. I will continue to tell everyone that I am fine and my baby is perfect. It's all I can really do.

 

[Smanderson]

My mum did the same thing when my DS was born, we had a crash section because his heart stopped every time I contracted. They had him out within 30 minutes. I think it's because my mum was so worried about me and doesn't cope with medical things very well. You are not alone, I found it really upsetting my mum saying those things, for the same reasons as you but also it scared me to hear it. I think my mum was saying it because she believed it and also needed some kind of support. I've never seen my mum look so scared as she did that day when they wheeled me out of the recovery room.

Try not to let it pull you down. Keep shouting louder about how gorgeous your little boy is and maybe just say you know your mum was worried about you and then show how gorgeous and healthy he is to move on from the subject of the birth to your beautiful baby x

 

[medic76097]

It sounds like you had my mother at your birth. Lol. This is exactly why I didn't have her around at mine.