my mother!...

[impatient1]

Ok, so a bit of a rant here... sorry girls...
So she has great intentions and all but seriously why do you want to waste so much of your money??? My cousin is having a baby in a couple months and ofcourse myself in November... my family will be helping my cousin out with the baby off and on, and of course babysitting for me every now and then. My mom has decided that she is going to buy a whole bunch of stuff for her to have at her house for the baby... well I feel like telling her that my baby is not going to be there that often and chances are my cousin's won't be either so she is waisting her money on buying all of this stuff just to keep there for when they come over. She has already bought a stroller/carseat, is planning on buying a playpen, swing and highchair. Am I over reacting or is she being unreasonable. My MIL wants to buy us a few big items and my mom is whinning "wow she's gonna make me look cheap although I am buying it for the baby just for here instead", and all I wanted to say was... well if you didn't feel the need to buy one of everything for yourself then... How about buying stuff for the baby's home first, doesn't that make more sense? Don't get me wrong I don't expect anyone to buy all the stuff for my baby but really... and then she complains about how little money she has.
End of rant... thanks for listening.

 

[Kimboowee]

My step-mums the same. I haven't seen her since last July and she's bought a cot and a highchair!!!!

 

[impatient1]

I don't get why she thinks that she needs to have everything too. If I'm coming over yeah I guess it will be more convenient but right now shouldn't we worry about the basics and making sure the baby has one at home to begin with.

 

[Kimboowee]

I reckon they just get a bit carried away!

 

[impatient1]

I have relaised maybe I over reacted... hormones... but I guess I don't want to see her waisting all of her money when we can bring stuff there for the babies. Maybe I'll just tell her that...

 

[eswift]

Your Mum sounds so excited. I know it's gonna be frustrating... At least on the plus side, she's gonna have the stuff you could borrow until you can get your own or need it... Look at she's wants to be apart of it all..

 

[Seraphim]

Aw Impatient1 *hug*

I love this post for the honesty. Even if it's hormone induced

I had similar WAH! feelings when my mum started pushing herself forward as a birthing partner :/ It's just not the same when the motivation is for their own reasons above yours. My mum's a sweetie, but I think she'd have daddy to be climbing the walls if I let her in there.

x

 

[lissagayle]

That is a grandma for you!!

 

[impatient1]

It was definately hormone induced and very honest lol. I just came on here and it started pouring out as soon as I had gotten off the phone with her. I know that she's just trying to be helpful in her own overbearing way. On the bright side you only have your mom who wants to be in the room Seraphim, my MIL wants to as well (she works in obstetrics), I have a feeling I'm gonna be kicking them out part way through. So far I have put my foot down and said no one is coming to appointments with us (hopefully I can keep it down). I guess this is what I get for having the frist grandchild on either side.

 

[ahava]

awww, she sounds amazing. i JUST wished i had my mom and dad still here, they both died in2004, and i miss them so much. I say, just let her do what she wants.....and love that she is so excited for you all ..she sounds like a wonderful mummy

 

[Seraphim]

Ahava, you're quite right.
Most things refuse to be black and white.
It's a bit like morning sickness... horrible while your head is down the toilet, but a nice reminder that your baby is well.

Impatient1, MIL too!? My sympathies heheheh

My MIL can be a little 'hmm' because we're so different - but bless her, she has been delightful about the baby. She said "If I get to see it... when it's first born... it will be the first newborn baby I've ever seen..." - I almost cried. (DH was adopted) I was and am so grateful to her for giving me the space to invite her in... it's been such a pleasure, I can't wait to hand her her lovely grandson/daughter ;D

Ours is first grandchild on both sides too very exciting.

My mother is a therapist, and she specialises in prenatal 'stuff'... shes so full of thoughts and ideas, it can be hard to stem the tide

 

[ahava]

awww fantastic your a lucky one.... therapist.. i was just thinking i need to see one of those....with all the fears of being a first time mom.

 

[impatient1]

They are both great mothers which I am thankful for, and will be wonderful grandmothers. I know that they are both so thrilled and excited about the idea of the baby and being able to spoil him/her. i guess it's just gonna take some time for me to get used to the idea of having people trying to be so involved. I have always been very independent and self sufficient so I think it's a little hard for me to just stand back as they are both overbearing and stubborn (but I am stubborn to so what can I say really lol).