my oh thinks that coming on here is bad for me

[mmlovepink]

he thinks that reading stories (especially the bfp stories) makes me upset and moody and then he has to deal with me and my waterworks after.

i really want a baby and even though i am ready to full ttc, he is still stuck on ntnp which means we have been partially trying since september 2010.

i must admit, its hard coming on here everyday... thats why i took a couple of months of visiting this site. it seems everyone gets there bfp apart from me.

i also get a little depressed on this site because i dont have a buddy or any group of people to talk to regularly. i mean my oh isnt exactly on the same page as me and its hard for him to understand what i go through monthly.

so yeah... just thought id do a quick rant because im a little bit upset.

x

 

[francismummy]

I will be your buddy x

 

[francismummy]

Men do not understand what we go thru x

 

[sarina53172]

i am in ur same situation my fiance yesterday was a little bit upset with me for being on this site and because now i want to start taking my temp. and buy ovulation sticks and stuff we kinda got into it a little bit because he think "it will happen when it will happen" where i know it doesnt work like that with our first son we were trying and i truely believe that we got lucky. after getting off the depo shot i sometimes get 2 periods a month which leaves me no time to ovulate..and he doesnt understand that it wont happen when it happens becuase if i dont ovulate i wont get pregnant. so i know how you feel and yes when i see other people get there BFP it makes me a little sad because i want this so bad..but i am happy for them because they were in our shoes at one point in time probably sad when they saw other women get there BFP....so that to me is only a normal feeling.

but i am fairly new here but we can be buddies =] add me as your ffriend my name is sarina im going to be 21 years old im engaged i have a 16month old son. took me a year and a half to conceive him.

 

[mmlovepink]

francismummy - hi sweetie yeah id love to be your buddy. what cycle day are you on?

sarina53172 - yeah its hard to hear him say "it will happen when it will happen" as a woman there are a lot of things we feel we need to do in order to get preggers and men dont understand enough to help us. i dont wanna ntnp, i just wanna ttc!! yeah i will add you as a friend now im 20, ttc #1. what cycle day are you on?

 

[francismummy]

I am on cd 18 first cycle using CBFM x

 

[sarina53172]

You calculate that by counting the first day of last period right?? If so..

I am on day 15

i have very irregular cycles sometimes 2 a month..which doesnt give me time to ovulate =/ i called my doctor about that yesterday and im waiting for a call back

 

[francismummy]

It's very annoying as u do not know when to DTD

That y I got the monitor to help me track

But my hub knows nothing about this site lol

 

[mmlovepink]

francismummy - i tried adding you as a friend but it wouldnt let me. im currently using cb opk... whats the difference with cbfm? i wanted to try it but i didnt know how good it was/ what it did.

sarina53172 - yep counted from first day of last period. im on cd13, so we are pretty close. having 2 periods a month must be hard... hopefully the doctor will be able to tell u if youre ovulating. good luck! my cycles are pretty regular, they average on 28 days. are u using and opks?

 

[mmlovepink]

even when i do know when to dtd, my hubby is never eager to bed around that time so i miss the opportunity a lot of the time =(

 

[francismummy]

Decoy sex then. Don't tell him it's time lol

 

[sarina53172]

today i am going to buy some ovulation tests and pregnancy tests online...and a thermometer to take my temp. and im going to start monitoring...my doctor hasnt called me back so im trying to do things at home to kick start my body lol im not sure what will work but it doesnt hurt to try

 

[NuKe]

my hubs is NTNP... I'm definitely TTC i do hope he doesn't find my OPKs! I do know how you feel, I was a member here when we wer ttc poppy, and it is hard.

 

[cass86]

Hi,

I know what you mean about getting down and it feeling like everyone else is getting the BFP before you.

For me it seems like it will never happen, my best friend has just found out she is pregnant and didn't even try. it is really frustrating sometimes when you want something really bad.

I had my first session of acupuncture today and fingers crossed this month.

I hope we all get our BFP soon.

 

[sarina53172]

yeah im not going to hide them im just going to tell him that im doing this to see if im ovulating regularly lol

 

[sarina53172]

good luck getting that BFP

 

[mmlovepink]

francismummy - im decoying atm lol. bded the last three days... should be ovulating on the18th... hopefully will be a able to decoy up until then... i feel bad though.. like im going behind his back... but i want this so much!!

sarina - good luck with the opk. hopefully you are ovulating!

nuke - omg im exactly the same as u... im ttc but hes ntnp. do you feel bad? ive stashed away all my opks!

cass86 - it must be hard that your bestfriend is preggers without trying. =( sorry. im sure youre happy for her though and im sure your bfp will come soon! how does acupuncture help with getting preggers? ive always wanted to know lol

x

 

[Lotusbaby]

I'm still trying to get my OH on the idea of NTNP...he made a big statement that he wanted to save up for a baby etc and whenever I was ready we would do it. Well I'm ready. And now he isn't. It's super depressing. He doesn't understand completely or if at all what it takes to actually get pregnant. It's kind of a miraculous thing..getting pregnant the first try is pretty rare..
I thought maybe the NTNP would help convince him but he just avoids the subject :S
Makes for a sad wifey!!

 

[Lotusbaby]

@mmlovepink- I think acupuncture helps relax you as well as increase bloodflow to the ovaries thus helping you ovulate and then conceive! Acupuncture as well as massage is great for your whole body. And balance is a good thing when trying for a baby

 

[mmlovepink]

aww lotusbaby... poor you. i know how you feel. youre ready to try, but he's not. my oh gives the same reasons (saving up for a baby, making sure we are ready etc), but im ready!

i know irts bad but even if my oh doesnt want to ttc, i want to and i will! lol he doesnt have to know im charting and using opks. whenever im about to ovulate i try my best to bd... its not the most honest thing to do... but its the only way to keep me sane and away from depression!

x