my oh thinks that coming on here is bad for me

[MrsHY]

Yup I can empathise with this - OH thinks I'm totally obsessed because I come on here and have a big box under the bed full of vitamins, minerals, herbs, OPKs, HPTs, pre-seed, reference books... you name it I've got it! 5 years ago same box was filled with sex toys and stockings... TMI LOL!!
I think the key is to keep my obsession as much to myself as possible - however because I have PCOS and other cycle issues he's thankfully started to really appreciate why I feel like I need all this stuff and he bears with me.
But ladies, one word of advice, DO NOT TALK TO YOUR OH ABOUT EWCM. I did once and he looked very green and couldn't get it up that night!

 

[sarina53172]

lol thank you for the advice.

 

[Sparkles237]

sparkles - yep, my oh just thinks this forum is bad for me but its slightly addictive because like you said, i can feel normal here. theres nowhere else to go. do you ever get breaks from here? i regularly take breaks just to calm down and its good for my relationship.

x

i have to take little breaks every now and again otherwise i'll just be crying all the time, it's hard because i made a few friends on here when i first joined but now there ALL and i mean that ALL of them are in 1st tri now and i'm the only one left in here so it does get me down. I tried to keep as much of it to myself but sometimes you just need to be away from this and facebook which is just as evil as all you ever see is more people annoucing their pregnant and posting pictures!!!!

 

[mmlovepink]

@kendra i totally understand the lack of sex drive and it always seems to come about when im fertile

@mrshy lool thanks for the advice. yeah im just trying to keep this all to myself... he might think im slightly crazy!

@sparkles ahh its hard when you make friends on here and they move to the first tri section. it feels like youre never gonna get your lucky break, but you will! dont worry

 

[FertilMertile]

I'm really sorry sweety but you have us to come and vent to!

Some guys don't understand what TTC does to us. It takes a lot out of us each month. But you do have us to talk to about whatever you need/want to talk about.

 

[cass86]

francismummy - im decoying atm lol. bded the last three days... should be ovulating on the18th... hopefully will be a able to decoy up until then... i feel bad though.. like im going behind his back... but i want this so much!!

sarina - good luck with the opk. hopefully you are ovulating!

nuke - omg im exactly the same as u... im ttc but hes ntnp. do you feel bad? ive stashed away all my opks!

cass86 - it must be hard that your bestfriend is preggers without trying. =( sorry. im sure youre happy for her though and im sure your bfp will come soon! how does acupuncture help with getting preggers? ive always wanted to know lol

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Yeah i am really happy for her, it would just be nice if we were both going through it together.

I have heard so many stories about the acupuncture working. Not really sure how it works, something to do with increased blood flow to the ovaries i think? I am just hoping it works?

x

 

[PocoHR]

My DH didn't like me coming on here at first, and tbh, if it makes you cry, maybe you should avoid it (at least when you are really feeling down).

I think like with anything, you just have to exercise moderation, and if you feel yourself getting too attached/obsessed, its best to take a break.

But, ttc is HARD and feels super lonely, so hopefully your DH will understand that you come here for support (mine did in the end). Also, my DH is more in a ntnp mentality, but he can't control what I do (and he well knows it! lol). So, he might be ntnp, because that works for him (keeps the pressure off), but I am more ttc, and we meet somewhere in the middle. I hold back from him a lot of the efforts I put in to ttc, because they really stress him out. I have no problem keeping things to myself like that. But, he knows very well that we need to do it more around the time I ovulate, so I find subtle ways to let him know when its "time" (more or less, I jump him, and touch his "stuff" a lot, which he doesn't mind ).

It doesn't always work and there have been times where we argued about it and where I lose my mind and cry and get upset and where he gets annoyed and angry and everything, but for the past few months, we have been ok. If you ever want someone to chat to, you can write me! I'll be your buddy, I can always use friends on this journey.

Good luck to you and lots of !!

 

[StarKatie]

I totally know what you all are saying! Some of the info and people on here have been very helpful in the TTC process, but some days I have to be careful what part of the forum I go to so as not to slip too much into depression.

 

[Stash777]

he thinks that reading stories (especially the bfp stories) makes me upset and moody and then he has to deal with me and my waterworks after.

i really want a baby and even though i am ready to full ttc, he is still stuck on ntnp which means we have been partially trying since september 2010.

i must admit, its hard coming on here everyday... thats why i took a couple of months of visiting this site. it seems everyone gets there bfp apart from me.

i also get a little depressed on this site because i dont have a buddy or any group of people to talk to regularly. i mean my oh isnt exactly on the same page as me and its hard for him to understand what i go through monthly.

so yeah... just thought id do a quick rant because im a little bit upset.

x

I don't know how I would cope without coming to this site all the time. DH and I are on our 16th month of ttc, so I've seen my share of girls coming and going. But I have some great buddies on here, and you can feel free to chime in anytime on my journal (and theirs)- the girls there are awesome and funny!! Don't know what I would do without them. Plus, the guys just really do not know what we go through, no matter how much they try to understand.

 

[sarina53172]

yep i explaind that to my finance and he understands he just dont want me on here all the time lol but when i need to vent or something this is where i go

 

[Stash777]

Yup I can empathise with this - OH thinks I'm totally obsessed because I come on here and have a big box under the bed full of vitamins, minerals, herbs, OPKs, HPTs, pre-seed, reference books... you name it I've got it! 5 years ago same box was filled with sex toys and stockings... TMI LOL!!
I think the key is to keep my obsession as much to myself as possible - however because I have PCOS and other cycle issues he's thankfully started to really appreciate why I feel like I need all this stuff and he bears with me.
But ladies, one word of advice, DO NOT TALK TO YOUR OH ABOUT EWCM. I did once and he looked very green and couldn't get it up that night!

And close and lock the bathroom door so he doesn't catch you checking CM! DH looked at me like I had three heads.