my oh thinks that coming on here is bad for me

[mmlovepink]

@mmlovepink- I think acupuncture helps relax you as well as increase bloodflow to the ovaries thus helping you ovulate and then conceive! Acupuncture as well as massage is great for your whole body. And balance is a good thing when trying for a baby

ahh ok, thanks for explaining sweetie x

 

[francismummy]

DeCoy lol

The monitor gives you upto 5 extra fertile days rather than just 2 with the OPK's

X

 

[kates84]

I'm in the same situation.

My hubby came on here with my full knowledge to have a read around and after half an hour he turned to me and said "I couldn't bear it if you became like that"

A day later I had a panic attack (still not ovulating and I got so stressed that I just collapsed). Hubby now wants me to not come on here anymore, at least until my body is fixed.

A lot of the people who were here when I joined have moved on - many of them to first tri which is brilliant. I feel like the last turkey in the shop lol

Anyway, a break is a good thing. I'm going to be cutting it right down as sadly it sometimes doesn't help.

 

[mmlovepink]

francismummy - hehehe decoy indeed. ahh ok, i might buy a cbfm...sounds useful!

kates84 - yeah i agree coming on here can be extremely emotional and difficult especially when we see others move on to different boards. im sure your time will come hun! dont worry. that panic attack sounded pretty bad. take it easy. a break from here would be good. every once in a while i need a couples of weeks break just to step away from it all. i become so obsessed and then disappointment kicks in. its hard. stay strong

x

 

[Sparkles237]

Exactly the same here my OH thinks coming on here is a bad idea cos i do get upset and then feel down for the rest of the evening which then ruins our time together, he puts up with the fact i do ovulation tests and note everything down, his even put up with the fact of all the tests i'm having done and that his gotta go for a sperm test but he can't put up with me coming on here. His banned me coming on here when his not working or when we both have evenings free cos as his said "putting up with me after i've been on here is a nightmare" but i feel this is the only place i can come and feel "normal" even though it does get me upset

 

[Celesse]

My OH tries to ban me from watching One Born Every Minute. I get about half way through and then I start with the "I want another baby!!!"

Decoy sex is definatley the way to go. We have decoy sex all the time so OH can't really tell if I think I could possibly be fertile or if I'm just horny. That way he can get on and NTNP, or as he puts it "get lots of extra sex" and I can TTC.

 

[sarina53172]

Lol that is how i am when i watch that show i thnk i drive him nuts when ever i see a baby show or something he knows whats coming next lol i cant help it tho

 

[mmlovepink]

sparkles - yep, my oh just thinks this forum is bad for me but its slightly addictive because like you said, i can feel normal here. theres nowhere else to go. do you ever get breaks from here? i regularly take breaks just to calm down and its good for my relationship.

x

 

[lisa1980]

Me too!

I can't really win as he thinks that reading about the BFPs makes me sad, whilst reading stories of possible problems/mcs makes me paranoid, none of which exactly helps with TTC.

I kind of see what he means as sometimes it is hard to stay optimistic, but then I sometimes get a lot of comfort hearing about other people in the same situation, especially as we haven't told anyone about TT IRL so can't chat about it openly.

I don't know...I think that's why I often just read threads rather than post...just to not feel so alone in all of it, whilst trying not to get too obsessed (I've obviously completely failed at the 'not-getting-obsessed' bit )

Lisa x

 

[mmlovepink]

celesee - my oh banned me from watching the show from the second espisode lol i was in tears and asked him about having a baby all night. he must have been so annoyed. ive found that not watching it is better for my emotional state anyway!

i try to act as horny as i can. a lot of the time sex hurts, but i make it seem like im horny as a decoy. if he knows im using opks and planning things he wont be to happy. but i feel like its necessary, so...

i wonder how many other women are ttc behind their hubbies backs... while their hubby is either ntnp or not ttc at all..

 

[sarina53172]

We should make a post and see who else is in the same boat as all of us

 

[mmlovepink]

lol lisa im totally obsessed too, stay optimistic... we are all here for you - for advice and comfort!

x

 

[confuzzled]

my hubby doesnt mind as long as im happy! i kinda think this means he doesnt care as long as i dont bang on about it!
i only have one buddy so feel free to add me, i didnt think i wud be this fed up and fustrated by now its our 8th month and i just want it to happen now please! baby dust to allxx

 

[mmlovepink]

sarina, i agree, id really love to know whos ttc without their hubbies knowing. its kinda wrong but... im sure a lot of us do it

 

[sarina53172]

Confuzzle can u add me im not sure how to do that.

And mmlovepink i made a post =]

 

[KendraNoell]

I guess I'm one of the lucky ones... hubby wants a baby too and values the knowledge I get from here. As far as other girls' bfp.... it is what it is and I refuse to get upset about it because God willing my time will come too.

 

[mmlovepink]

confuzzled, id love to be your buddy. what cd are you on? im gonna add you as a friend
youre lucky your hubby is ok with the whole thing!

sarina - im gonna check out your post!

 

[Celesse]

I think men may feel a little rejected if they think the only reason we are having sex is for babies. They want to feel wanted for thier manly shagging skills!

 

[mmlovepink]

kendra, youre very lucky. it means you dont have to stress about trying to get your oh into bed at the right time!

celesse - haha manly shagging skills. yeah my oh told me at one point that he thinks i only want him for a baby... thats not entirely true! i guess they dont wanna feel used which is understandable... thats why im not telling him that im actively ttc

 

[KendraNoell]

Mmlovepink... I wish that was all true. We have other issues too and total lack of sex drive between both of us. Ugh.