myangel167
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So, maybe I'm just being dumb, but sometimes my husband talks about wanting to be a dad, and things he will do with our future kids, etc... and it makes me so happy/excited.
I know he wants to wait at least a year or so. maybe even up to 3 more years. BUT! randomly the other day his mom mentioned that him and i will be great parents and he said, "Nah, we aren't planning on ever having kids. We can just borrow our nieces and nephews if we ever feel like being parents"
Okay, so I was thinking he was just saying that in front of his mom for some reason....but later when I brought it up. He said that he was being honest and thats how he feels lately, and it made me super sad. I'm not asking for a baby now...even though I would love one. But him saying NO for the future really hurt me. I know things can change, so I shouldnt worry too much, but it still bums me out. I was thinking maybe he is saying that thinking that it will make me stop wanting a baby??
A little side note-I dont talk to him much about my baby fever. I dont want to freak him out with it. As much as I want a baby, I know its not the best timing right now, and I am willing to wait. So I'm not sure if he knows that my feelings are hurt by him saying that he never wants kids.
and another thing, if that really is how he feels, and he plans on sticking to that. I dont know what I'll do. I sorta feel destined to be a mom someday. I'm 25, and he is 27. this is the first ive heard of him absolutely NOT wanting children., and we have been together 6 years. (as of today, actually!) I love him to death, and I hope he is just going through some type of phase or something.
I know he wants to wait at least a year or so. maybe even up to 3 more years. BUT! randomly the other day his mom mentioned that him and i will be great parents and he said, "Nah, we aren't planning on ever having kids. We can just borrow our nieces and nephews if we ever feel like being parents"
Okay, so I was thinking he was just saying that in front of his mom for some reason....but later when I brought it up. He said that he was being honest and thats how he feels lately, and it made me super sad. I'm not asking for a baby now...even though I would love one. But him saying NO for the future really hurt me. I know things can change, so I shouldnt worry too much, but it still bums me out. I was thinking maybe he is saying that thinking that it will make me stop wanting a baby??
A little side note-I dont talk to him much about my baby fever. I dont want to freak him out with it. As much as I want a baby, I know its not the best timing right now, and I am willing to wait. So I'm not sure if he knows that my feelings are hurt by him saying that he never wants kids.
and another thing, if that really is how he feels, and he plans on sticking to that. I dont know what I'll do. I sorta feel destined to be a mom someday. I'm 25, and he is 27. this is the first ive heard of him absolutely NOT wanting children., and we have been together 6 years. (as of today, actually!) I love him to death, and I hope he is just going through some type of phase or something.