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I have just today decided that I want to renew our vows when we go to Lanzarote next year. It will just my DH and I on the holiday as it is our tenth wedding anniversary whilst we are away.
This is where we are staying from the 7th to the 14th August https://www.firstchoice.co.uk/holiday/accommodation/overview/Puerto-Calero/Hotel-Costa-Calero-017883
The reason I am starting this journal so early and when I have a) no plans in place and b) no idea how to even begin with them? It is a complete secret from my DH and I an awful at keeping secrets
We have discussed wedding vow renewals before so I know he would like to but I also know he will have no idea that I am doing this.
For those of you that don't know us here is our story spoilered
So that brings us to now and I am sure you can see why I would want to celebrate our love, how far we have come and all that jazz.
Our wedding day wasn't exactly what I wanted, I mean we married in a registry office which I didn't mind (I have a thing about churches and hating the smell
) and then had the reception in my parents garden, a BBQ and buffet. Again the relaxed theme was to my liking. However, we ended up with over 100 guests when we wanted something small and intimate 
MIL kept inviting family friends etc, BIL demanded to have his GF of one month there, neighbours invited themselves I spent much of the day before making buffet food (on the plus side I got to eat lots of strawberries dipped in chocolate before I put them in the fridge ) and spent most of the actual day chasing round after other people and I think I kissed my new husband all of twice.
Having said all of that, I did love it. I do look back on it fondly, it might of not been my ideal wedding day (that isn't possible in this country any way for reasons you will read in a bit) but it was our wedding day, the day I become married to the love of my life, my sole mate. We also had the cutest little page boy ever (he even had the rings tied to his trousers with ribbon
) and I was so relieved that he was there with us.
My ideal wedding day has always been on the beach which is why it wasn't possible, because you're not allowed our door ceremonies in England I think, and travelling abroad or to Scotland wasn't an option as I wanted to share the day with my remaining grandparents (both of whom have died now, one eight months after we married and one year eleven months later). So a renewal abroad makes this possible
in my head I have a vision of me, DH and the person performing the renewal on a beach at sunset.
That is about as far as I have got for plans. I don't know where to begin or what to do but I do know I am going to enjoy the planning and savour it, as I never had it before really.
This is where we are staying from the 7th to the 14th August https://www.firstchoice.co.uk/holiday/accommodation/overview/Puerto-Calero/Hotel-Costa-Calero-017883
The reason I am starting this journal so early and when I have a) no plans in place and b) no idea how to even begin with them? It is a complete secret from my DH and I an awful at keeping secrets
We have discussed wedding vow renewals before so I know he would like to but I also know he will have no idea that I am doing this.
For those of you that don't know us here is our story spoilered
We met when I was 17 and Matt was 19, we were engaged within six weeks. Seventeen days before my nineteenth birthday our first baby was born, Morgan, he was 7lb 5 at 36 weeks. We were induced because of pre-eclampsia. Then six weeks later he ended up in hospital with meningitis, it was terrifying. Six weeks after that we got married.
15 months after Morgan was born in July 2005 we had Naomi-Mae, born at 37 weeks and weighing 7lb 14. In early 2007 we discovered I was over twenty weeks pregnant with our third, in March at 28+6 my waters broke all over the sofa, one of the most scariest moments of my life. We went into hospital and it was confirmed, I ended up with a failed induction at 29+1 and then eventually (due to medical negligence) she was born sleeping at 36+6 on the 16th May 2007. Honey weighed 5lb 11. Pretty soon we tried for another baby, and so at 39+6 361 days after her big sister Kaysie Blossom was born via emergency section due to her distress. She weighed 6lb 13.
I wanted KB to have an earth sibling close in age like her brother and sister, so we began NTNP right away, my first miscarriage in August 2008 meant we moved on to TTC. We had six more miscarriages over the next two years and then in November 2011 I got pregnant again. I was terrified, days before Christmas I saw 'Bubbles' heartbeat for the first time. Everything seemed great. At 16 weeks I was taken off the medication I was on and this is when things started to go wrong, by 21 weeks she was under the 3rd centile, ten days later under the first and was fighting for her life. A scan at 24+1 showed she had grown her wings. Riley Rae was born sleeping at 24+3 on the 15th April 2011 weighing a teeny tiny 340 grams (roughly what a nineteen weeker weighs).
We've gone on to have seven more miscarriages.
15 months after Morgan was born in July 2005 we had Naomi-Mae, born at 37 weeks and weighing 7lb 14. In early 2007 we discovered I was over twenty weeks pregnant with our third, in March at 28+6 my waters broke all over the sofa, one of the most scariest moments of my life. We went into hospital and it was confirmed, I ended up with a failed induction at 29+1 and then eventually (due to medical negligence) she was born sleeping at 36+6 on the 16th May 2007. Honey weighed 5lb 11. Pretty soon we tried for another baby, and so at 39+6 361 days after her big sister Kaysie Blossom was born via emergency section due to her distress. She weighed 6lb 13.
I wanted KB to have an earth sibling close in age like her brother and sister, so we began NTNP right away, my first miscarriage in August 2008 meant we moved on to TTC. We had six more miscarriages over the next two years and then in November 2011 I got pregnant again. I was terrified, days before Christmas I saw 'Bubbles' heartbeat for the first time. Everything seemed great. At 16 weeks I was taken off the medication I was on and this is when things started to go wrong, by 21 weeks she was under the 3rd centile, ten days later under the first and was fighting for her life. A scan at 24+1 showed she had grown her wings. Riley Rae was born sleeping at 24+3 on the 15th April 2011 weighing a teeny tiny 340 grams (roughly what a nineteen weeker weighs).
We've gone on to have seven more miscarriages.
So that brings us to now and I am sure you can see why I would want to celebrate our love, how far we have come and all that jazz.
Our wedding day wasn't exactly what I wanted, I mean we married in a registry office which I didn't mind (I have a thing about churches and hating the smell
) and then had the reception in my parents garden, a BBQ and buffet. Again the relaxed theme was to my liking. However, we ended up with over 100 guests when we wanted something small and intimate MIL kept inviting family friends etc, BIL demanded to have his GF of one month there, neighbours invited themselves I spent much of the day before making buffet food (on the plus side I got to eat lots of strawberries dipped in chocolate before I put them in the fridge ) and spent most of the actual day chasing round after other people and I think I kissed my new husband all of twice. Having said all of that, I did love it. I do look back on it fondly, it might of not been my ideal wedding day (that isn't possible in this country any way for reasons you will read in a bit) but it was our wedding day, the day I become married to the love of my life, my sole mate. We also had the cutest little page boy ever (he even had the rings tied to his trousers with ribbon
) and I was so relieved that he was there with us. My ideal wedding day has always been on the beach which is why it wasn't possible, because you're not allowed our door ceremonies in England I think, and travelling abroad or to Scotland wasn't an option as I wanted to share the day with my remaining grandparents (both of whom have died now, one eight months after we married and one year eleven months later). So a renewal abroad makes this possible
in my head I have a vision of me, DH and the person performing the renewal on a beach at sunset. That is about as far as I have got for plans. I don't know where to begin or what to do but I do know I am going to enjoy the planning and savour it, as I never had it before really.
xx
Or maybe even a night at another hotels honeymoon suite, hmmmm. Will think. 
Where are you all going?
