My sisters pregnant too and not sure how I feel

[BrittRashel]

I completely feel your pain. My sister is the same way. She feels like she always has to one up me. She got engaged 2 weeks after I did (after telling me that she didn't want to get married a month before that) then when my wedding was over, she convinced our Dad to literally double her budget so she could have a nicer wedding than mine. She got pregnant because I got pregnant with my son and then was mad because she had a boy and couldn't give my Dad the first granddaughter. When I told her that I was pregnant with this baby and that DS said he really wanted a little sister, she said, "Oh no, you have to have a boy because I'm going to have the first girl." Even though she knows I want a girl and that this is our last baby.

I just finally stopped trying where she was concerned. It actually makes me sad because I would love to have a closer relationship with her but her competitiveness is just too much for me because I have no desire to play that game. Unfortunately, you can't win with those kind of people. I would just put your distance between your family and her. Don't let her steal your excitement. Enjoy your pregnancy and when she tries to compete just ignore her. She's being petty and it's really sad that she feels so insecure that she is going to use her unborn child as a pawn.

 

[Blu10]

Well brittrachel..... I really hope you're on team pink!!!! Lol 😁

 

[SumitaSofat]

You are thinking negative. Just let it be and everything will be good afterward. You should not think like it competition. Let it be friendly. Good Luck

 

[xdxxtx]

At first, I was going to defend her, stating that I got pregnant while using condoms when my sister was pregnant, but instead, I think your sister sounds a lot like mine. When I told my sister I was trying for a baby, she called and made an appointment with a fertility specialist to get pregnant first. Then, when I got pregnant just 2 months after that, she stopped taking her fertility meds so they'd give her stronger things so she could get pregnant with twins. My child was born before she had a sticky bean, but then she was convinced she would have the first granddaughter (oops, my third baby is the first granddaughter) and now that I'm pregnant a fourth time, she's going to the fertility specialist again to try and outdo me.

I get so angry!!! I understand what you're going through here. It is LIFE! Not a competition!!! It is disgusting that people make it out to be that. I've always wanted a big family, but I've had two surprise pregnancies - my second using condoms and my third on the pill - not trying to outdo anybody but just trying to create the family I've always wanted. And I am a stay at home parent and give my kids all my attention and love, not just have them to try and make a statement. Ugh. Unfortunately, it's only gotten worse with my sister trying to train her child to be like my oldest (my oldest son is the super smart and extremely muscular and a real charmer). She's always trying to train her child to do anything my son can do and even rehearses with him to get him to say the same things as my son.

WEIRDO.

Good luck with your sis. If she's anything like mine, you might as well move away and change your names to get away from her!!! Ha, not really, but maybe it's an option. ;-)

 

[PCL]

Thanks everyone for your input. I do see how it could be difficult being in the other side as well. It's not like I would expect for to never get pregnant but it's the circumstances. I tried to talk to her about it and was trying to explain that I don't want it to become a competition and she completely exploded at me.

I've just distanced myself from her, it is sad but I literally can't take it. It's been an ongoing thing for many years and when I see her she always makes me upset and says horrible things to me. I've decided now it's not just me I have to take care of so I can't be around that negativity. I'd like to say that it hasn't ruined my excitement for my own pregnancy but it has.