Im fairly new here and would like to share my story with you all...
I had my first mmc in april 2007 which was a complete shock to us all, i then fell pregnant again in april 2009. We found out we were having a baby girl and treated her to some lovely pink bits on the day that we found out.
When i turned 22+6 weeks, out of the blue my membranes fell out and i was rushed to hospital where they told me i was in labour and they would do nothing to help my little girl when she arrived. The labour lasted 2.5 hours and she was born alive despite the doctors already telling us that she was dead. She sadly grew her wings after 10mins, however them ten minutes were the best moment of my life and we spent the rest of the day with her taking lots of photos and talking to her. We had to fight to get a birth certificate and unfortunatly a death certificate. We had her cremated and she came home with us. She was sent for a posrt mortem which came back clear, there was absolutly nothing wrong with our little girl! The doctors put it down to having an IC and they would consider placing a stitch in if needed in further pregnancies.
Then we had a shock and found out that i was again pregnant only just 8weeks after losing our little girl. We were both scared but again excited at the thought of having another baby, it was such a nervous time for us all. We found out we were having a boy this time and had extra scans and was taken extra care off. Although at my 16week scan the doctor said my cervix was at a good length and they wouldnt put a stitch in, but then when i was 22+2 days i was taken to hospital where they told me i was again going into labour,, my whole world fell apart that day,, history was repeating itself all over again! However little man was holding on tight. After being in labour for 4 days, he still hadnt arrived and everyday of him being inside me was an extra day of hope. I had a scan which reaveled his foot was now hanging out and i was 4cm dilated, this was it we all thought, but he still didnt want to come and the next day i was transferd to a hospital that had a level 3 nicu, we fought to get there and they agreed to help jacob despite how early he was going to be. Jacob still held on for another 3days and then finally after being in labour for 8days jacob was born at 23+3 weeks, weighing 1lb 2oz and was taken straight away to be ventilated. He fought so so hard and proved all the doctors wrong! He went through numerous operations and blood transfusions and fought off a handful of different infections. Each day he was getting stronger and was a day closer to coming home. He eventually came home after being in hospital for 5months. We were ready to start our family at long last, but then after being home only nearly 4weeks jacob passed away with no reason what so ever! He has been sent for a post mortem which we are still waiting for the results for and he is due to be cremated in a few weeks where he will join his big sister and become a baby angel. We have been told that him passing away has nothing to do with how early he was born, but i just cant get over the fact that he fought so hard to stay here, only for him to become an angel so soon after coming home.
We have again been told that in future pregnancies i will have a stitch put in place,, has anyone else got a similar story to mine? or has had to have a stitch put in?
Sorry for the long story but thankyou for taking the time to read it.
I had my first mmc in april 2007 which was a complete shock to us all, i then fell pregnant again in april 2009. We found out we were having a baby girl and treated her to some lovely pink bits on the day that we found out.
When i turned 22+6 weeks, out of the blue my membranes fell out and i was rushed to hospital where they told me i was in labour and they would do nothing to help my little girl when she arrived. The labour lasted 2.5 hours and she was born alive despite the doctors already telling us that she was dead. She sadly grew her wings after 10mins, however them ten minutes were the best moment of my life and we spent the rest of the day with her taking lots of photos and talking to her. We had to fight to get a birth certificate and unfortunatly a death certificate. We had her cremated and she came home with us. She was sent for a posrt mortem which came back clear, there was absolutly nothing wrong with our little girl! The doctors put it down to having an IC and they would consider placing a stitch in if needed in further pregnancies.
Then we had a shock and found out that i was again pregnant only just 8weeks after losing our little girl. We were both scared but again excited at the thought of having another baby, it was such a nervous time for us all. We found out we were having a boy this time and had extra scans and was taken extra care off. Although at my 16week scan the doctor said my cervix was at a good length and they wouldnt put a stitch in, but then when i was 22+2 days i was taken to hospital where they told me i was again going into labour,, my whole world fell apart that day,, history was repeating itself all over again! However little man was holding on tight. After being in labour for 4 days, he still hadnt arrived and everyday of him being inside me was an extra day of hope. I had a scan which reaveled his foot was now hanging out and i was 4cm dilated, this was it we all thought, but he still didnt want to come and the next day i was transferd to a hospital that had a level 3 nicu, we fought to get there and they agreed to help jacob despite how early he was going to be. Jacob still held on for another 3days and then finally after being in labour for 8days jacob was born at 23+3 weeks, weighing 1lb 2oz and was taken straight away to be ventilated. He fought so so hard and proved all the doctors wrong! He went through numerous operations and blood transfusions and fought off a handful of different infections. Each day he was getting stronger and was a day closer to coming home. He eventually came home after being in hospital for 5months. We were ready to start our family at long last, but then after being home only nearly 4weeks jacob passed away with no reason what so ever! He has been sent for a post mortem which we are still waiting for the results for and he is due to be cremated in a few weeks where he will join his big sister and become a baby angel. We have been told that him passing away has nothing to do with how early he was born, but i just cant get over the fact that he fought so hard to stay here, only for him to become an angel so soon after coming home.
We have again been told that in future pregnancies i will have a stitch put in place,, has anyone else got a similar story to mine? or has had to have a stitch put in?
Sorry for the long story but thankyou for taking the time to read it.
I lost my girl due to IC at just 21 weeks. This time round I have had a mcdonald stitch placed at 13.5 weeks under general anesthetic. So far it has held. I am so sorry you had two traumatic losses, If you want to know anything about the stitch then please just message me xx
And if it was IC, they wouldnt have been able to hold off my labour for that entire week with my baby boy.....
